Are you lost needing femoid advice post here - For the poor bastard's who dare or are just curious

[Halo]

I dunno if this is a good place to ask, but I figure why not.

So my wife likes Pusheen and Cinnamoroll stuff a lot. There's a lot of little figures she sees that she'd like to get, but it comes in the form of blind boxes. You hardly ever get what you want from those unless you're wanting to drop a lot of money.

I tried looking around online for buying individual pieces or maybe a blind box trading community she could check out, but I didn't really find anything. If anyone has any advice, I'd appreciate it.

I like consooming cute jap stuff and use ebay a lot when trying to find specific merch in blind boxes without having to gamble.

 

[The Holy Empress Theodora]

the generic alfredo-noodle long lad. got me a pair of needles and a crochet hook to make some lil decorations. i used to know how to knit as a kid so we'll see if i pick it up easily. i've been doing a lot of kandi so that's helped me with stitch-type weavy stuff

It could be 12-30+ hours of work depending on your yarn/pattern/speed. If you aren't picking it up easily try crochet (faster and more forgiving), most people have a preference for one or the other.

 

[Yeeted Teet]

the generic alfredo-noodle long lad. got me a pair of needles and a crochet hook to make some lil decorations. i used to know how to knit as a kid so we'll see if i pick it up easily. i've been doing a lot of kandi so that's helped me with stitch-type weavy stuff

Scarves aren't great for for complete beginners, everyone goes for them because they seem simple, which they are but they're also boring and have no definite end point so knitting them can feel like a drag. You might be better off starting with something smaller like a hat, there are patterns that are knit flat and then joined at the end (like this one) so you don't have to worry about working in the round.

 

[Rekeita's Kidneys]

Do women actually exist?

 

[Otterly]

I really can't see women the same way anymore. Is there any literature I can read to understand the female perspective of the world?

Not really, no. Women aren’t a hive mind and I certainly don’t read things by women and identify with it all.

Is wealth/luxury important to most women or is it more of a cultural thing?

It’s important to some women. You should probably avoid them

I still choose to find the least expensive solution, such as doing repairs or maintenance myself around the house or on the car, even if I have no prior knowledge on tackling such things.

Now in general this is a very good thing. It’s good to be handy, and a man who can whip you up a garden arbour or re tile the roof is a very very good thing. A lot of women enjoy DIY as well and having a bloke around for the heavier lifting and stuff that needs two to get j to place is great. My one caveat is that don’t be the guy who penny pinches when it’s important to actually get a pro in. That’s gas, electric and any plumbing past the simple stuff. Some stuff needs specialist tools or knowledge or just a guy with the right certificates so you don’t void your home insurance.

the generic alfredo-noodle long lad. got me a pair of needles and a crochet hook to make some lil decorations. i used to know how to knit as a kid so we'll see if i pick it up easily. i've been doing a lot of kandi so that's helped me with stitch-type weavy stuff

How big are the needles? Are you knitting back and forth or in the round (will it be a long tube?) on big 4mm needles and a skinny scarf maybe 20 hours or so? I’d start with a washcloth to get the stitch and tension right.

 

[Oligarca Caballero]

Women aren’t a hive mind and I certainly don’t read things by women and identify with it all.

I understand this perfectly, I just think it would be insightful since I don't get the female perspective in literature that often.

 

[CowPox]

I feel melancholy ladies what should i do etc?

 

[Gaussiana]

I understand this perfectly, I just think it would be insightful since I don't get the female perspective in literature that often.

She's somewhat en vogue right now, but especially if you're a spic and can read in Spanish I recommend Alejandra Pizarnik. I've also been enjoying Mieko Kawakami. Jane Austen is a must if you haven't read her. If you want more specific recommendations you can DM, I don't want to derail the thread with literature sperging.

 

[Neurotypical Mantis]

How big are the needles? Are you knitting back and forth or in the round (will it be a long tube?) on big 4mm needles and a skinny scarf maybe 20 hours or so? I’d start with a washcloth to get the stitch and tension right.

got some 4.5mms and i got a lot of yarn so plenty of room for trial and error. i think i'm gonna do back and forth but for now it's just another unstarted project

 

[KittyGremlin]

What is your overall opinion about modern dating overall? What do you think about women who simply date for sex and (common manosphere talking points aside) if they're worth a guy's time if he's looking for something long term?

Yeah these sound like super generic questions but I was bantering with my coworker a few days ago about this. He said I would do fine if I tried online dating but these just don't sound like the sorts of relationships I'd want. Managing emotional attachments sounds like a nightmare in those types of scenarios.

 

[Narwhal]

He said I would do fine if I tried online dating but these just don't sound like the sorts of relationships I'd want.

I personally haven't used any online dating apps but almost all my friends have at some point. Some of my closest friends actually met their current wife/husband/long-term partner through Tinder, others just had some fun, others got bored of it after a couple of months and deleted it. From what I gather, for the people who were looking for a long-term relationship it took longer to find "the one" but in the end it was worth it.

