A good indication of this is that the most popular romance option for female Baldur's Gate 3 players which is Astarion the effeminate vampire spawn who is an utter scumbag. He lies constantly to you, he manipulates you, in his bad ending which he becomes a vampire lord he basically turns you into his sex slave and refuses to let you leave. Yet women LOVE him. "He has such a tragic backstory!", "He is so witty and clever!", "God I love him!". It is funny as the other male romances like Gale and Wyll treat your character like a queen if you romance them but no, women want the abusive dirtbag.