There is the other side though. Those of us who were raised as men, which I have usually seen done by older fathers, you're unprepared for the reality that is modern woman. Even 10 years ago.
Maybe I'm an out of touch dater, but I refuse for a first date to be much more than this. Having done it the other way and been burned far too many times, fuck spending a chunk of change on the first date.
Plus the coffee, boba, w/e date is nice because you can see how they react to you offering to buy. If they don't react in some way, to me it's a red flag. I don't care about the 5-10 bucks; but if you don't thank me, don't offer to pay for your own, don't offer to pay for both, fucking something, I just assume you're yet another entitled girl and you're probably not cute enough for me to ignore it and use you as arm candy.