Necroing this thread to give you my findings as I was digging through this community or identity or whatever. Watching TikTok compilations of people who identify as nonbinary, I very rarely, if ever, see anyone talk about being nonbinary is "liberating" or lets them embrace personal fashion in a way that allows for them to be more aesthetically versatile or gender nonconforming. I still probably wouldn't like it, but it would at least make a bit more sense than just being a "gender label". I'd probably just chalk it up to difference of taste. The they/them part could probably be hand waved as just something they use because trying to navigate whether or not the person is male or female at a glance is probably something that would be difficult to do so they use it as a convenience label to make things easier.
This would all make sense, but the problem is being nonbinary isn't about making sense to the grand majority of these people. It feels more like people use it as a bullying or manipulation tactic to gain power over regular people. It feels more like a bunch of validation gluttons identify with it because it's the new wave and it's considered brave. How do I know this? Look up any tiktok compilation and look at how many people bitch about being called male or female. There's no empathy at all for anyone in their tiktoks. They clearly are emotionally blackmailing people into making people feel bad about themselves.
I don't know, is that a TikTok thing? Or is that essentially how the nonbinary community's built?