I do all of these things and the feelings of self hatred and general lack of empathy for others doesn't go away.
I have read everything you've written. And, as before, I feel bad and frustrated for you, because - regardless of things that you think are physical deficits about you, the biggest thing I get from you is that you throw boulders in your own path.
From this post alone:
- oral sex repulsion, giving or receiving (fine if that's not your thing, but in context seems like a big connection issue, potentially)
- aversion to strangers
- aversion to physical contact
- belief you deserve nothing good & belief you need to be in hell to live/getting a hit from bad things
- alienation from women
- don't enjoy talking to girls
- believe girls are too fragile
- self-hatred
- lack of empathy
- And - mustache alone in the Year of Our Lord 2023, almost 2024
All of these are concerning - HOWEVER - the biggest thing is that you state these things in a way that implies you accept and support them. Or at least that their existence is some sort of justification for choosing to remain miserable.
These aren't good things, my friend. These are also things that, embracing them, you decrease your chance for [whatever is an acceptable picture of contentment and purpose for you].
And when someone says, "you can't give up and simultaneously complain," and your response is"free speech,"...dude, you missed the point by 5000 miles. It's not about anyone giving a shit what you say. It's about pointing out the flaws in your thinking and your apparent attachment to self-defeating stubbornness. Of course you "can" think what you want. But what is the point in complaining if you don't actually want anything different?
But honestly I'd look into the aversion to other human beings (not talking about oral sex, but the general aversion you mentioned), and the feelings of being undeserving of good things. Seems potentially improve-able. Meds and CBT.
Same goes (though needing a different approach) for believing women are "fragile" and therefore you cannot talk to them. They may be different than you, and they may be confusing, but you're better off making an effort than writing them off in a diminishing or demeaning way. That shit will come through and turn off every woman you meet.
He is 2 also i would get both disowned by my mother and mother in law both of them are in the liberal side of the spectrum my mother in law especially since she works in education if i ever mention getting my son to the gun range unless he is already teenager and specifically he asked for it , i would get disowned and chewwed out by both if i took a child there. His father is also sometimes on her side can't have xyz because he knows he has to participate in the battles . Still though i have to bid my time and wait to get him the stuff i want him to get when he is older and can make requests.
There's a long way between toy swords for a little kid (at 2 it's meaningless, btw) and taking a child/teen to a gun range. Why is a gun range even on your mind if your kid is 2 years old?
Tbh, feels like the concerns you have are manageable, and if you approached them with a bit more... savvy, rather than a blunt axe, you might be less bothered and reactionary.
Hope you and your kid's father get on the same page.