Virgie Tovar - #losehatenotweight HAES, BoPo Snake Oil Salesman. Fat AF.

[Gay Mouth]

Things that virgie reminds me of:

Animals:



Dictators:


Fictional creatures:

 

[Constellationzero]

What makes Virgie different is that she's actually able to focus that malice into more than just pathetic social media whining; she's turned it into a second career in which she writes and speaks about fatphobia from a semi-academic perspective, in an authoritative way.

Don't give her any credit. The issue is all the women and men who SHOULD be educated enough to see this for the toxic, unproductive, and divisive BUNK this is, gleefully give her a platform.
And she has a job too. Who the hell gave her that platform?

Meanwhile... there are LOADS of very GOOD people who would LOVE a full or part time job (my line of work is finding jobs for mentally ill, cognitively/developmentally disabled, alcoholics, addicts, sex offenders, drug court, SSI and SSDI) and cannot even get their resume looked at, let alone an interview. And shitheads like Virgie Tovar get to fail right on UP, or to the side.

There are even GOOD people in college, or just out of college who would LOVE a job or a chance to speak publicly/write/advocate. For NORMAL things, not BUNK horseshit things like destroying your appearance, attitude and body to oWn tHe mEn!

 

[𝕺𝖑' 𝕯𝖎𝖗𝖙𝖞 𝕱𝖆𝖙𝖘𝖔]

I had no idea until tonight that Virgie was instrumental in creating Drag Queen Story Hour. From their site's about page:

About | Drag Story Hour

archived 18 Mar 2023 05:30:07 UTC

archive.is

About | Drag Story Hour

We capture the imagination and play of the gender fluidity of childhood and gives kids glamorous, positive, and unabashedly queer role models.

www.dragstoryhour.org

 

[Sparkling Yuzu]

I had no idea until tonight that Virgie was instrumental in creating Drag Queen Story Hour. From their site's about page:

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About | Drag Story Hour

archived 18 Mar 2023 05:30:07 UTC

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About | Drag Story Hour

We capture the imagination and play of the gender fluidity of childhood and gives kids glamorous, positive, and unabashedly queer role models.

www.dragstoryhour.org

That means not only are they showing kids trans propaganda but fat activist propaganda as well. I'm not even really against drag queens reading two "mommy and mommy" or "daddy and daddy" educational type stories, as long as they pass a criminal background check. But it's a lot more they're promoting than just age appropriate education about gay people/families.

 

[TheCakeIsALie]

That means not only are they showing kids trans propaganda but fat activist propaganda as well. I'm not even really against drag queens reading two "mommy and mommy" or "daddy and daddy" educational type stories, as long as they pass a criminal background check. But it's a lot more they're promoting than just age appropriate education about gay people/families.

Right, how do libraries vet the adults to make sure they aren’t sex pests in general? Like I know at a school, you need to be fingerprinted, state checked and fbi checked in order to be able to be around kids. Same with preschool/daycare.

 

[Constellationzero]

I'm not even really against drag queens reading two "mommy and mommy" or "daddy and daddy" educational type stories,

Lesbian here.

How 'bout NO.

Ask yourselves this: Notice when Kirk Cameron, or any other poo poo pee pee "wrongthinker" wants to participate in storytime, they bring along an age appropriate and SUBJECT appropriate book to read? In other words: NORMAL children's book--just like they did back in the bad old days?

But why is it whenever these perverts in womanface show up, ONLY ell gee bee tee books are read?????? Big thunkity thunk thunk for the crowd who lambasts Christians for "indoctrinating" children.

Fuck all the way out of here with that clown world shit. Keep fucking off and bring Virgie IL-Tovar with you.

 

[Sparkling Yuzu]

Right, how do libraries vet the adults to make sure they aren’t sex pests in general? Like I know at a school, you need to be fingerprinted, state checked and fbi checked in order to be able to be around kids. Same with preschool/daycare.

There have been convicted sex offenders found to be reading at these events before, that's why I mentioned it. I think the libraries are lazy at vetting.

why is it whenever these perverts in womanface show up, ONLY ell gee bee tee books are read?????

I think that's the point of the event. Since it's created by braindead fatties like Virgin Toehair. Non-LGBT books would be better and go against stereotypes that all they can think about is "the cause".

 

[Haram Habibi]

IDK why, but decided to check in on Virgie. She's still babbling on at Forbes for some reason (proof that their standards have really, really slipped since Malcolm died), but I found this little nugget.

The good news.....she's decided that she's not gonna breed. Turkey basters are celebrating the news, and if you were considering a sperm donor, rest assured that your future kid won't be a half-sib to Virgie's spawn!

The stupid news......she still thought she deserved a "pregnant belly" photo shoot to celebrate her gunt. It's not fair that we celebrate pregnant women's bellies because they don't STAY fat after having the kid.

