Off-Topic Losing people to transgenderism support thread - Support group for trans widows and other people who lost loved ones to troonism

[TheTDman]

This is what I was expecting - this is sadly very common. I know someone else who declared bankruptcy due to being a moron, and when I found out what the details were, it turned out it was not that much money ($30K). You can turn that around in consumer spending debt within a couple of years if you play your cards right, pursue more lucrative career paths and make lifestyle changes, but that's anathema to how these people think.

Lmao boy did he pick a lifestyle change alight. God knows how much he must of blown on girl stuff (and i honestly don't want to know lol), but I'm sure it wasn't cheap knowing him.

 

[AfghanBlue]

Sounds like she wanted to quit and the "misgendering" gave her an excuse to do it in a way where she'd get asspats for leaving.

It would be quite funny to play dumb sometime someone was sperging about misgendering and innocently working the term 'mistergendered' into proceedings somehow.
Just for the trolololols, yk.

 

[namvata]

So I have this cousin who I haven't talked to since 2020 because she went off the deep end for the saint floyd fiasco, last contact I had with her was when she sent me and my mother a long winded schizophrenic diatribe about how we are evil white racists and we must repent for the crime of being white, evil, and racist because we didn't attend the local fentanyl floyd rallies like we were supposed to (this all literally came out of nowhere btw). Since that point, my mother has ignored her but left comms open in case of an emergency (this bitch and her dad are fucking parasites who can never do anything themselves and rely on everyone else for help) meanwhile I straight up blocked her on everything because I couldn't stand to watch her spiral into insanity any longer. Anyways, today my poor poor mother, out of nowhere, again, gets another long winded text from her. This new diatribe revealing that her old name is "dead" and she is now a heckin wholesome valid trans xister, and not only that, but she is totally on board with every single radlib stance on earth (land back, fuck white people, blah blah blah), if you see parentheses that's just me adding context

Spoiler: buckle the fuck up for this one

"Hello, this is [retarded new name]. No longer, [old name] that person is dead (when I first read this I thought she committed suicide or smth, I had to read it over again to make sure). I have come with another message, to say, I am heavily disappointed in you. You're the worst family member I know, and your political/human rights views have always been horrid to me. Your evangelical Christian bullshit I was raised on (our grandfather was a pastor but somehow our Christian upbringing is my mom's fault because reasons), I am undoing within my soul. Your insecurities made me hate myself growing up, and I am glad to forever be far away from you. It would take many years for me to trust and love you again, because I don't and haven't since 2020. I am for freeing Palestine, Sudan, Congo, Haiti, Yemen, any other country facing genocide by our country. I am not Democrat or Republican, just a human being. I am ashamed I used to use your language about trans people, because now I am trans myself, and proud of it. I am also for giving Indigenous people their land back, and they will have it back one day. I don't believe in your god, and I am ashamed I did for so long. Father (her deadbeat loser dad, who she lives with, who has another kid that he hasn't seen for years and hasn't paid child support for either) isn’t all good himself, but I am glad he raised me left politically, and with a human heart. We’re the black sheeps of the family, and proud of it. I hope you realize how horrible you are one day, how you abused [me] and I, as children. “If [me] cries, I make sure [old name] cries too.” (because she would fuck with me as a little kid and make me cry, and then my mom would call her out on it and then she'd cry because she got caught)

Trust, my mother has never left my side, and is deeply ashamed of you as well (her mother is dead, was a great friend of my mother's, and gave her the name that she has gotten rid of). Believe me or not, I am sending you this to show you my growth, and still not apologizing for calling you out for being racist in 2020. You’re a 50 year old woman, who decided to take my message, and throw it into a pity-party group chat (to show everyone that you're an insane backstabbing psycho cunt). Someone calling you out on your bullshit and bigotry, isn’t “bad behavior” it’s seeing the colonizer that is happily living within you, and wanting to dismantle it from the roots. I am deeply disappointed in this family, for your bigotry, racism, elitism, and misogyny. You’re a misogynistic “pick me” woman, as you’ve tried to teach me how to get men to like me more, growing up. Telling me that you hate your period, made me hate my period, but now I welcome my cycles with love. I have learned to love myself wholeheartedly without you, as you’re a person full of insecurity and hatred. I have big, happy community now (she doesn't, she's terminally online and spends all her time on fucking politigram). I hope you heal from your insidious wounds, and know that my mom didn’t wanna be buried with her last name either, for the same exact reasons I don’t. You’re all just like the [white trash side of family] to me, just covert (this is ironic because the side of the family she's naming are lazy white trash parasites who can't keep a job and rely on everyone else for help without bringing anything to the table, just like her and her dad!). Have a happy life though, with your awful mindset. I feel bad for [me], he always deserved a better mother."

