why are you still single - and general discussion of the dating game

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I'm single again since i broke up with my ex 5 months ago. Still single because i am busy as fuck and I haven't bothered looking except for a handfull of dates I had since then
 
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Party Hat Wurmple said:
Which is hilarious because. Then you get to be mean and nasty.
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Ahahaha, you got more mischief than me. I just feel bad.
Nique la mere de Macron said:
I understand the pricing out phenomenon. Dating men with less money isn’t an issue—it’s the dating men who only want money that to me, is worse than being alone.
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I think this issue pertains to women too. But I suppose it's easier for women these days. I remember my birthmom watching those brain rotting celebrity gossip shows and there were a lot of segments about ancient dinosaurs dating big titty pageant queens in their early 20s.

It always struck an uncomfortable note with me.
Flabba Wabba Jabba said:
Never had a girlfriend (per se), but girls I went to college with or have worked with have told me that I am deeply obsessive and that's a huge red flag.
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I got this too. Got told that I'm "too weird" for others due to my hobbies and interests. Which are just nerd hobbies. But I really felt I was an outlier in a community where a lot of people felt homogenous.

Flabba Wabba Jabba said:
I have never had an intellectual conversation with a woman that hasn't eventually erupted into an argument or them not understanding what I'm talking about. I just don't even try with politics unless I'm trying to be inflammatory lol.
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Politics is just a good way to be angry all day. Mainly because everyone I've met tends to be of the "support current thing and popular media" variety.
Geddy Lee's Fee and See said:
A lot of the problem with the current dating environment is that people aren't told what to look for in a potential spouse, so people just use the most obvious criteria to decide, which leads to a lot of problems and a lot of unnecessarily broken hearts. Sex and money are easy to obtain and to some degree necessary to have a successful relationship, but they don't make for a successful on if they become the focus instead of the means.
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Maybe unrelated but it reminds me of a convo I had some years back.

Was talking to this girl; note, not for dating. She was a friend and I'm not into women. But anyway, we talked and she mentioned this err...sad tale about some friends of hers who were going out and how the boyfriend got some severe medical issue that left him bedridden with his organs in a bag.

His girlfriend coped by starting affairs and having sex left and right because "she really needed the intimacy and he couldn't fulfill her while he was sick. He forgave her after a while. True love."

I am still floored by that story and mortified by how she justified it.

I eventually stopped talking to the girl for unrelated reasons. Turns out she was a hard drug "activist" and wanted all drugs to be legal. Even invited me to a party at her house in the woods while assuring me it would be fine because everyone else there "had a mental illness"

I thought "Okay, let's see" and went but
left soon after because everyone started doing cocaine and meth and shit. I dunno about you but even if I am a wackjob, I don't want to sit in a cabin in the woods with a bunch of other wackjobs I do not know, high off their mind on every substance known to man.
Duke Nukem said:
And "supports the current thing."
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Yeah, I think that's another reason why I'm weary of dating. I got unpopular opinions. I'm a contrarian by happenstance because of it. It's very rare to meet people who will not be horrified about that.
 
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DenseDeerFather said:
Ahahaha, you got more mischief than me. I just feel bad.
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People are too soft and afraid of fucking with people. It's fun though. Especially if it's going bad anyway. No use in wasting anyone's time.

Nique la mere de Macron said:
I understand the pricing out phenomenon. Dating men with less money isn’t an issue—it’s the dating men who only want money that to me, is worse than being alone.
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Well you kind of are land locking yourself. If you make so much money, what do you need a man for at all? What man is going to feel appreciated in your household when he provides nothing for you? Especially once you reach an older age, the guys who want "a cougar with money" are pretty much going to be the only ones interested in you at all. I don't know, I think in general money makes a lot of problems for women dating-wise.

If I were you, I'd try to hide how much you make as hard you as possibly can and see if that works any better.
 
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Being around women is mentally exhausting because I have to dumb myself down and treat them with kid gloves in order to get along with them. I value privacy and free time, both of which would be eaten up, and the legal system would enable her to have a lot of power over me and my future. So there is nothing but disincentive to be in any kind of relationship. Being single and having a small group of close friends who are all also single is far better. Bros before hoes.
 
