One thing that's been grinding my gears lately - a children's show on BBC called "Vida the Vet".
On the surface it's a completely inoffensive cartoon about a little girl who goes through a little door at the end of her garden every day and emerges in the magical land of Sweetwood which has talking animals and where she's a vetinarian.
So what's bothering me? Well, Vida has two dads. Two mixed race dads. Of course.
But that's not what's bothering me. That's just the surface level. This goes deeper. What bothers me is that it makes me feel like a hypocrite.
What do I mean by that? Well, it's basically LGBTQIAP+++ done in the most tasteful, non-intrusive way possible. You usually only see one of the two dads at the very start or end of each episode, so watch any given episode in isolation and you probably wouldn't even notice. I have seen episodes where they both briefly appear together but these are rare, and they don't do any gay shit. She just calls one of them dad and the other papa.
So to (finally) get to the point I'm trying to make, this makes me feel like a hypocrite because I used to, and largely still do, consider myself a live-and-let-live liberal. A 90s liberal. Yeah, we can all get along, just leave other people alone.
So if you had asked me back in the day what "good" gay representation on telly looks like, I might have said something like this. It's not "in your face", it doesn't affect the story, it's not preachy, etc.
What makes me feel like a hypocrite is that I feel like I got what I asked for, and - if I'm honest with myself - I still find it it utterly, utterly repulsive. Instead of this being "how to do it well", I'm actually disgusted that this type of thing is essentially being snuck into a TV show aimed squarely at kids, in a way that is actually more difficult to even complain about than if it were more obnoxious.