She also sent another diatribe similar to this to my uncle about how he needs to respect xer new pronouns and name (which I will edit into this post later) right after he just spent 30 FUCKING GRAND of his own money to fix their piece of shit house that reeks of fucking dog piss (pitmommy moment) so they could keep the insurance on it.
[green=my uncle, black=her, red&green=other, pink=my mom.] For some reason she keeps calling my mom ruth despite that not being her name, not sure what that's about lol

I love the insinuation here that my mom is puppet mastering everyone in my family to not like her, as if her own neurotic behavior couldn't be the cause (obviously not, she's never done anything wrong in her life, it's everyone else that's the problem!)

Mind you, this girl used to be like a sister to me, and it still kinda pains me that I not only had to see her spiral into insanity, but then years later refuse to learn from her mistakes, and develop into a bitter resentful cunt who blames everyone else for her shortcomings, all mostly directed at my poor mother because she was the only fucking person in her life who made an effort to make sure she didn't turn out like her deadbeat loser father. Since she was a kid my mom tried making her go to counseling (which I went to as well) because she could tell something wasn't right, and she was never made to go, biggest mistake ever. It really didn't have to end like this. I still pray that someone in her life finally intervenes and gets her the help she desperately needs, specifically she needs to be put on medication because the way she writes and posts on her social media strikes me as the writings of a schizophrenic.

 

[YourFriendlyLurker 2.0]

So I have this cousin who I haven't talked to since 2020 because she went off the deep end for the saint floyd fiasco,

You and your mom (your mom especially because elder women tend to be softies in those questions), need to block her and cut all ties. It's a fanatic who is in a cult and there's nothing to be done here. She and her crazy ramblings are not worthy your nerves and time. She proclaimed herself dead? Perhaps, the girl you knew once really is.

 

[namvata]

You and your mom (your mom especially because elder women tend to be softies in those questions), need to block her and cut all ties

oh trust me, we already did, hell I cut off ties with her 3 years ago, but my mom left the line open just in case an emergency happened and they needed her help. But after this little episode today she completely cut her off and blocked her number, and then sent it to everyone in our family (including her piece of shit dad) so everyone can see what's become of her.

 

[Flaming_Barghast]

oh trust me, we already did, hell I cut off ties with her 3 years ago, but my mom left the line open just in case an emergency happened and they needed her help. But after this little episode today she completely cut her off and blocked her number, and then sent it to everyone in our family (including her piece of shit dad) so everyone can see what's become of her.

Well don't leave us hangin. Did the dad respond?

 

[namvata]

Well don't leave us hangin. Did the dad respond?

no, he's a pussy ass deadbeat loser who won't say shit, my mom only included him in the gc to let him feel shame for what a dipshit he "raised". Hell I'm guessing he actively facilitates this behavior

What sucks is that many of the friends I had growing up, I knew through her, and after making my post here I let them all know that I have nothing to do with this cunt or any of her inane retarded bullshit and haven't for 3+ years at this point, and all of them have gotten back to me saying that she's fucking insane and they haven't talked to her either. Feels like the weight of the world has been lifted off my shoulders to finally break the silence like that, let alone have everyone tell me that I am indeed not the one who has gone insane. I'm set to go turn up a pint and play pool with them next saturday, all is good.

 

[Snack Cracker]

I’m venting to get this out there:

My ex husband is a child predator (complete with CPS involvement, but you know they go on he said she said stuff), and a porn sick fetishist that enjoyed wearing women’s underwear under male clothes.
He is a furry that likes gay fur porn, he’s an addict that burned all of his old friend group, so what does a guy do nowadays?

Transition of course!
It happened after we divorced, but I was barely able to hold back my disgust and rage when I saw him in public in a horrible wig clomping around in heels with his crimson chin jaw (which looked nice on a man, but wow that’s working against him now),

Now he gets a new life and new community where no one knows him or his past predatory behavior with prepubescent children.
And of course, his name is Alice. ALICE.
Oppressed classes can’t do any wrong and can be sex predators all they want!

Haven’t been able to find him on the Internet which is weird because I’m sure he’s involved in all sorts of shit, but he’s also been aware of opsec since before I knew what it was.

Alice, I hope you get everything you deserve, and I’m going to find you to keep tabs on you one day.

 

[Procrastinhater]

You and your mom (your mom especially because elder women tend to be softies in those questions), need to block her and cut all ties. It's a fanatic who is in a cult and there's nothing to be done here. She and her crazy ramblings are not worthy your nerves and time. She proclaimed herself dead? Perhaps, the girl you knew once really is.