Not linking to her substack because Imma bitch. Trust me, you'll get more than enough of this epic moment in photography by just reading part 1 of this 3 part epic.

At least the pics don't show her face.....

 

[DefCon Dumb]

I’d never previously read anything of hers other than the infamous cake article.

This was just as bad- a steaming pile of crap riddled with a complete lack of understanding of… everything.

I’m happily skipping the second and third part.

 

[VinegarPussy]

IDK why, but decided to check in on Virgie. She's still babbling on at Forbes for some reason (proof that their standards have really, really slipped since Malcolm died), but I found this little nugget.

The good news.....she's decided that she's not gonna breed. Turkey basters are celebrating the news, and if you were considering a sperm donor, rest assured that your future kid won't be a half-sib to Virgie's spawn!

The stupid news......she still thought she deserved a "pregnant belly" photo shoot to celebrate her gunt. It's not fair that we celebrate pregnant women's bellies because they don't STAY fat after having the kid.

Not linking to her substack because Imma bitch. Trust me, you'll get more than enough of this epic moment in photography by just reading part 1 of this 3 part epic.

At least the pics don't show her face.....

I don’t think she grasps (or is wilfully ignorant, more likely) that a pregnancy photo shoot isn’t celebrating “fat.” It’s celebrating the pregnant body…not all pregnant women are “fat,” and even many that gain during pregnancy lose it. It’s celebrating that there’s a baby in there, not pizza, wings and cakes.

 

[Angry New Ager]

IDK why, but decided to check in on Virgie. She's still babbling on at Forbes for some reason (proof that their standards have really, really slipped since Malcolm died), but I found this little nugget.

The good news.....she's decided that she's not gonna breed. Turkey basters are celebrating the news, and if you were considering a sperm donor, rest assured that your future kid won't be a half-sib to Virgie's spawn!

LOL, as if she had a choice in this matter. And I always thought it was self-evident that the last thing she'd ever want to do was get pregnant, give birth, and spend most of two decades raising a kid. The kind of person she has been all along practically made that announcement for her long ago.

She's too old, at 40, and as a lifelong fatty (especially one with massive central adiposity, and probable diabetes), too hormonally fucked. If she were to TTC, she'd definitely have to seek fertility treatment, but no fertility specialist would take her, not at her BMI, and she doesn't have the means to pay a shady one. And she can't afford, and wouldn't pass muster for, adoption.

Whatever choices in life are still open to her, childbearing conclusively isn't one of them. So why even mention it?

Since I speak fluent Narc, I'm going to tranlate this as, "I didn't want a kid until I realized that having one would be advantageous to me in some way that appeals to Narcs (keeping a man attached to me; child support payments; a caretaker as I age and fall apart; somebody to indoctrinate with my beliefs; endless content fodder; somebody who has to always love me; etc.), but when I explored it as an option, I received confirmation that it's not going to happen.

"While I'm relieved, because having to put another's needs ahead of my wants is pretty fucking onerous, I hate that I don't have a choice in the matter. In fact, I'm kind of bitter about that. So I'm going to salve that Narc injury by telling the whole world that not having a kid was totally my decision."

Narcs don't like not having a choice in a matter, but even when they don't actually want a particular option, they like knowing that they could have it if they change their mind. And this is especially true in matters that are status-enhancing in some way: college selection; employment prospects; salary and promotions at work; membership in social groups; possession of certain types of homes, cars, clothing, and other clear status signals; mate selection—and having children.

We've had a couple of deathfat Narcissists here lament losing their fertility (having destroyed it by choosing fatness instead) and thus no longer having the option to have children: Corissa Enneking (who creepily appropriates other people's kids), and Polissa Campbell (who had once refused to take in a relative's kids because the state wouldn't pay her, and after her hysterectomy was angry that the hospital PA played a lullaby whenever a baby was born). Both, like Virgie, would have made terrible mothers, and clearly never wanted kids of their own; unlike Virgie, they played it as something that was sadly and unfairly taken from them, not a consequence of their choices. But it's all the same.

The stupid news......she still thought she deserved a "pregnant belly" photo shoot to celebrate her gunt. It's not fair that we celebrate pregnant women's bellies because they don't STAY fat after having the kid.

She doesn't get that pregnancy photos aren't about big bellies; they're about a woman carrying a new life, and the drastic changes her body undergoes as she's waiting to bring an entire new human into this world. It's a huge fucking deal, watching your body go through those changes, and some women want to document it in photos.

It is not the same as showing off your perpetual burrito belly. It's not about having an excuse to be fat. It's not about fatness at all. A woman doesn't need to have ever been pregnant to understand that. And that Virgie can't? Well, deficient empathy is part of her disorder.

