Anyone who calls themselves an incel is a pathetic loser.
Being a sad virgin is one thing. And it's not the end of the world if you actually try to better yourself. If you put efforts into making something out of yourself you can be proud of, someone will eventually see it.
Being an incel is pretty much the same thing as being a sad virgin, except for the silver lining. It's a pathetic perpetual pity party you throw for yourself where everyone else is to blame, one that cannot be overcame. Which is utter bullshit.
I have zero pity for incels. They deliberately decided to foster their ill adjusted ways to justify their failure. It's a self fulfilling prophecy I have no interest in hearing about.
I blame the internet, in part. But ultimately, it's up to the individual to realize that nothing in life comes easy, even if it appears to you differently when you look at others. People are not out to get you, chad and stacy barely exist in real life unless you are truly looking for examples to confirm your pre established biases.
Make your bed, earn money, do sport, have hobbies and stfu. Don't shoot for 10s if you have no confidence and fear rejection, don't self sabotage. Easy enough.