Send her a length of that tranny colored rope for Christmas.
She'll get the message.

And of course, his name is Alice. ALICE.

Holy shit lmfao thats priceless.
I have nothing but sympathy for anyone who went through the fucked up situation you have, he sounds like he should be in a fucking cell.
Or a box.
Alice should get the same Christmas gift.
That troon colored rope is the perfect gift for trannies.
I can't believe the person who makes and is selling it isn't secretly a based transphobic troll, it's just too perfect.

 

[AfghanBlue]

Alice should get the same Christmas gift.
That troon colored rope is the perfect gift for trannies.
I can't believe the person who makes and is selling it isn't secretly a based transphobic troll, it's just too perfect.

Alas, sadly optimistic.
Remember- whenever the question of 'why' comes up with troons- it will be some fetish shit.
this will defo be some bdsm tie up rope shit. to dig into a fat hogs bod. probably why the price ranges from $ 15 to 40- becasue there will be different amounts to by for skinny model dylan mulvaney troons, to fat classic kevin gibes troons.

Sidenote, only time i dont downvote troon comments on reddit etc, is when they happen to be standing at 41. sometimes i'll upvote them if they are on 40.
I have a feeling a lot of people do this, because i see that number a lot.

 

[NerdShamer]

Alas, sadly optimistic.
Remember- whenever the question of 'why' comes up with troons- it will be some fetish shit.
this will defo be some bdsm tie up rope shit. to dig into a fat hogs bod.

Can't go wrong with tying it into an noose, beforehand

 

[booklover]

this is basically the crux of transgenderism, in my experience. they are people who hurt on the inside for any number of reasons and believe that transitioning is the only thing that can actually help them. it's essentially a trauma response. is it any wonder that trans people are so vindictive and quick to lash out considering that?

almost every trans person I've met in real life comes from a broken home -- divorce, domestic abuse, whatever. i thought it was just a me thing at first but after reading a bit of this thread it seems like a more global problem than I'd anticipated.

In the late 1970s, Ted Kaczynski inquired about gender reassignment. He was refused this service.

In the very early stages of the social rot, I worked with a pooner. Started as a soft butch lesbian, in a relationship with another pooner with EDS...

EDS? Do you mean Ehlers-Danlos syndrome? Those people are often trainwrecks as well.

 

[Tangled Headphones]

Don't even know what to say. Youngest siblings former bff is trooning, already on hrt.
"Idk what to say when she tells me she was always this way, and this is her true self" I have no idea what to tell her because it's not like she can do anything other than affirm without losing the friendship. They've been friends for years, she was not "always like this" She was a normal girl.
Though, a year ago or so her parents found her yaoi manga and kicked her out for bringing evil into their house (they're christians)
I feel like that reaction pushed her further towards the "accepting" LGBT cult.
Idk I wish I had some advice for my sibling and it's just sad to see.

 

[Easterling]

Haven't seen this thread before but I thought I'd share my story. My friend transitioned before I originally met them. she's a female to male although she didn't pass very well. It was only after I was introduced and properly acquainted that I knew she was a pooner. We got on surprisingly well, shared similar interests, memes shit like that. She's not left-wing or politically insufferable and has openly admitted to me that she's are aware she will never be a man. A great deal of my personal experience of transgenderism comes from her and to put it bluntly she was either a basket case or an attention seeker to the highest degree. Calls in the middle of night with suicide threats, claims to hear voices or have hallucinations, split personality that have all conveniently gone away now. It was that last one that sealed the deal for me in all honesty. Over the years I've distanced myself from her and have recently cut off all ties, not because of the attention seeking but because I cant bear to see someone I considered a good friend become a suicide statistic and say I stood by and supported the very cause of it, confrontation and suggestions that she was never trans would be met with tears and denial. She even has a boyfriend, instead of saving up for a house or an apartment she's saving up to have her body butchered because she was sold a lie by a bunch of mentally ill rejects at the age of 16. I gave up, I stuck with my morals because I couldn't bear to lie to her anymore. I suppose this feels more like a confession if anything, you might ask why i have an issue with it now if we were friends from the get go, well, I grew up, I learned what transgenderism is and does to people and worse of all she did as well and is still going through with it because she see no other option.

 

[Aunt Carol]

Don't even know what to say. Youngest siblings former bff is trooning, already on hrt.
"Idk what to say when she tells me she was always this way, and this is her true self" I have no idea what to tell her because it's not like she can do anything other than affirm without losing the friendship.

