Are you lost needing femoid advice post here - For the poor bastard's who dare or are just curious

[umami's milk]

lolcow.farms seems to be the only genuinely female-ONLY space on the internet. crystal.cafe has been victim of a coup d'état by troons. The scrote-free doctrine of lolcow.farms is enforced pretty heavily to some rather entertaining results. Nonnies regularly throw accusations and reports of anons being stealth moids/scrotes (lolcow's term of choice) in hopes of getting users banned. The farmhands have tried to remedy this problem by encouraging users to simply report suspected males and removing accusatory posts in favor of redirecting threads back to the topic at hand.

I think lolcow.farm had a (gay) male working IT for the site (lol), but Regina (Null for lolcow) has mainly been managing things, and I expect the staff to be female in turn. There's a thread on here for them.

I have been reading the man hate thread and I am legitimately horrified at some of the things being written there. Not because I find it is offensive or anything but because I have realized how little I actually know about women.

I assure you the women of the farm have gone through a similar process by exposure to A&N.

@KittyGremlin I have made a shitty mockup of what the hypothetical bug should look with the potential colors trying to account for sun, reflection of the sky, environment, paint drying slightly darker than expected.

 

[KittyGremlin]

@KittyGremlin I have made a shitty mockup of what the hypothetical bug should look with the potential colors trying to account for sun, reflection of the sky, environment, paint drying slightly darker than expected.

Dang. That looks kinda fresh, much better than expected. Might even lean the color a little brighter too, it seems to jive with the milder interior just fine. I'll also do a bit of a two-tone below the chrome strip on the door/fenders, just not sure if I'll go with the same shade of tan or white.

Either way, thanks for the extra effort.

 

[cia-log]

There's something to this strategy which is appealing. One could see it as wildly optimistic romcom fantasizing, and if they expect their soulmate to fall into their lap with zero effort then it's definitely wishful thinking. But if it's a preference for living your life without prioritizing finding "the one" and you happen to meet someone compatible along the way, I think it's a good way to go about things.

I agree that focusing too squarely on dating is not a healthy way to be, my problem with this strategy is that like men who hyper-focus on being tough and masculine, that people who avoid thinking about actually finding a partner or who are always "working on themselves" to the point of being frozen in time are very obviously more scared of the consequences of failing than they need to be. Of course rejection hurts, bad relationships suck, but just hoping for things to work themselves out one day is just not going to achieve anything.

I worry about these women because I care for them, they're friends of mine and I can see them going down the same rabbithole that a few male friends of mine went down when they got sucked up into this whole MGTOW movement. I know they're lonely and I know they're masking their insecurities to look like strengths, I'm just trying to figure out the language to broach the subject with so that they don't feel embarrassed that someone's pointing it out.

 

[🔪Cold Steel Brand Rep🔪]

There's no singular reason and it depends.

Way to answer the question while still managing to say fuck-all, might as well just say they're sluts because they have the option and no other choice.

 

[Neurotypical Mantis]

how long does it take to knit a scarf if you don't really know what you're doing

 

[bile demon]

After that break up i married , divorced and now partnered with a kid.

Glad to hear that finding a good man worthy of having a child with has finally made you realize that disloyalty, selfishness and lack of empathy are flaws of human character in general rather than being gender-specific, so you're no longer seething about previous bad relationships and writing MOIDS MUST PERISH-themed treaties on the net.

 

[Spruce Supremacist]

Don't know if it's been asked before, so pardon if it's a repeat.
Is wealth/luxury important to most women or is it more of a cultural thing?

I've grown up in a very low income family so frugality in ingrained in me, even now when I can afford things that my family could not when I was little I still choose to find the least expensive solution, such as doing repairs or maintenance myself around the house or on the car, even if I have no prior knowledge on tackling such things. Luxury does not appeal to me as it feels alien and dishonest - I much more appreciate a humble lifestyle, making the most with what you have and being grateful for it.

Through observing others, online and offline, I've been lead to believe that most women do not think like that. Do women really find that offputting? Is it truly over for me unless I adjust my worldview on this?

 

[TapewormSalesman]

Through observing others, online and offline, I've been lead to believe that most women do not think like that. Do women really find that unappealing? Is it truly over for me unless I adjust my worldview on this?

Do not take instagram addicts for the whole womankind, the ones obsessed over social media seem to be the ones most intent on flaunting nonexistent wealth around.
There's plenty of women who think like you. Hell, I completely agree on the fixing part not because of the money aspect, but because the more self-sufficient you are, the better off you'll be if something goes wrong.
That said, don't be a complete scrooge, if two scrooges meet, the children will suffer, if one is a stern scrooge and the other is not, resentment might build.

 

[Justa Grata Honoria]

Glad to hear that finding a good man worthy of having a child with has finally made you realize that disloyalty, selfishness and lack of empathy are flaws of human character in general rather than being gender-specific, so you're no longer seething about previous bad relationships and writing MOIDS MUST PERISH-themed treaties on the net.

Fuck off . You are trying to minimise what every single statistics shows that western men are disproportionately more likely the shitty partner and detrimental for woman's wellbeing , health and life. I will demonstrate it with this stuff simple survey/ research done in USA .

Single Moms: Less Housework, More Leisure Than Married Moms​

Without a spouse in the house, single moms do fewer chores and get more sleep

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/living-single/201906/single-moms-less-housework-more-leisure-married-moms%3famp

How the fuck a single mom has better quality of life than married woman with a man to help. Can someone explain to me this besides the obvious that men are burden not helpful addition to women?