I guess it depends on what you make of it. You can always put in your bio that you're not looking for a fling.

 

[KittyGremlin]

I personally haven't used any online dating apps but almost all my friends have at some point. Some of my closest friends actually met their current wife/husband/long-term partner through Tinder, others just had some fun, others got bored of it after a couple of months and deleted it. From what I gather, for the people who were looking for a long-term relationship it took longer to find "the one" but in the end it was worth it.

I guess it depends on what you make of it. You can always put in your bio that you're not looking for a fling.

I see. I hear it's not as likely today but may be worth a try.

Another thing my coworker said which I found interesting is that according to him, I should extend my same no-bullshit attitude I have at work to dating. What do you think about that? Or do you think JBYS is the best approach? Bear in mind he only uses it to get laid.

 

[grimacefetishist]

I see. I hear it's not as likely today but may be worth a try.

Another thing my coworker said which I found interesting is that according to him, I should extend my same no-bullshit attitude I have at work to dating. What do you think about that? Or do you think JBYS is the best approach? Bear in mind he only uses it to get laid.

I tried dating apps one time, but I find the swipe left and right aspect confusing, and realized at some point I had been accidentally unmatched people I thought were interesting, and I've been too mortified to go back since.

I need some clearly marked yes or no button, I'm doomed forever if I have to play an unassisted memory game.

 

[NoReturn]

I feel melancholy ladies what should i do etc?

Pick up something heavy. Repeat until tired. It make endorphins go.

 

[Narwhal]

Another thing my coworker said which I found interesting is that according to him, I should extend my same no-bullshit attitude I have at work to dating. What do you think about that? Or do you think JBYS is the best approach? Bear in mind he only uses it to get laid.

If you are a very direct person why should you pretend otherwise? Granted, if you're a cunt 90% of the time it'll be impossible to find another person to be with but it's better to be upfront about who you are, how you are and what you are, otherwise you'll spend the entire relationship pretending to be something you are not.

I don't know what your expectations are or what you're looking for precisely but personally I'd rather be single for the rest of my life than be with a man I don't love nor respect, or somebody with whom I can't be brutally honest. I am already a complete person, I can take care of myself really well, I enjoy my own company and I have amazing friends and family. A healthy, happy relationship to me does not mean "becoming one", it means that I choose to share myself and my life with another man who's just as complete and at peace with himself as I am. Finding such a person may be difficult but it's worthwhile.

 

[KittyGremlin]

If you are a very direct person why should you pretend otherwise? Granted, if you're a cunt 90% of the time it'll be impossible to find another person to be with but it's better to be upfront about who you are, how you are and what you are, otherwise you'll spend the entire relationship pretending to be something you are not.

I don't know what your expectations are or what you're looking for precisely but personally I'd rather be single for the rest of my life than be with a man I don't love nor respect, or somebody with whom I can't be brutally honest. I am already a complete person, I can take care of myself really well, I enjoy my own company and I have amazing friends and family. A healthy, happy relationship to me does not mean "becoming one", it means that I choose to share myself and my life with another man who's just as complete and at peace with himself as I am. Finding such a person may be difficult but it's worthwhile.

Thanks for your wisdom. If I'm being honest I still need to work on myself a bit until I can really commit to another person but I'm almost at a point where I can actually start looking.

 

[suspended animation]

I just think it would be insightful since I don't get the female perspective in literature that often.

I second the Jane Austen recommendation; Sense & Sensibility does a great job of portraying different women's perspectives and approaches to life. One sister has the "sense" and represses her emotions too strictly, and the other has too much sensibility and is too impulsive and nearly enslaved by her emotions.

Another historical favorite of mine is Daphne du Maurier's "My Cousin Rachel". It's told from the man's perspective but it's such a well written book that you understand Rachel's motivations and how their differing worldviews shape the events of the novel.

 

[AWizard]

Spoiler

(I met my husband on 4chan, I've no firsthand "dating" experience lmao)

Was this before 4chan (and I guess forums, the internet and geekdom as a whole) went down the toilet?

 

[Friend of Dorothy Parker]

What is your overall opinion about modern dating overall? What do you think about women who simply date for sex and (common manosphere talking points aside) if they're worth a guy's time if he's looking for something long term?

Yeah these sound like super generic questions but I was bantering with my coworker a few days ago about this. He said I would do fine if I tried online dating but these just don't sound like the sorts of relationships I'd want. Managing emotional attachments sounds like a nightmare in those types of scenarios.

If someone is just looking for sex then they're a risk if you're looking for different. Applies to men and women.

The bigger danger is those who don't disclose.

And of course, people change their minds.

But there are plenty of people who say they are looking to find a relationship.

 

[TapewormSalesman]

Was this before 4chan (and I guess forums, the internet and geekdom as a whole) went down the toilet?

Depends on where you draw that line. Was about 6 years ago now, so it was definitely not as dogshit as today, but the cracks were showing bright and clear and discord was a big thing already.