Pick-me women / #NotLikeTheOtherGirls General

[Cumeatsioner Gordon]

I'll just say this sounds like a deal with the devil.

I think it sounds like she got exactly what she was looking for. I only feel bad about the kids, their father is a retarded milk fed gimp and their mother is a sociopath who was looking for a sperm donor and a paycheck.

 

[6thRanger]

I don't. It's shameful and I have no respect for anyone who would allow this to happen to them.

That's the thing. She didn't "allow this to happen". She picked this life.

I think it sounds like she got exactly what she was looking for. I only feel bad about the kids, their father is a retarded milk fed gimp and their mother is a sociopath who was looking for a sperm donor and a paycheck.

This is assuming that the white male ATM sperm-donor plan isn't just concentrated cope to cover for making poor choices and accepting a miserable pathetif life.

The more I read this lady's posts the more I hope she's just lying.

 

[Lidl Drip]

I don't. It's shameful and I have no respect for anyone who would allow this to happen to them.

She has kids, when you have kids you put their needs before your own. Maybe he is a fantastic father and she doesn't want to break up the family and be the villain in her kids eyes, because that's how they would see it. It's a lot easier to leave a marriage when it doesn't mean the kids now only see their dad on the weekend or even less than that. No doubt he would also tell the kids "well it's not because of ME that you don't see me anymore, it's because your mom wanted to get rid of me because she doesn't like me anymore". That's why mothers endure so much, it's not because they are too lazy or dumb to leave.

Maybe it would be better for her to leave and not let the kids see her mother be treated like that, but they won't see it that way for a LONG time, because they were probably already raised to think how he treats her is normal. It's a difficult situation and she's trying to give her kids the best life possible, have some empathy.

 

[CharcoalChkn]

It's a difficult situation and she's trying to give her kids the best life possible, have some empathy.

It is hard to have empathy for a woman who said she would not love her children if they came out stupid, let alone every thing else in her fucked up scheme.

 

[Cumeatsioner Gordon]

She picked this life.

So, fertilised eggs and money to buy the kids expensive private educations and other privileges.

As long as he keeps earning the money and spending it on the children, I will continue to pretend I have any positive emotion for him and will continue my performative tradwife LARP bullshit.

Lol.

Anyway, thread tax. Pearl Davis on mothers taking custody of children:

 

[Dyn]

She has kids, when you have kids you put their needs before your own.

Putting your kids needs before your own would involve raising them in an environment where mommy doesn't get maritally raped every night because daddy won't feed them otherwise. Children aren't stupid, they can handle a divorce, but whatever lengths you go to to hide your toxic familial dynamics from them isn't going to be enough to keep them from internalising it as normal and most likely repeating it in their own relationships. Any woman worth respecting would at least attempt to take her children out of that dynamic, even if it means a loss in their financial station, even if it means them being mad at her. Trying to pretend this is best for the children is cope.

It's a difficult situation and she's trying to give her kids the best life possible, have some empathy.

I don't have empathy to spare for a broodsow doormat raising the next generation of rapists and handmaids. My contempt for her is immeasurable.

 

[Jhonson the Two]

No matter your moral compass about Fareal's choices, the fact that her husband can and would shits next to the toilet without cleaning his own mess, and not being ashamed of himself is fucking wild.

 

[Lidl Drip]

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The jealousy is real.

 

[Stan]

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I got exhausted just reading that. I'm not going to pretend that my life is harder, it genuinely isn't, but I can say that I've only had 5-6 hours of sleep per night, for maybe the last month or so. And I'm exhausted, and abusing my vices more than ever (incl. and esp. Kiwi Farms), and every time I come home the house is dirtier than I left it, Except for every other Thursday, when ee have a cleaning service come round.

And yes, the laundry is neverending. Baby laundry is getting to me, too, because she's growing so fast that I'm washing things and then find they don't fit when it's time to get dressed. Not her fault, but woosh are these stages fast.

As for the rest, I have access to approximately 50p in the world at this point in time. It is Tuesday. If you know how I can feed three kids and some dogs off 50p until next Monday, kindly advise. Otherwise I will have to continue to share the marital bed and yes, therefore be woken in the night to be talked shit at, or else he will not give me any money. Yes, this has been done before, yes, all the family knows he does this, no they do not do anything. Yes, it is quite legal to have one's own salary paid into one's own account.

He sounds abusive.

And I understand the inertia you feel. I've felt it before too, and hesitated to end relationships that were way past their expiry date. I learned my lesson after I dumped my Orthodox-Jewish boyfriend only to learn a month later that my Conservative-Jewish crush from college had been living in my neighborhood the whole time and I could have dated him instead. I was too focused on trying to fix the relationship I had, that I wasn't available to have the relationship I wanted. That taught me that you can't have new growth without pruning off the dead wood.

I don't want to tell you what to do, a lot of people probably have and I know that in the moment, their advice always feels distant and unthinkable to put in practice. But I do sympathize with you, and I hope that you can find your way to something better than what you have, because what you have seems unsustainable to me.

@Lidl Drip Apparently human adult males can "miss" when shitting, or begin to shit before the anus is above the toilet. I am genuinely baffled, but that's definitely shit, and he admits it's his. I am beyond understanding it. My mother in law confirms he was able to shit in a toilet when he lived with her, and also brush his teeth.

I'm getting "DIRTY, CRAPPED BRIEFS" vibes here.

