Off-Topic Losing people to transgenderism support thread - Support group for trans widows and other people who lost loved ones to troonism

[Baraadmirer]

She/Her (unless using male avatars)... how on god's forsaken green earth does this make sense?

You goddamn transphobe, how dare you not understand that this person is genderfluid?!

The more pressing matter is how he's simultaneously asexual and pansexual. Demiromantic is also stupid: you can only form a romantic relationship with someone after developing a strong emotional bond? What's standard romantic, then?

 

[Brain Power]

Well, it finally happened to me. I just got told that a former classmate I knew for 12+ years trooned out. He didn't have the typical danger signs, wasn't autistic or anime lover, and he was the smartest at everything except english, but still was really good at it. I haven't kept contact with him, so how did it even happen? Are unis that good at grooming even grown adults? We had an actual sperg classmate with a lot of potential red flags at high school and he somehow hasn't trooned AFAIK

 

[Scolopendra Dramatica]

Some spergs seem to be not only immune to the programming, but outright allergic to it. They truly are black and white about everything.

 

[Brain Power]

Some spergs seem to be not only immune to the programming, but outright allergic to it. They truly are black and white about everything.

Well, you can add me into that group! It's part of the reason I joined this site back then.
Small update, I found his troon name, it's exactly what I expected, and that's all I need to know he got groomed And of course the person that told me is calling me an intolerant bigot for giving my extremely honest opinion and constantly refusing the troon kool-aid (then why did she tell me if she knows how I see this kind of thing?), like that affects me at this point Does she know I was extremely close to pooning out as a teen, and that's why I react so badly to troonery shit? It's not bigotry, it's experience. In any case, I think she needs shock therapy with the SRS pics and troon threads at this site if she still thinks "it's all legit feeling bad bout their gender, so bad they an hero without gonad chop, u just don't get it cuz u autistic brain can't process different people and u have no friends bcuz of that!!".

 

[Kiislova]

Does she know I was extremely close to pooning out as a teen, and that's why I react so badly to troonery shit?

How was that? Why?
And how did you break out of it? I'm genuinely curious

 

[Brain Power]

How was that? Why?
And how did you break out of it? I'm genuinely curious

I think that's better for the scrambled eggs thread. That part of my life is a little blurred out from not wanting to remember it, putting everything in a coherent way is gonna take some time.
You know, when the gendershit started getting trendier than ever, I started having constant nightmares about people I knew trooning out and trying to drag me into their cult. I never thought that at least a part of those nightmares would become reality

 

[Kiislova]

scrambled eggs thread.

I didn't even knew the thread existed. Thanks for the tip

 

[indomitable snowman]

A few things to get off my chest.

I had a friend from middleschool and highschool that I lost touch with after graduating and is now transgender. I wouldn't say I lost him to transgenderism as I stopped talking to him long before that. Anyway t was a strange slow change I observed that I wish I knew now what I knew then.
In college he was in ROTC to join the army. While there he met a Korean woman who became his girlfriend. Soon after he started posting about racism and made a hard left turn. This was shocking to me as he had grown up in a very conservative family. Before he would make jokes about Obama being a foreign Muslim and posted dumb patriotic stuff. For some reason comments he made on facebook pages would occasionally pop up in my feed. From that I learned he had become an unironic supporter of Juche. I thought that was a joke at first (he was 3edgy5me sometimes), but he posted more and more on tankie and Juche facbook groups. I even saw a comment that his girlfriend's grandparents were traitors for leaving North Korea, wild.
Anyway, not sure when, but he dropped out of that college and ROTC. I don't know if he actually served in the military (someone let me know what sort of commitment ROTC is)
He went to another school at some point and moved the the PNW. Once there I started seeing posts literally about tranny/femboy programming socks as well as his Juche support and soon after he unfriended basically everyone on facebook. Curious, I found the county court records showing he he married his Korean girlfriend then couple years later they divorced. Soon after that I saw he changed his name (think Lary to Luna). I found his new FB and can see from the profile picture he's now trans. Over filter photos, bad makeup and a choker necklace.

I have another friend who is male, came out as bisexual a couple years ago and now appears to be engaged in a FTM. She looks like a pooner in some of the pictures.

And I just found out my married lesbian sister on one of her social media accounts that she goes by she/they.

 

[LinkinParkxNaruto[AMV]]

She/Her (unless using male avatars)... how on god's forsaken green earth does this make sense?

videogame logic. These people have a tenuous grasp on reality even before trooning.

 

[Sissyagamben]

Korean woman

Side way strange, not even once.

 

[Rich Evans Ayypologist]

She/Her (unless using male avatars)... how on god's forsaken green earth does this make sense?

On erotic roleplaying websites, you can make several different profiles which have different genders.
And obviously, with Discord, you can swap around your profile picture ad infinitum if you paypiggy for the retarded permavirgin furries that work there. There are many ERP/grooming discords.

If tumblr was a breeding ground for this in the 2010s, I suspect in the 2020s the erotic roleplaying, uh, 'scene,' is the source of the brainrot.

 

[Capper Mizellus]

Catching up on the posts reminds me of why I only read this thread once every few months. How incredibly fucking depressing.

I've come to the damning realization that the religious fundamentalists I scoffed at as a teenager were right about everything this entire time.

Also @Beige did you ever pull the girlfriend aside? If so, how did it go? Your story filled me with disgust but I also laughed at how she basically did this to herself and then stewed in her own misery because apparently ruining your own life is preferable to admitting your political views were retarded all along.

