- Joined
- Nov 20, 2019
I think many people miss the first step of "being yourself" which is "find out who you really are." It's contradictory to accept your values from someone else. Your true values and interests can only come from within yourself.I’ve found over the last several years that pursuing your own interests and not worrying too much about who it attracts or repels (of either sex) is really the best course in life.
Do you like doing A or B? Then go do A or B, and stop worrying about whether or not it will attract friends of your own sex or potential partners from the opposite sex. If people were just themselves more, I feel like those who naturally mesh better together, whether as friends or as partners, would naturally find each other.
It’s cliche, but “being yourself” really is the best way to approach life. Something I truly hope “pick-me” girls and their male equivalents can discover someday. You shouldn’t have to change who you are and try to ‘serve’ someone else just for friendship/romantic relationships.
It's the main problem with pickmes. They don't know who they are, they don't care to know themselves. They only want to be what they think a man would like, which will always feel artifical and hollow compared to a genuine person.