Edit: i am not going to tell a woman to ignore every single statistics that show they're are better off single because i have gotten into partnership with kids. To reach there was hell , i had to sift through endless trash , deal with petty ego trips and at the end i got lucky. Not everyone gets lucky . If i didn't wanted kids i would be right now in cat lady covenant with no icky boys allowed sign in front of it. I do not judge women who have thrown in the towel there more than one way to live your life including being single with large friends group . If you want to meme that shit at least have some shitty statistic to support it . As of right now you are just trying to minimize the glaring reality that has been proven from Statistics to personal experiences that men suck much more than women so much so that women are actually better off being single moms than married.

 

[Chromeo]

I have been reading the man hate thread and I am legitimately horrified at some of the things being written there. Not because I find it is offensive or anything but because I have realized how little I actually know about women.

I really can't see women the same way anymore. Is there any literature I can read to understand the female perspective of the world?

Rest assured, man-hating women are a very small fraction of women on this Earth. If women hated men the way men hate women, you would all be dead by now. In the first world, you're infinitely more likely to run into a woman that would let you poison her dog if you were sowwy enough after the fact than you are to run into a man-hating radfem (source: have been that woman. my pets are okay now.)
If you're looking for a radfem reading list, my suggestions would be

• Why Does He Do That - Lundy Bancroft
• The Bell Jar - Sylvia Plath
• The Handmaid's Tale - Margaret Atwood (this link is a graphic novel adaptation)
• The SCUM Manifesto - Valerie Solanas
• Are Women Human? - Catharine Mackinnon

On the complete opposite side of my reading list, there are some books I find relatable as a girl/woman that are MUCH lighter and less serious. These are all pretty much appropriate for teenagers, so if you like a lower reading level or have kids, these ones are also good:

• Anya's Ghost by Vera Brosgol
• Are You There God? It's Me, Margaret by Judy Blume
• Sahara Special by Esme Raji Codell
• The House on Mango Street by Sandra Cisneros
• An Egg on Three Sticks by Jackie Fisher

These aren't exhaustive lists, just books I've read that I think have some insight into women/girls. I'm sure other Kiwi-ettes have more suggestions.

 

[Tragon Dirtle]

how long does it take to knit a scarf if you don't really know what you're doing

It genuinely depends on how big the needles you're using are, and you're probably better off using the very big trainee needles to begin with. You could have a scarf in a week.

Spoiler: SCUM manifesto PL

This was actually what I was trying to avoid PLing about before. It is man-hating but it's considered to be a parody of woman-hating by classical philosophers such as Aristotle and Thomas Aquinas, aka the godfathers of the western canon, whereas SCUM is treated like Mein Kampf. At my book club, the single ladies and lesbians were all for history talk, the partnered ladies were like FUCK YEAH 100% UNIRONIC TRUTH NOT EVEN A PARODY MEN DON'T HAVE SOULS OR PERSONALITIES AND NEED TO LEECH OFF WOMEN TO FEEL ALIVE. BREAK OUT THE MIMOSAS.

 

[CowPox]

I once held the door open for a homely woman at the library and she looked at me like i had just tried to rape her. She was unattractive in the sort of way that she was just utterly forgettable to most men. Could work with a group of males and just go totally ignored for years. Instead of the strange attraction a female will sometimes inspire simply by always being around. A ghost woman i call them etc.

 

[Otterly]

how long does it take to knit a scarf if you don't really know what you're doing

What kind of scarf? Long one or a wrap?
Got a pic of the kind of thing you’re wanting?

 

[suspended animation]

Is wealth/luxury important to most women or is it more of a cultural thing?

Younger women (teens to mid 20s) are more likely to be materialistic, but most will grow out of it. If you're in that age range, aim to date older women or just bide your time until the women around you grow up. I hope it isn't a cultural thing for your sake.

I still choose to find the least expensive solution, such as doing repairs or maintenance myself around the house or on the car, even if I have no prior knowledge on tackling such things

Women who have lived on their own will be all over men who are handy around the house, so make sure you mention this to women you like!

 

[JamusActimus]

Women who have lived on their own will be all over men who are handy around the house, so make sure you mention this to women you like!

Same with cooking. Women love a man that can cook. I am always surprised with how much women appreciate the fact I am good at cooking.

 

[Shidoen]

International women’s day is over, no women exist for the rest of the year.

 

[ConsentAccidentVictimNo98]

Nah women are cool they can exist because they make A&H mods seethe which means that they're funnier than the A&H lot. Which means women are, infact, funny. Check mate liberals

 

[Neurotypical Mantis]

What kind of scarf? Long one or a wrap?
Got a pic of the kind of thing you’re wanting?

the generic alfredo-noodle long lad. got me a pair of needles and a crochet hook to make some lil decorations. i used to know how to knit as a kid so we'll see if i pick it up easily. i've been doing a lot of kandi so that's helped me with stitch-type weavy stuff

 

[Balanced Boomer]

I dunno if this is a good place to ask, but I figure why not.

So my wife likes Pusheen and Cinnamoroll stuff a lot. There's a lot of little figures she sees that she'd like to get, but it comes in the form of blind boxes. You hardly ever get what you want from those unless you're wanting to drop a lot of money.

I tried looking around online for buying individual pieces or maybe a blind box trading community she could check out, but I didn't really find anything. If anyone has any advice, I'd appreciate it.

 

[Day Walker]

I tried looking around online for buying individual pieces or maybe a blind box trading community she could check out, but I didn't really find anything. If anyone has any advice, I'd appreciate it.

Try Facebook, there are all kinds of groups for trading collectibles.