For me I just want an equal, not someone who's exactly like me that would be weird, but someone who I can view on the same level if that makes sense too. Just someone to have a conversation with and we're both satisfied with eachother is my optimal goal.
That wasn't the situation posed. Posting negative, defensive political requirements on a dating profile is not at all the same thing as having conversations about politics once you've actually connected with someone.
Personally I like beards. Almost always gives a guy's face more depth. The order is something like:
Honestly, for me it doesn't matter what it is but I like guys who are enthusiastic about what they do, whether its work or hobbies. Can't get bored of listening to people talk about something they're really passionate about, even if its something weird or niche.
Realistically speaking, even if you find someone who does fit these criteria, it is so unlikely that she would present any of these traits until you two are already intimate. Even the type of girl who is generally open-minded is going to have her tolerance levels way below what it normally is with guys she just met. There's like a 1.5x multiplier on how confrontational people sound on the first few interactions.
Knowing what someone tolerates and does not tolerate is usually the bedrock of the relationship. Learning about all of them keeps the relationship steady, I doubt someone wants to be overloaded with anyone's preferences, agitators, and aversions, you just learn more about the person and that's how intimacy blossoms.
That's sort of what I want. I don't mind one bit having my beliefs challenged. I am a Thunderdomer, after all, and I have learned a lot from being on the Farms and reading all kinds of different opinions and evidence for or against them and evaluating that evidence. But I don't want to start on a shaky foundation where we don't have anything in common politically either, particularly with my politics, which are spicy to many people and they would probably already turn and run, heh. So it would have to be a man that has a good bit of common agreement with me from the outset.
I don't really see the big deal about posting politics, and the mention doesn't have to be negative or defensive, just matter of fact, because I wouldn't want to waste time with anyone I didn't think I would get along with on that level. But if he thinks it would scare people away, then don't post it, particularly if it isn't important to him. But if it is and he chooses not to say anything on the profile, he should try to figure it out very soon.
This. I really love a nice beard. I thought it was fucking hilarious when Rekeita went on about how women don't like beards and it is something that only men like because they are secretly gay. Man, couldn't stop laughing especially when he has one. Projjjeeecctttiooonnn. As many women like nice, clean beards as like clean shaven guys, seriously.
I think you can go even more general than that, like a simple "what do you like to do in your free time?" or "how do you like to unwind?"
Keep in mind now dating apps have political orientation added in the things you can add. I straight up ad conservative and dont talk with anyone who is liberal. Political orientation in the current year is indicator for so many things including loyalty, wanting kids and the level of sexual fetishism . Almost all hobosexual men are either liberal or unaffiliated also. Liberal men are always cowards and lying pieces of shit they will spout what is considered vile by liberal standards opinions in front of me , but still cuck when others are present because of the fear of social repercussion and what others think. Women who date liberals are always strung along and fucked over far more than with conservatives .
That is a fair point, I’m just used to people bragging to me what they like to watch instead of what they like to do. Plenty of people out there, so hopefully they have hobbies we both can relate to.
I’ll only reference my idea of the complete dissolution of the federal government, corporations, and the banks on the fifth date.
There is an expiration date on making your move. If your at the bar or party, if you see someone that interest you, it's better to be brave and talk to them within a few seconds of that moment versus building up the courage, awkwardly peeking a glance constantly, and eventually talking to them minutes later.
My advice to that is don’t be a wallflower, if you’re at a party then party. You’ll learn some moves while you’re at it too.
That's the plan. I still care about these topics, just because they indicate which values a person holds – as I mentioned in the first message, I had a situation similar to yours with my ex, so I don't want a repeat of that.
I dunno about that, nowadays a "conservative" could mean both "classical liberal" and "Bible-thumping redneck", so I wouldn't put too much faith in these labels (unless it's a "progressive", lol, that's pretty clear-cut)
Good. Values and goals need to be understood. This is some common sense, cracker barrel wisdom - "opposites attract but commonalities build relationships."
That reminds me, use Cracker Barrel for your 3rd date @LillyTheBestGirl
Stubble is OK, mustaches are OK, but beards are a turn off for me. It's a cope for moids with weak jawlines.
