That is some black pilling right there. I hope you are wrong and she get her life together, but if you are right and hit her near 30s, there is no point of return.
If it helps, she's not average at all. Plenty of young women leave abusive relationships, escape abusive households, come to terms with their past, are able to understand themselves and take charge of their mental health, and or get clean of addiction to something. They'll find families of people who care about them, develop social circles and support from hobbies like kayaking and reading and lifestyles like moming and church, and have mostly normal lives. You'd be surprised at who's been through some shit as you become better acquainted with them.
Grace is in a different group, the type of crazy person who has to climb one hell of a mountain to get even close to lower mental illness, and that's if her brain chemistry lets her. I was asking earlier if there were possible ways for her to get better when you have Borderline Personality Disorder this severe, but we can't change people that drastically unless they want to change. IIRC the resistance to treatment for BPD is 80%, with some genuinely good 20% working hard to get themselves in better shape. It's tragic because Grace is a young pretty woman who could enjoy normality if her whole life wasn't set up for failure. It's hard to figure out where the blame for being under her dad's thumb ends and her own bad choices begin.
One of the most painful things in life is learning you can't save everyone. It's a horrid thing to watch people destroy themselves, especially if they are people you once loved, but it's something that happens that is out of your and everyone else's control. The best thing to do is to mourn for a while, but make peace with it. There's a lot of other people who will share your experiences, watching someone self destruct, and comfort can be found in sharing experiences. Not all of us are set for self destruction and you shouldn't feel like you have to give up every time you see someone struggle, you just have to learn when to hold them and when to fold them.
Grace is tragic since she never had a chance and is pretty and young. There are several other cows who are beyond saving, they just lose more sympathy because they're older and slimy. Keffals comes to mind: he seemed to be a fucking bad egg back in school when Otm Shank revealed he tried to have sex with the family's chihuahua, then further confirmed it by embezzling money to do drugs for the Canadian Communist party, and continued his rollercoaster of insulting everyone, hedonism, and blaming everyone else into who we know him as today. He had and has no chance of not being a shit, but he's less sympathetic since he chose a lot of this. Ethan Ralph of all people was once more sympathetic in Kiwi eyes: you can go to the atart of his original thread then skip around highlights to see what happened. But the gunt burned every bridge and every single person with his own inner demons and small man ego as we have seen. Those two men aren't as sympathetic as Grace, who may be the same amount of mentally bad but it's more comparable to the horrorcow abusive parents threads, where there seems to be no exit until the children are away from their parents.
What these giant walls of text are trying to say is that I understand your feelings man, but don't get too blackpilled. Temper optimism with caution and realism, but don't lose all hope completely. There are other men and women like Grace who controlled into hell by their parents and genetics who are some of the great tragedies of the world, a bitter pill to swallow. But there's a lot more people who do make it, and learning to make peace with what we have is the optimal strategy. Not all of us are making it out ok, but it means the ones who are are all the more precious.
Thanks for reading my long gay speech, won't derail the thread anymore.
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