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I would never refer to bodycount as bodycount with a partner. You have to understand that it is a very contentious topic. So if you're going to talk about, it's best to use any other name for it than the one that is commonly used by people with tiktok brain/ red pill.
Linguistics matter sometimes and this is one of those times.
It's also a bit like facebook friends: on average your facebook friends have more friends than you. This holds universally true for people. Because people with more facebook friends, are more likely to end up in your facebook friend list. It's one of those weird statistical things. People that have more sexual partners are more likely to end up on your sexual partners list.
But also asking women if caring about bodycount matters is dumb, because it's one of those things women don't really understand why it matters. That's why it continues to fuel online autism battles. I thought it didn't matter either, but once you've dated one or two women with high body count you will change your mind, because there is something primitive inside a man's mind that will change how he views her. It's the same as the fact that men don't really get why women look down so primordially at someone who is too weak or too much of a simp.
Some women are not worth commiting to, because you can never get commitment from her and a high body count is one of the most reliable indicators.
Though trying to boil down any persons worth to a single metric is also internet autism. One of my friend's was caught up in this for a while. He found his virgin and was estatic. The relationship lasted a while. But she was a major cunt. Then later when the whole friend group was sick of her, he met a girl that seemed below average in every typical metric. Decently high bodycount. Not very attractive. Slightly overweight. But just shared some of his interests and was just allround pleasure of a person to everyone she met.
They are so happy together. It's worth not looking at just one metric to assess someone. And women with a shameful bodycount are unlikely to tell you honestly anyway, because the amount of partners they've had makes it likely they have been burned on the topic before. It's like lying on a resume: everyone that does it, does it because they need to do it.
It's also a good question to ask how picky you can be. A lot of online relationship talk particularly in the contentious areas like r9k is fueled by unhappiness on the subject, and unhappy people are a poor guide to listen to. It's like asking beggars financial advice. Yeah, if you're a charming surgeon you've got a lot of options and you may go for someone younger with a low bodycount. Who will she choose, the one with a respectable and stable career that is also charming or the person for whom relationships are hard enough that they need to ask help from strangers online?
That's not to rip on you, but have some perspective. Being very critical of who you date only makes sense if you've got two full hands of options. Otherwise it's better to ask the simpler questions. Do I enjoy being with this person? Can this person fulfill my needs sufficiently? Can I fulfill this person's needs sufficiently? As the great dating guru aerosmith said: "you can't always get what you want, but if you try sometimes, you get what you need".