I've said it before, but Virgie hates other women, and is consumed by resentment and envy of anything they have that she doesn't (which gives her a lot to hate). She always has to find a way to tear other women down—whether they have the self-control to ask for a smaller piece of cake, or are experiencing a life-changing milestone such as pregnancy and motherhood. If Virgie can't have it, she's got to devalue and degrade it, and the woman who possesses it.

 

[Coo Coo Bird]

Looking at Virgie's Linktree, she's been writing a lot...
Fat Girl Gets Married Week #52: The Beginning

Hoo Boy.

This project was inspired by love and revenge.

Love: because love is wonderful and we need more love stories about the kind of people we don’t see in mass media every day. In that way, this work is dedicated to the late bloomers, the chubsters, and the weirdos and the power of writing love stories our way.

Revenge: well, that might be too strong a word for it. It’s more like the petulant delight of a well-placed “I told you so” or “I’ll show you,” a gently burning ember that lives in the belly. In that way, this work is dedicated to Sunny, my (unrequited) crush in third grade, Ashneil, my (also, unrequited) crush in fifth grade, Joey, Enrique, Nathan, Jorge, Joshua, and all the boys who told me that no one - and I mean no one - would ever love (or marry) a fat girl like me. And perhaps even more than it’s dedicated to them, it’s dedicated to the culture that shaped them, that taught them that cruelty was their birthright and that the people they harmed would never fight back. May they find the light or live out their days clutching feebly to the archaic cult of heteromasculinity that birthed both their loneliness and mediocrity. Amen.

>flat out saying the best part about getting married is showing up your ex-boyfriends
Did she pay this guy, or is he in it for the greencard?

 

[Coo Coo Bird]

Can't add this to my previous post, but apparently, in 2016 Virgie made a "short film" called Machete Babes:

Remember, vegetables are dangerous!

Also, saying vegetables are healthier than pizza is sexist:

 

[countrybumpkin]

Apparently, Virgie has lost weight. I never thought that would happen.

 

[often puzzled]

Apparently, Virgie has lost weight. I never thought that would happen.

Has she? I'm not good at gauging her weight, in large part because she is utterly slim compared to a lot of other people posted here.

Her most Instagram photo does show her wearing a more flattering outfit (in cut, if not in color). She's still using anti-weight loss tags.



As recently as mid-February, she was very anti-Ozempic:



In October, she was writing that "I'm a Plus-Size Bride & Weight Loss Is Not Part of My Wedding Plan" (link, archive).

She always looks thinner (relatively speaking) to me when she's somewhat covered up, as in that most recent Instagram photo. Her skin's texture does a lot to make her look heavier-- it's the cottage cheese effect.

 

[Constellationzero]

Apparently, Virgie has lost weight. I never thought that would happen.

PICS or GTFO

EDIT: Nah, just saw. STILL fucking ugly and FAT.

 

[thejackal2]

I'm impressed she hasn't gained but she's still fat and hit with even more of the ugly stick than Anna. Virgie always seemed like a gorl that was more doing HAES for clout than any self justification. I don't think she's particularly tied to being a deathfat as identity and if she does lose some weight she'll start touting the benefits and talking about how great she feels.

 

[xivnuhranx]

I think she weight cycles. She might be losing weight slowly, who knows. Fatties eat anyone who dares to lose weight as a fat activist. There is NO way she will ever say anything about losing weight nor will she make it obvious by doing quick weight loss.

Spoiler: 2022

2022:

Spoiler: 2023

2023:

 

[vlcsr]

I'm impressed she hasn't gained but she's still fat and hit with even more of the ugly stick than Anna. Virgie always seemed like a gorl that was more doing HAES for clout than any self justification. I don't think she's particularly tied to being a deathfat as identity and if she does lose some weight she'll start touting the benefits and talking about how great she feels.

Virgie is only HAES/fat acceptance because there’s no uggo acceptance movement and she needs somewhere to project her insecurities over the fact that she was born with that face. In many ways, Virgie has it worse than normal fatsos because you can lose weight but it’s a lot harder to lose ugly.

Also, she obviously gets off on being “justifiably” condescending and nasty to everyone. Can’t tell her she’s a bitch if she’s fighting for fat rights….right?

 

[xivnuhranx]

Virgie is only HAES/fat acceptance because there’s no uggo acceptance movement and she needs somewhere to project her insecurities over the fact that she was born with that face. In many ways, Virgie has it worse than normal fatsos because you can lose weight but it’s a lot harder to lose ugly.

Also, she obviously gets off on being “justifiably” condescending and nasty to everyone. Can’t tell her she’s a bitch if she’s fighting for fat rights….right?

With the amount of money she's spent on trips, clothes, food--plastic surgery could've helped. Neck lipo, nose job, skin resurfacing, buccal fat removal. It would probably be under 20k. 30k tops.