They were right about the rainbow mafia, that doesn't mean they're right about *everything* (the earth being 5000 years old, videogames turning kids violent, etc)

 

[LinkinParkxNaruto[AMV]]

They were right about the rainbow mafia, that doesn't mean they're right about *everything* (the earth being 5000 years old, videogames turning kids violent, etc)

Literally every culture on earth has been right about rainbow people and then came liberalism

 

[Aunt Carol]

videogames turning kids violent

That reminds me: where is the clamoring to restrict selfie filters?

Video games make kids shoot up their schools, so clearly glamor selfie filters made Bubba write forced-fem captions on local kids' photos, wear his wife's clothes and kill himself.

Maybe men should need their wife's permission to use photo filters.

 

[Shiny Lapras]

Hi, first post on my new account after losing my old account during the Keffals mess (RIP). Wish it were on a more pleasant note…

I just found out my long time friend is transitioning, and I’m quite sad about it. He never struck me as the type to troon out. Not autistic, not addicted to porn, not hanging out in sketchy Discord servers, etc. If I had to guess though, I’d say it probably has something to do with the theater kid crowd he’s surrounded himself with in the last few years. Regardless of whatever caused it, I never thought he’d be the type to get sucked into this ideology.

Honest question though: How do you respond when someone says they’re transitioning? “Congrats on the inevitable premature heart attack?” Like wtf do I even say? This dude was someone I was very, very close friends with years ago. We drifted apart for a while, but just reconnected recently. We were only a few texts in when he dropped this bomb on me, like I’m supposed to be happy he’s finding himself or whatever. How am I supposed to be happy about my friend setting himself up for a lifetime of health problems and irreversible damage, topped off with a high probability of premature death?

Honestly, I hate to say it, but at the end of the day, I’ll likely end up having to distance myself from my friend, because it’s really hard to be friends with someone who’s actively destroying themselves when you’re not allowed to question their actions or get them help.

Feels bad.

 

[Sarcastic sockpuppet]

This shit is going through nerd communities like a plague. One of my oldest friends announced his is a transwoman now.

I really didn't know how to react. Thought it was a joke for half a second then the cold realization flooded over me.

I am gonna see how it goes, i don't want to lose my friend, but it's gonna be a bumpy ride. I am already wincing internally each time he genders himself female and i guess a truly terrible relooking is just around the corner. It's not gonna be pretty, our friend isn't the least bit androgynous. I am failing to discern a silver lining in this. He was the type of person i would have asked to give a speech at my wedding.

I trully want the best for him, i don't think trying to become a woman is it, and i am not great at hiding my true feelings usually.

 

[Shiny Lapras]

This shit is going through nerd communities like a plague. One of my oldest friends announced his is a transwoman now.

Right? It’s fucking horrible. As evidenced by this thread, not everyone who troons out is sex-addicted sociopath. Some are just really good people who also happen to be emotionally vulnerable, usually due to insecurity, a desire to belong, or something similar.

I’m sorry about your friend though. It’s brutal to watch someone destroy themselves when you’re not allowed to say or do anything about it. I guess at that point though, it’s not really a friendship anymore. Good luck.

 

[Crypto Six Gorillionaire]

Guy I knew from uni appears to be trooning out. He was a little fruity but was otherwise normal, was engaged to a (real) woman. Recently posts himself holding a book about troons saying he has news, I couldn't bear to read the rest.

There was another guy who was dating the sister of one of my friends. They broke up and then I see this person with a weird name posting photos on my social media and I'm thinking "Who is this ugly girl and why is she posting photos of herself dressed as a cheap goth prostitute?", then it clicked. Must hurt your self-esteem if you're a girl and your boyfriend troons out after a break up.

 

[Sarcastic sockpuppet]

I’m sorry about your friend though. It’s brutal to watch someone destroy themselves when you’re not allowed to say or do anything about it. I guess at that point though, it’s not really a friendship anymore. Good luck.

It's a friendship where i can't say everything i think, those are not the best but they happens. I just need to settle into the right mindset: half "my friend is there, let's have a good time", half "anthropologist living among the gorillas to study them"

Also, it's just a start. We will see how far it goes. Maybe it won't last, just a fluke before he realize it makes no sense.
What i am concerned is:
1/Our boy isn't the least androgynous, i am afraid trying to pass as a woman will cause more dysphoria and more unhappiness than staying a normie.
2/There's also the risk that they start being really radical about trans right and start saying that transwomen belong in women's jails and women's sports unconditionally, etc that would piss me of and cause friction tbh.

 

[King Dead]

I reached my breaking point with one of the troons in my online friend group. Too many creepy AGP statements made in one day, each one practically begging me to shout YWNBAW at him. I held back solely because I don't want to get ostracized from others in my group, so I said enough was enough and blocked him everywhere so I don't have to see his disgusting fetish on display. Despite knowing a few others have my back, including the admin, I don't want to be the one to instigate something that could potentially lead to the group dissolving. This is a group going back a decade, that's not something easily replaced. Better to have the troon fuck up and be forced out that way.

But wait, it gets better. Recently, a few members decided to attend a convention together, the troon being one of them. I didn't go, but before the con started I predicted to the admin that he was going to be fat, greasy, and put forth no effort towards passing as a woman. Sure enough, after it was all over, I was 100% correct, he was indeed every stereotype of the lazy AGP troon. Not only that, but he was a complete wet noodle the whole time they were there, quiet and antisocial. Seems as though he dragged down the entire group as no one else was talking much either, even one that had been more outgoing the previous year. Hopefully he had a bad enough experience to not want to go again, but if he does, they're going to make sure they don't do anything together.

The worst part is knowing that you're basically being held hostage by a creep, that if you blow up at him that he'll just cry victim and paint you to be the bad guy. I don't know how many others in the group hate troons as much as I do, but hopefully it'll all work out and we'll be rid of the troons someday. For now, I wait, with a much better chatting experience now that I have less coomershit in my chat.