Are you lost needing femoid advice post here - For the poor bastard's who dare or are just curious

Idk man. I reckon it’s kinda like running. The more you do it, the better you get. With all the time they spend gabbing with each other, I reckon they pick up a few tricks.
What I take from your reply is
That I should spam the topic with random questions 1-2 hrs/each day. Some days at moderate pace, some easy, and some with intervals of brutal questions that raise one's heart rate, and pauses for relaxation so I don't get reported to the jannies
 
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What I take from your reply is
That I should spam the topic with random questions 1-2 hrs/each day. Some day at moderate pace, some easy, and some with intervals of brutal questions that raise one's heart rate, and pauses for relaxation so I don't get reported to the jannies
Sounds like a plan!

I do recall hearing somewhere that women like to play hard to get.

I reckon that’s the issue here. Persistence is key!
 
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I think maybe he thinks he looks better in a hat or whatever, but think he is best is where he just is relaxed about it and just, in that moment, seems to own it or doesn't care. Again, I am way older than you and only looking at men way older than you, but what I would say is that if you work on other aspects of yourself, just shave the rest, women will come.
I've been a loveshy virgin weirdo since long before any of the bald shit happened. Even in highschool I was a self-loathing freak.
Women ultimately want men who will provide and protect for them. Yes retard TERFs or whatever screech otherwise, but this this a basic and innate tenant of being a woman. Looks are a secondary concern. Hard for men to understand, but women just literally don't put the same focus on looks as men. It is like, does he look like he showers, grooms, isn't a complete obese pos or skinny shit faggot, maybe touches grass now and again? Yeah, that is basically it as long as you can protect and provide.
Protect and provide is where I fail. I can barely take care of myself. I've been an alcoholic since leaving HS and now i'm getting into harder stuff as well.
 
I've been a loveshy virgin weirdo since long before any of the bald shit happened. Even in highschool I was a self-loathing freak.
Well, stop it. Problem solved.

Protect and provide is where I fail. I can barely take care of myself. I've been an alcoholic since leaving HS and now i'm getting into harder stuff as well.
Also stop that.

Two problems solved. Next?
 
Well, stop it. Problem solved.


Also stop that.

Two problems solved. Next?
If you have some input on my situation, I’d love to hear it. TLDR: Chick stuck my finger in her mouth at work. We’re going to church next week. Cautiously optimistic but not sure if she’s just weird or what’s up.
Protect and provide is where I fail. I can barely take care of myself. I've been an alcoholic since leaving HS and now i'm getting into harder stuff as well.
What’s your drug of choice, and how long?

You’re masking your insecurities and problems by getting fucked up.

Not going to power level too hard, not a woman either, but I’ve been there too, (not alcohol or weed thank god) and you do have the power to quit.

Thing is, the only one who can help you, is you.

Quit drugs, and go travel. Go somewhere far away, support yourself and figure out who you are. Nothing builds confidence like being thrown off the deep end, and figure out that you are able to take care of yourself.

Alternatively you can try to find a chick who’s also into using drugs/alcohol. It’s not going to last, and it’ll likely be a disaster, but you’ll have fun and company at least for a while.
 
Don't OD on us you nigga
I'll try my best.
Well, stop it. Problem solved.
I've made strides in that regard. Back when I was 16/17 years old I was a full on Elliot Rodger tier retard sped. I've gotten much better with age, but still not perfect. Most of my hate is projected inward at myself.
Also stop that.
Family reasons and peer pressure means it's very hard for me to stop. Other people got me into this stuff and to be socially acceptable I have to do it.
Maybe you should worry less about being bald and worry more about being an addict and manchild bud.
Yeah. I'm not very good.
What’s your drug of choice, and how long?
Right now it's Weed and Drinking. Experimented with other things I won't go into details here because not comfortable sharing.
You’re masking your insecurities and problems by getting fucked up.
Truth.
Not going to power level too hard, not a woman either, but I’ve been there too, (not alcohol or weed thank god) and you do have the power to quit.

Thing is, the only one who can help you, is you.
Yeah, I've been thinking about that fact for a long time. At the end of the day change comes inside. Not outside.
Quit drugs, and go travel. Go somewhere far away, support yourself and figure out who you are. Nothing builds confidence like being thrown off the deep end, and figure out that you are able to take care of yourself.
I don't got the money for traveling or the resources. I'm stuck in my house for the time being. Likely for years.
Alternatively you can try to find a chick who’s also into using drugs/alcohol. It’s not going to last, and it’ll likely be a disaster, but you’ll have fun and company at least for a while.
I need the social skills for that
 
Chick stuck my finger in her mouth at work. We’re going to church next week. Cautiously optimistic but not sure if she’s just weird or what’s up.
Apologies, but I'm cracking up at "she stuck my finger in her mouth...going to church next week." Maybe in a year you'll have a funny story to tell at your wedding. :feels:

But seriously, without knowing ages or personalities, I don't know what to say. That was an oddly intimate thing to do, but if she's not a weirdo, then maybe it was just a funny way to break down some barriers.

