I don't think the fight or flight response knows the difference unfortunately. Again. I'm not justifying or excusing spousal murder but what I am saying is that some women provoke it and if women want to complain about male on female violence they should also ask themselves why it happens.
There's always going to be some minority of people who are just absolute scumbags, but not every single abuser starts out that way. So if women want to stop being abused maybe they should address the elements in themselves that lead to them being abused.