Assuming you are asking this in good faith - which doesn’t make it appropriate, but we’ll get to that in a minute:
1. No, lesbians are not exclusively women, and this has never been the case. A great deal of lesbian writing going back decades upon decades posits lesbian as a separate gender - certainly we are not nor have ever been seen by society at large as “proper and correct women.”
1a. My gender is butch lesbian. The end.
2. Pronouns aren’t gender. Also, see above.
2a. He/Him, They/Them and neopronouns as pronouns for butch lesbians (who consider themselves women or any other gender) has at least a hundred years of history behind it, as does butch lesbians referring to themselves as Husband or Daddy.
2b. Have you read Stone Butch Blues? Like, ever? Leslie Feinberg (z’‘l) was not a woman. Zie made that very clear over decades.
3. And this is the most important, so I need you to listen
very very closely:
ACAB INCLUDES POLICING OTHER PEOPLE’S IDENTITIES.
I hope that clears things up for you, as other people’s identities are not matters for debate or for you to police. I am setting a firm end to this conversation; I will not engage further with you on it. If you would like to request more information from someone on gender theory and lesbianism to clear up your very clearly lacking education, including me, ask about the theory and don’t involve the other person’s identity.
Once you’ve read Stone Butch Blues -
which is free online by the terms of the author’s last wishes - if you’d like to return and discuss the long history of gender variance and gender freedom within the lesbian community, you may do so. But - and I’m totally serious - I’m not talking with you about this again until you’ve read
at least that one totally free book and killed the cop in your head that makes you think you can come into someone’s inbox and … do this.
Would you walk up to someone on the street and say this? If so, who raised you? If not, why do you think it’s okay to do to someone online?
