Why is porn bad but pumping my wife isn't?

Mister Baranavichy said:
How does gooning in a darkened corner of your house, looking like Gollum, while staring at a lit screen to you feel, in the long run, comparable to actually developing good social and marital skills and finding someone willing to bed you out of strong emotional attachment?
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I think I get what you’re saying.

OP, jack off outside, like in a public park. Touch grass while you jerk it and meet new friends.
 
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PermaLurker69 said:

There is this. There is a limit to how many people you can get emotionally/sexually invested in before you burnout and begin having difficulty properly bonding. Its why coomheads have a hard time talking to women and why whores can't keep a man. Though what that number of bonds a person can have isn't defined, humans definetly burnout.
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i highly doubt that this applies to porn consumption tbh, cause there's no emotional component to that at all
i could definitely see it being relevant to parasocial relationships though (onlyfans, twitch, camgirl sites)
 
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DumbDude43 said:
i highly doubt that this applies to porn consumption tbh, cause there's no emotional component to that at all
i could definitely see it being relevant to parasocial relationships though (onlyfans, twitch, camgirl sites)
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Its happened to animals. The penguin was a famous example, but putting sex decoys for animals does make it very difficult to find or keep a mate. The coomer having difficulty talking to women thing is anecdotal but god has it rung true for alot of people.

Edit: needed to add that when you view porn, its not just stimulation, its immersion when ur jacking it and putting some level of investment in it, even if its miniscule. Just doing it alot is just more and more your investing of yourself in it the more you do it.
 
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Neither is bad. People just like getting butthurt about porn. If it causes you to have unrealistic expectations, it just means you're shallow; it's not the porn's fault. My girlfriend knows I would rather have sex than jerk off, but she's only available once a day on a good day. I produce 3-5 loads a day. She's glad I have another outlet so she doesn't need to take an unreasonable amount of dicking. She also knows I have zero emotional attachment to any of those women and doesn't feel threatened by them. We both think that porn consumption makes people better at sex, if they study it instead of just watching purely for enjoyment. So, I think your initial question is kind of loaded. It assumes that one is good and the other is bad, when really both are fine as long as you aren't a pornsick goon with no self-control.
 
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GenericEdgelordSupreme said:
We both think that porn consumption makes people better at sex, if they study it instead of just watching purely for enjoyment.
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Here I have to disagree, It is really super hard to find porn where all actors are relaxed and look like they genuinely like each other and have that non-verbal communication that good sex entails. Maybe you have never had good sex and it is just a series of coom producing stunts to you, but that is not erotic, and it lacks the deep connection.
To get good at sex, you have to have sex, either often with the same person for a long time, or many people you genuinely care about.
 
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Apustajan apustaja said:
Here I have to disagree, It is really super hard to find porn where all actors are relaxed and look like they genuinely like each other and have that non-verbal communication that good sex entails. Maybe you have never had good sex and it is just a series of coom producing stunts to you, but that is not erotic, and it lacks the deep connection.
To get good at sex, you have to have sex, either often with the same person for a long time, or many people you genuinely care about.
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yeah "porn makes you good at sex" is a laughably retarded take. that's like saying "watching the super bowl on tv makes you good at football"
 
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Apustajan apustaja said:
Here I have to disagree, It is really super hard to find porn where all actors are relaxed and look like they genuinely like each other and have that non-verbal communication that good sex entails. Maybe you have never had good sex and it is just a series of coom producing stunts to you, but that is not erotic, and it lacks the deep connection.
To get good at sex, you have to have sex, either often with the same person for a long time, or many people you genuinely care about.
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Agree to disagree. The kind of sex you're talking about sounds boring.
DumbDude43 said:
yeah "porn makes you good at sex" is a laughably retarded take. that's like saying "watching the super bowl on tv makes you good at football"
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It doesn't automatically make you good at sex, but it can teach you a thing or two if you pay attention. Just like watching football doesn't make you good at football, but if you also play football, it might give you some good ideas.
 
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GenericEdgelordSupreme said:
Agree to disagree. The kind of sex you're talking about sounds boring.

It doesn't automatically make you good at sex, but it can teach you a thing or two if you pay attention. Just like watching football doesn't make you good at football, but if you also play football, it might give you some good ideas.
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Yeah nothing like pairbonding and love can be important when there is is precious dopamine to be had, fuck oxytocin.
I bet your mom did ass-to-mouth followed by a cremapie the night you were conceived, (reverse cowgirl because of your dads face), streching herself open showing eveyone but you dripping out of her and she said "yeah, look at that baby yeah", mascara running and cheeks blushing from all the strangling and slapping your dad did. If I were you this image would bever leave my mind, I bet she still has the tape, she is just holding out on you.
 
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Apustajan apustaja said:
Yeah nothing like pairbonding and love can be important when there is is precious dopamine to be had, fuck oxytocin.
I bet your mom did ass-to-mouth followed by a cremapie the night you were conceived, (reverse cowgirl because of your dads face), streching herself open showing eveyone but you dripping out of her and she said "yeah, look at that baby yeah", mascara running and cheeks blushing from all the strangling and slapping your dad did. If I were you this image would bever leave my mind, I bet she still has the tape, she is just holding out on you.
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Nice try, but that doesn't faze me. It's actually pretty funny. Unfortunately, the boring truth is that my mom fucked a guy in her youth group who later became a pastor. It was probably lame, boring vaginal missionary, because Christians are like that.
 
GenericEdgelordSupreme said:
Nice try, but that doesn't faze me. It's actually pretty funny. Unfortunately, the boring truth is that my mom fucked a guy in her youth group who later became a pastor. It was probably lame, boring vaginal missionary, because Christians are like that.
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Nice of you to point out that you were conceived vaginally. In your case that part was a bit of a guess.
How do you know your mother found it lame and boring? Or that you dad did? After all, after the experience with your mom, in a state of post-nut clarity, your dad decided "enough of this depravity, I'm devoting my life to Jesus for real this time" and became a pastor.
Please don't dox your mom on Kiwifarms and lead me into temptation, I'm trying really hard to preach healthy sex and relationships in stead of coom, but you don't come across women like your mom every day, man.....I will probably not answer posts in the next ten minutes, OK?
 
Apustajan apustaja said:
Nice of you to point out that you were conceived vaginally. In your case that part was a bit of a guess.
How do you know your mother found it lame and boring? Or that you dad did? After all, after the experience with your mom, in a state of post-nut clarity, your dad decided "enough of this depravity, I'm devoting my life to Jesus for real this time" and became a pastor.
Please don't dox your mom on Kiwifarms and lead me into temptation, I'm trying really hard to preach healthy sex and relationships in stead of coom, but you don't come across women like your mom every day, man.....I will probably not answer posts in the next ten minutes, OK?
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All I'm saying is you can have healthy sex and relationships without abstaining from porn. It's a false dichotomy to claim that it has to be one or the other. But by all means, please continue white knighting for hours of foreplay leading up to 90 seconds of disappointing your woman. I'm sure your sex life is way more fulfilling than mine.
 
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