This is a bad situation for your sister, but you have the benefit of all of this foreknowledge. Everything the pooner is going to do is something that's been posted a dozen times here or in the pooner thread or the Sideshows thread, and the pooner has no clue how predictable the meat grinder she's jumped into is.

You're feeling your sister's pain, and that's upsetting because you love your sister, but you need to take a moment to try to ignore emotion and assess your situation. You can't do anything to help the pooner; you're far enough removed that you'd just be a "transphobic adult" if you piped up.

Your focus is your sister. She's lost and hurting and looking for answers, and like you said, the pooner will only allow affirmation. This could be dangerous; someone looking for answers is talking to someone she used to respect and love, someone with the zeal of the convert.

So you've got to help your sister find answers, and keep her a shitlord. I don't know ages, but almost certainly pointing her at KF is a terrible choice. You can still crib answers and trends from here easily. Gosh, do you think Aiden was always a man, or did she hit puberty and have the universal female realization where you suddenly are no longer just a consciousness in a body but also a potential sex object, and everyone around you started looking at you differently? A girl in the 1990s might have a NLOG phase or wear baggy clothes while she figured things out in her own head or had an eating disorder; is this the same kind of thing but medicalized, so she'll never be able to pass this stage?

Etc., etc. There's plenty of discussion here about the fujo to FtM pipeline, too. If the pooner is being a "gay transman" and paradoxically acting more girly, note how feminine behaviors are only cool when someone non-female is doing them. Note how someone who's lost their family and their church would be attracted to an automatic "family." If your sister likes true crime, find her some documentaries about cults--not Waco or the People's Temple, because they focus on the end, but Rajneesh or the Moonies, something with love-bombing at the beginning.

 

[Rich Evans Simp]

For some reason she keeps calling my mom ruth despite that not being her name, not sure what that's about lol

I’m guessing your mom’s name is nothing close to Ruth and that no one has ever called her that. If so, this right here tells me your cousin is seriously mentally ill, like, needs to be under a doctor’s care with injectable meds type of ill.

 

[Baraadmirer]

For some reason she keeps calling my mom ruth despite that not being her name, not sure what that's about lol

She might be using it as a term of derision for being (presumably) white, kind of like how the go-to names for black people to make fun of are like Shaniqua.

 

[namvata]

I’m guessing your mom’s name is nothing close to Ruth and that no one has ever called her that. If so, this right here tells me your cousin is seriously mentally ill, like, needs to be under a doctor’s care with injectable meds type of ill.

well you called it! Just an update: after I alerted all her old friends that I haven't talked to her in 3 years, all my old friends (through her) hit me up with their horror stories. One of her friends from HS who she dated for like a week IN THE 9TH GRADE messaged me saying that last year she was basically stalking him, going up to his house and slipping letters under the door about how she thinks he's her soulmate, that she wants to kill herself, and that his mom is her mom (or some crazy shit). He ended up calling her friend and telling her to get my cousin to stop or else he was gonna file a restraining order.

she is 100% schizophrenic and needs to be on fucking medication, but sadly this cannot happen until she admits there is a problem, which may be never, so I'm just gonna cut her out of my life now because I don't need to deal with this shit. Hopefully she gets the help she needs instead of resorting to hurting herself or others, but knowing what I know now she may be on the path to doing so. Luckily she doesn't have access to firearms (but I do!), so at least I don't gotta worry about that.

Also my mom's name is not even remotely close to Ruth, that's not even her middle name.

She might be using it as a term of derision for being (presumably) white, kind of like how the go-to names for black people to make fun of are like Shaniqua.

Idk maybe, either that or it's an acronym for "racist something something something"?

 

[Wallace]

well you called it! Just an update: after I alerted all her old friends that I haven't talked to her in 3 years, all my old friends (through her) hit me up with their horror stories. One of her friends from HS who she dated for like a week IN THE 9TH GRADE messaged me saying that last year she was basically stalking him, going up to his house and slipping letters under the door about how she thinks he's her soulmate, that she wants to kill herself, and that his mom is her mom (or some crazy shit). He ended up calling her friend and telling her to get my cousin to stop or else he was gonna file a restraining order.

That sounds like BPD to me. It is really hard to help Cluster Bs, as they honestly do not think that they need the help.

 

[Lerias]

Used to know this guy, he was kind of autistic and is a huge train fan (surprise, he's British and goes to an art college too). Trooning out seems imminent, or maybe he's trooned out already? Here's the trooncord profile if you want to look at something extremely absurd today.


She/Her (unless using male avatars)... how on god's forsaken green earth does this make sense?
Yep, now I know how it feels to lose someone to transgenderism...