Do you like her? It reads like you like each other. :)

I've made strides in that regard. Back when I was 16/17 years old I was a full on Elliot Rodger tier retard sped. I've gotten much better with age,

Most of my hate is projected inward at myself.
No, no, no, abort, abort!

Seriously, don't hate you.

But, why do you hate you?

Family reasons and peer pressure means it's very hard for me to stop. Other people got me into this stuff and to be socially acceptable I have to do it.
Naw, dawg. You're a grown man (I presume). You own you. You own your choices. If other things are bad influences, cut them out. And I mean cut out people whose influence you can't withstand. You need some higher principles and to stick to them. Put your focus there.

I don't got the money for traveling or the resources.
I'll take you at your word on this, but some people do take off and go to new and strange (and cheap) places and just figure it out. If you don't have dependents, you have a whole world to be inspired by and explore.
 
Holy shit, a few days ago I was listening to this song High as fuck. (not this exact version) and I cried.
No, no, no, abort, abort!

Seriously, don't hate you.

But, why do you hate you?
Bald, short, not muscular, myopic, doesn't have a 6+ inch penis, isn't independent, monolingual, lack of control, stupid, dependent on substances, lack of change.
Naw, dawg. You're a grown man (I presume). You own you. You own your choices. If other things are bad influences, cut them out. And I mean cut out people whose influence you can't withstand. You need some higher principles and to stick to them. Put your focus there.
I cannot cut my family out of my life, they're all I have left. If they're gone, I have nobody, and when I have nobody, nothing will matter, and when nothing matters... God knows what I'm willing to do.
I'll take you at your word on this, but some people do take off and go to new and strange (and cheap) places and just figure it out. If you don't have dependents, you have a whole world to be inspired by and explore.
I've been to other countries before as a kid. But not as an adult.
 
Bald, short, not muscular, myopic, doesn't have a 6+ inch penis, isn't independent, monolingual, lack of control, stupid,
None of that has stopped @AgendaPoster from loving himself. You can too.

I cannot cut my family out of my life, they're all I have left. If they're gone, I have nobody, and when I have nobody, nothing will matter, and when nothing matters... God knows what I'm willing to do.
I have voluntarily chosen homelessness over staying with my family twice in my life and both times my life got significantly better because of it, and only got worse again the first time because I recommitted to them. There are worse things than being alone. If something is driving you to substance abuse, it's probably worse than being alone.

And don't worry about nothing mattering, it never did. Meaning is yours to assign.
 
None of that has stopped @AgendaPoster from loving himself. You can too.
Above all of those things, the thing I hate about myself. Is my lack of desire to fight. My lack of willpower. I can identity each and every individual problem around me, know all of them. Maybe even figure out a solution. But I never make the slightest bit of effort to tackle any of them. Because I'm scared.
I have voluntarily chosen homelessness over staying with my family twice in my life and both times my life got significantly better because of it, and only got worse again the first time because I recommitted to them. There are worse things than being alone. If something is driving you to substance abuse, it's probably worse than being alone.
Wrong. The Bible says God and family is above all. Love them and do not abandon them.
And don't worry about nothing mattering, it never did. Meaning is yours to assign.
To some extent.
 
Above all of those things, the thing I hate about myself. Is my lack of desire to fight. My lack of willpower. I can identity each and every individual problem around me, know all of them. Maybe even figure out a solution. But I never make the slightest bit of effort to tackle any of them. Because I'm scared.
Sounds like opiates. You might actually be sincere about your addiction.
If that's what you're on, it rewired your brain. After you stop using for a few weeks you'll get huge amounts of energy back and your openness will also increase significantly. Obviously it's not all positive as the cravings will still be severe and any setbacks will make you wanna go back to the comfy numbness.
 
Holy shit, a few days ago I was listening to this song High as fuck. (not this exact version) and I cried.
There are better versions of Cohen's version of that song, agree. That one came up first today. The Jeff Buckley version is most known, but I'm a Leonard Cohen fan. And I think I posted a different Cohen song in the music thread recently - in any case, if you liked it, highly recommend him generally.
This album is a good starter.

And crying is OK.

Bald, short,
Do you know how many bald and short men are highly successful?

not muscular,
Fixable, if you care

What's your prescription? more importantly, why is this a negative? It's just a...thing.

doesn't have a 6+ inch penis,
No1curr. Truly not a big deal.

isn't independent,
This is something you can work on.

monolingual,
Why does this concern you? And why not change it, if you are bothered?

lack of control,
OK, this should be a focus. But it is something you can apply yourself to.