 

[Android raptor]

I know Capoid Bushmen have the thing where they like no-teeth because it helps them eat termites or something and is therefore sexy, but why does this white woman have no front teeth? This is some "locked in the basement" shit.

Pregnancy, especially repeated pregnancies close together, is rough on your teeth since it leeches calcium from your bones. There used to be an old saying that you lost a tooth for every kid you had.

Alternatively the moid knocked her teeth out, both are possible with tradscrotes.

 

[Kalsarikännit]

@Lidl Drip Apparently human adult males can "miss" when shitting, or begin to shit before the anus is above the toilet. I am genuinely baffled, but that's definitely shit, and he admits it's his. I am beyond understanding it. My mother in law confirms he was able to shit in a toilet when he lived with her, and also brush his teeth.

This is untrue.

Anyway, question for the thread:

Is the contempt for pickmes because they’re possibly lying about who they are in order to deceive men, or is it because they try to change who they are to attract a man, and that’s unacceptable?

Do you think women can just ‘enjoy’ behaviors typically labeled as pickme things, or are they always lying to themselves and/or others?

 

[Shidoen]

No matter your moral compass about Fareal's choices, the fact that her husband can and would shits next to the toilet without cleaning his own mess, and not being ashamed of himself is fucking wild.

The weak chin should have been a dead giveaway.

 

[Lurker]

This is untrue.

Anyway, question for the thread:

Is the contempt for pickmes because they’re possibly lying about who they are in order to deceive men, or is it because they try to change who they are to attract a man, and that’s unacceptable?

Do you think women can just ‘enjoy’ behaviors typically labeled as pickme things, or are they always lying to themselves and/or others?

it's not about the things they like or who they are. it's about them proudly boasting how they're not like other girls, those other girls are so dumb. it's their shitty attitude, where they shit on other women because they think that's what guys want. like, whatever, have whatever hobbies you want, more power to you, but don't proceed to act like you're hot shit and put down other girls for not having whatever 'masculine' interests you have.

 

[Kalsarikännit]

it's about them proudly boasting how they're not like other girls, those other girls are so dumb. it's their shitty attitude, where they shit on other women because they think that's what guys want.

Ok, that makes sense.

 

[Shidoen]

This is untrue.

Anyway, question for the thread:

Is the contempt for pickmes because they’re possibly lying about who they are in order to deceive men, or is it because they try to change who they are to attract a man, and that’s unacceptable?

Do you think women can just ‘enjoy’ behaviors typically labeled as pickme things, or are they always lying to themselves and/or others?

Personally to me it’s both because I dealt with dishonest women that are pick mes and those relationships don’t end well.

Firmly I believe you have to be who you are to attract someone who is best for you, eventually all those lies will mess you up mentally until you can never be the person you truly were.

I still think it’s funny that it’s mostly just shitting on other women which women have done to each other the same way men do to eachother. Like women getting into male hobbies because they enjoy them.

it's not about the things they like or who they are. it's about them proudly boasting how they're not like other girls, those other girls are so dumb. it's their shitty attitude, where they shit on other women because they think that's what guys want. like, whatever, have whatever hobbies you want, more power to you, but don't proceed to act like you're hot shit and put down other girls for not having whatever 'masculine' interests you have.

Case in point.

 

[Android raptor]

it's not about the things they like or who they are. it's about them proudly boasting how they're not like other girls, those other girls are so dumb. it's their shitty attitude, where they shit on other women because they think that's what guys want. like, whatever, have whatever hobbies you want, more power to you, but don't proceed to act like you're hot shit and put down other girls for not having whatever 'masculine' interests you have.

Especially since tradthots are the furthest thing from masculine and you know these chicks would start throwing around lesbophobic slurs if they encountered an actual masculine woman.

 

[Shidoen]

Personally to me it’s both because I dealt with dishonest women that are pick mes and those relationships don’t end well.

Firmly I believe you have to be who you are to attract someone who is best for you, eventually all those lies will mess you up mentally until you can never be the person you truly were.

I still think it’s funny that it’s mostly just shitting on other women which women have done to each other the same way men do to eachother. Like women getting into male hobbies because they enjoy them.

Case in point.

To generalize it more if you can’t stand firm in your beliefs and keep changing yourself to appeal to the masses (men, women, whatever), then you won’t earn the respect and validation you think you deserve.

 

[Kalsarikännit]

To generalize it more if you can’t stand firm in your beliefs and keep changing yourself to appeal to the masses (men, women, whatever), then you won’t earn the respect and validation you think you deserve.

True in theory, but really only if you’re bad at it. Most people don’t pay that close of attention and won’t notice. I’d say it’s usually more likely that you’ll end up a pariah when you choose to die on a hill.

 

[Shidoen]

True in theory, but really only if you’re bad at it. Most people don’t pay that close of attention and won’t notice. I’d say it’s usually more likely that you’ll end up a pariah when you choose to die on a hill.

A pariah huh, I’m used to being of low birth so that’s nothing new. It’s mostly just people being nasty to eachother and ranting you have to act and dress a certain way. “Oh look at this, I attract a man because I do all this!” or “If you do this one specific thing, then you’re going to be abused and should suffer for it”. Eventually lying will catch up to anyone and for how long you do it, it’s going to be disastrous. I’ve seen it destroy relationships because the couples just wouldn’t talk to each other and express what they truly think ruining everything. If the aim is to solely be a people pleaser, then you’re not going to be pleased with yourself down the line.

 

[Lurker]

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