If you don't see why those are strange things to say to a 17 year old as a 41 year old, you're probably as autistic as he is.
Never said they weren't strange, or sus, or misguided, or ill-advised, or even inappropriate. Read what I wrote. All I said was that they weren't overtly sexual. Molly Dwyer said he never sent her anything explicit or lewd or sexual. The absolute worst you can say about them is that they were suggestive. And even then it's rather mildly suggestive.
He didn't even run with the bait when she told Piskor she was a "slut for linework".
I'm not conflating it with rape or grooming
YOU aren't, but there were plenty of people doing exactly that and calling for Ed Piskor's livelihood. People with some influence and some clout in his field.
You're saying what he was doing wasn't sexual/inappropriate,
Again, never said it wasn't inappropriate, just that it wasn't sexual. It's mildly suggestive, but "sexual" requires the reader to do a little lifting.
but also saying women need to be taught to tolerate/accept advances from men old enough to be their father?
Are you reading some other guy's post or something? Where did I say "women need to be taught to tolerate or accept advances" from older men?
I said women are taught that ANY unwanted or uncomfortable encounters with men (regardless of the man's age) are to be treated as violations of their person.
I'm not talking about rape, I'm not talking about abuse, I'm talking about feeling uncomfortable, which is all that happened to Molly Dwyer.
Since these incidents aren't punishable by the state, women will simply put them on blast and let the internet drag them for something and call it by a name they feel fits the offense like "grooming" or "pedophilia", even if it's not those things.
If you were his age and had a 17 year old daughter (which he is plenty old enough to have), would you want a friend of yours in her DMs like that?
Nope, I sure wouldn't.
I also wouldn't have a news crew track down his elderly parents or write "JOHN SMITH LIKES LITTLE HIGH SCHOOL GIRLS" on a sign next to his house. I also wouldn't continue to be his friend for several years after the fact until I decided to get pissed off about it. I'd just not interact with him again, which is what anyone should do with someone that makes them feel uncomfortable. Pretty easy to do when you live hundreds of miles away and only interact with that person online.