Relative. And also doubtful. You write coherently and indicate a level of introspection. Therefore: not an idiot.

dependent on substances,
Yes, as noted, fix this.

lack of change.
That's a fact-pattern, not a permanent condition.

I cannot cut my family out of my life, they're all I have left.
OK. But if they make it impossible for you not to not become dependent on substance es that hurt your life, consider that.

If they're gone, I have nobody, and when I have nobody, nothing will matter,
Life has value when you treat it that way. I'm not meaning to diminish the importance of family and connection, but you as you, and your life, have value regardless of others.

and when nothing matters... God knows what I'm willing to do.
Don't give in to that sort of thinking,

I've been to other countries before as a kid. But not as an adult.
So see? There's a world of new and untried things out there for you. And it's huge.

Above all of those things, the thing I hate about myself. Is my lack of desire to fight.
So fight! Forget "desire" or emotionally based anything; just fight for your self.

My lack of willpower. I can identity each and every individual problem around me, know all of them. Maybe even figure out a solution. But I never make the slightest bit of effort to tackle any of them. Because I'm scared.
Fear is OK. But fear is just a feeling. I've mentioned before a book I once read - and it was useful, but the main thing that stuck with me was the title: Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway.

Do things that scare you.

Wrong. The Bible says God and family is above all. Love them and do not abandon them.

To some extent.
Taking proper care of yourself - even if it means separating from bad influences until you have the ability to do right even with the influence - is more aligned to God than willingly putting yourself in a place that damages you. And taking care of yourself is not abandoning other people. You know how airplanes have that card about putting the oxygen mask on yourself before in others? It's like that. You can't be for others if you aren't healthy yourself. And if those others are adults, your self-sacrifice helps no one. Don't use dysfunctional situations as an excuse for not taking care of yourself.
 
@Friend of Dorothy Parker The reason I hate being Myopic is because the Bald + Glasses combination is seen as being Soyboy/soyjak, and thus effeminate and often mocked as being leftist. Thus I'm constantly at odds as being viewed as meek, leftist, or effeminate. Also commonly associated with cucks.

Sub 6 inch penis is not enough to satisfy women. They hate it.

Lack of change can be permanent.
 
I see some familiar faces and I don't want to shit up any of the gardening threads so what the hell, do any of you lovely ladies have any advice for finding gardening clubs/groups? I ask because every avid gardener I've known has been a woman and every time I'm strolling through nurseries looking for plants I'm the only guy around. I've tried looking online and in person and have had no luck. I miss being with other people who get excited about seed catalogs, and that share ideas they have for growing.
 
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I have voluntarily chosen homelessness over staying with my family twice in my life and both times my life got significantly better because of it, and only got worse again the first time because I recommitted to them. There are worse things than being alone. If something is driving you to substance abuse, it's probably worse than being alone.
This is good advice if you got molested or if your family is full of skizo psychos...
You're better off keeping a support system even if it's flawed than embrassing homelessness and the streets.
 
@Friend of Dorothy Parker The reason I hate being Myopic is because the Bald + Glasses combination is seen as being Soyboy/soyjak, and thus effeminate and often mocked as being leftist. Thus I'm constantly at odds as being viewed as meek, leftist, or effeminate. Also commonly associated with cucks.
Get contacts. And perhaps some tasty SS and swastikas tattoos.

Nah but seriously, why does it bother you what people “view you as”? Presumably you’re not. So the people who know you, know you’re not a cuck. And people who don’t know you? Who cares.

I was about to say, get some contacts if this bothers you again, but the real answer is get some self esteem.
Sub 6 inch penis is not enough to satisfy women. They hate it.
Bro, come on. That’s just porn talk.
Not a woman, so not going to sperg excessively on this, but you’re just repeating cuck-talking points about big black bulls who can satisfy a woman in ways I never can blah blah.

Women aren’t a monolith. Some women like bigger, many don’t. Some women don’t get off on penetrative sex anyways.
Lack of change can be permanent.
If you want it to.

No, you will never get a seven inch cock, but you can grow to realize that it doesn’t matter.

Wait a second… Isn’t your average cock like around four-five inches? Are you telling us, that the majority of men have no chances of pleasing a woman, unless they’re the 6 inch brotherhood of kings of cocks?

Come on my guy…

I cannot cut my family out of my life, they're all I have left. If they're gone, I have nobody, and when I have nobody, nothing will matter, and when nothing matters... God knows what I'm willing to do.

Then start by establishing boundaries. Hang out with them and tell them you’re going to quit drinking/smoking for a few weeks to better yourself. (Just word it in a way that won’t come across as an attack, or like you’re better than them.)

They may not understand, but if they’re your family, they’ll likely support you. Or at least accept it.
 
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