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The biggest reason is because I'm just not relationship material. Meaning I don't put up with women's BS. I have no interest in it either. I also have no interest in making sure they are happy. All I really want is sex. Other than that, I want to be left alone and do whatever I wish. I really don't want some woman around trying to make herself happy by making me miserable. So that means I'm single. Women don't want to fuck so I have no use for them. I just stay by myself. I'm happier that way. I really don't like people in general. My experience with people hasn't been all that great.

The other reason is I am broke like most Millennials. If there is some woman out there that wants to go out on a super cheap date and then have sex with me and fuck off and only call me when she wants to have sex that would be great. But that isn't how shit goes. I can't afford to have kids. I can't afford to support anyone either.

You really shouldn't be spending exorbitant amounts of money on dates anyway because they are just dates. I see guys online talking about how a date now costs hundreds of dollars. It's fucking ridiculous. $50 at the most is what you should spend if even that. If the woman wants to pay for her end of it go ahead and let her. Any bitch that expects you to drop $200 or $300 on a date is fucking garbage. You can get a whore cheaper than that and get right to the fun part without all the stupid BS.

So it's just me whatever free porn I can find and the ol' Mk II hand. It never says no and I don't need to spend $300 on it to make it happy.
 
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Johnny Salami said:
No cute tomboy autistic femcel girls to keep me company
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A tomboy would be nice honestly, but I would settle for a nice, intelligent woman who has distinct personality and is fun to be around and someone you can hang out with. Ever since 2016, I've noticed all the girls at my college were either whores or bores (sometimes both) and I'm sick of it honestly. I knew and know of so many women in the past who are interesting people yet still feminine. I won't settle for some dumb zoomer thot or basic bitch girl who I only interact with for pussy. I actually want to love and cherish her and not just deal with her. I'm reqlly sick of social media homogenizing and destroying all types of subcultures and hangout spots in addition to making women exponentionally more neurotic than what is natural. I hate this gay dystopian future.
 
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geckogoy said:
This is the kind of thing dudes generally look back on and cringe
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If you have garbage taste in women or actual sense of self maybe, which really is most dudes if I am being honest. I don't know why you want to do the exact same thing your boomer forbears did and marry a boring woman you grow to hate over time, but you do you.
 
Flabba Wabba Jabba said:
I have never had an intellectual conversation with a woman that hasn't eventually erupted into an argument
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I've found the trick there is to have enough confidence in yourself and your views not to be drawn into an argument - if she gets emotional, remain calm while making it clear that her getting angry is not going to change your opinion. Don't show anything except slight amusement that she's acting silly and childish, while you are relaxed and in control of yourself.

In my experience, it's both effective at defusing those situations and also tends to be attractive as the traditional "masculine" attitude.
 
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Silvana'sPickle said:
I work full time, but I've decided to try and start dating. Honestly, I don't feel very hopeful. It seems like a tall order to find a man who says nigger and hates trannies.
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Well..

Geddy Lee's Fee and See said:
If you have garbage taste in women or actual sense of self maybe, which really is most dudes if I am being honest. I don't know why you want to do the exact same thing your boomer forbears did and marry a boring woman you grow to hate over time, but you do you.
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At the end of the day, family is literally all there is in life to do. After a certain age, you will not accomplish much else. You think you can think accomplishing goals or whatever are fulfilling, and they might be to you, but in the grand scheme of things, it's empty. Family and kids are all that matters. You don't have to grow to hate each other over time. It comes in waves, you can just handle them better. I don't know why you people are so hellbent on the idea that you HAVE to become your parents. You don't. You saw their failings. Just don't make the same mistakes. So no, everything you said is wrong.

feral cat #6385 said:
Because being married sucked and left me homeless for almost a year. I like being free and will never put myself through that sort of thing again.
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You can be a family without being married. Most western countries are openly hostile towards marriage but not everywhere has common law. If you ever need a woman in your life, go to those places.

Wood Logger said:
I don’t know where to find decent women in real life.
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You can't in Burgerland. You have to leave Burgerland. You'll find the quality of women is night and day. All of them. Every single one of them. American women are trash and worthless.
 
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Wood Logger said:
I don’t know where to find decent women in real life.
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I went on a date recently and when I asked the woman what her hobbies or passions are, she literally said she doesn't have any except "hang out with her friends." I asked for clarification and if that's all, to which I received no clarification. Unexpectedly, the conversation was dull and she had nothing interesting to contribute. I don't know where to find decent women either.
 
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