Would you date someone who was a call girl?

[Peaches the Wonder Cat]

Abortion is murder.

I also know more than a few women who weren't able to have children due to having an abortion, sometimes even just one. It matters if the man wants to start a family.

Plus he probably doesn't want to be laughed at when all his coworkers see his wedding photo and said "I did her in the alley back in the day!"

 

[Sparkletor 2.0]

If it was good enough for dad it's good enough for me!

 

[GunCar Gary]

Values can change over time. If the person extricated themselves from that lifestyle and developed values that wound up aligning with yours, would it make a difference?

if someone had moved past that life and it had no effect on their current lifestyle then how would the guy ever find out? just never tell them. never bring it up. why would you?

 

[Justa Grata Honoria]

I hear you, but a handful of close friends and family know and I think it would be wrong to keep that from my boyfriend. Secrets from the distant past can also reveal themselves no matter how careful the person is. If, God forbid, that information did come out I would want my SO to hear it from me. Being blindsided by something like that would be so humiliating to them, and even though there's only a small chance of them finding out, it's not impossible.
It's about ethics in whoreing.

You are stupid and will end up forever single , men would not grant you the same favour if the roles were reversed . Second you are even more stupid for keeping people around you that know stuff that can end careers and relationships . Why the fuck you told family? How dumb are you when it comes to people . No wonder you ended up whoring . If you know half about men and their dick thinking you would have probably made the same money with far less dicks sucked .

 

[Ravier Xavenblood]

No, a hooker is a bridge too far.

I would consider dating a former stripper if she was otherwise great (pretty, sweet, generous, smart) and it was just a brief period in her past.

My friend dated a former stripper and later married her.

They are still married to this day and it's many years later.

She was kind of an unusual case and only did it for about a year or two then quit.

I think hooker is fundamentally different from stripper. The former I think takes your soul away much faster.

Studies show the more sexual partners people have before marriage the more likely it is to end in divorce.

In either case (hooker or stripper), both have very high rates of drug and alcohol abuse so that's a major potential issue.

Wouldn't he get paranoid about guys recognizing her from her old job? Imagine all the snickers from guys who paid to see her titties and got lap dances. There's no doubt in my mind that a lot of girls who do that hate it and end up regretting it in the end, but the social consequences remain. I admire this man's confidence.

Former OF/camgirls are slightly less bad (as in, the ones who only did solo porn and didn't fuck men on camera) because at least they weren't doing things IRL but again, the worry that they secretly enjoyed it and are doing it behind your back would never go away. Plus you have to deal with them getting messages from their old "fans", as pathetic as those men are. Just an ever- present reminder of her questionable past decisions.

if someone had moved past that life and it had no effect on their current lifestyle then how would the guy ever find out? just never tell them. never bring it up. why would you?

These things always come up. Maybe it'll slip out once she's drunk, or perhaps she'll confess to it one night because the guilt and regret are too much for her to bear.

 

[DumbDude43]

if someone had moved past that life and it had no effect on their current lifestyle then how would the guy ever find out? just never tell them. never bring it up. why would you?

the whole relationship would be built on deception, you'd be living a lie for the rest of your life.
in the back of your mind you'd always know that if he knew what you truly are, he would not want to be with you.
living with that knowledge for a long period of time will make you bitter and cynical and hate yourself.

//plus you would be forever paranoid about him finding out by accident, like maybe he meets someone who knew you back in the day or someone recognizes you when you're out in public.

 

[Ravier Xavenblood]

if someone had moved past that life and it had no effect on their current lifestyle then how would the guy ever find out? just never tell them. never bring it up. why would you?

What if all her close friends knew?

 

[God of Nothing]

Second you are even more stupid for keeping people around you that know stuff that can end careers and relationships . Why the fuck you told family? How dumb are you when it comes to people

oh hey, it's one of those vampire people that views all relationships as transactional with no idea of duty, honor, and love
fuck me, who knows what countless skeletons you're keeping in your closet if you have this god awful view on relationships

 

[ephermeral]

You are stupid and will end up forever single , men would not grant you the same favour if the roles were reversed . Second you are even more stupid for keeping people around you that know stuff that can end careers and relationships . Why the fuck you told family? How dumb are you when it comes to people . No wonder you ended up whoring . If you know half about men and their dick thinking you would have probably made the same money with far less dicks sucked .

I fucked up badly and needed the kind of help that can only be expected from someone who loves you unconditionally. I had to earn back their trust and that requires honesty. It sounds like English isn't your first language, maybe where you're from they would've honor killed me but that was never an issue for me.

 

[Justa Grata Honoria]

I fucked up badly and needed the kind of help that can only be expected from someone who loves you unconditionally. I had to earn back their trust and that requires honesty. It sounds like English isn't your first language, maybe where you're from they would've honor killed me but that was never an issue for me.

Well tell us the results . I guarantee you you will be dumped . Men have no sympathy for women the same way women have sympathy for men. And people will rat you out for whatever reason , falling out, muh conscience, ego bruised because you are more succsesfull . And if he doesnt dump you pray he wont ask you to shake your ass to pay bills in the future like some men. Good luck .

 

[DiggieSmalls]

I fucked up badly and needed the kind of help that can only be expected from someone who loves you unconditionally. I had to earn back their trust and that requires honesty. It sounds like English isn't your first language, maybe where you're from they would've honor killed me but that was never an issue for me.

I'm glad and it sounds like you're doing better now. Being very broken is hard to come back from, you should feel good that you were able to get yourself out of that hole.

 

[Norbert the Tiger]

I'll say I've never understood appeal of either strippers or prostitutes, escorrs, and the like. A big part of the sexual experience is the mutual attracfion. Paying a woman to barely feign interest or intimacy seems like folly to me. Then you have concerns over disease, not wanting to kiss or go on down on a woman who has a body count in the hundreds or even more than can be counted with ten fingers.

Many of those same considerations apply to a woman who has done that.

Studies show the more sexual partners people have before marriage the more likely it is to end in divorce.

In either case (hooker or stripper), both have very high rates of drug and alcohol abuse so that's a major potential issue.

Indeed, and you are right about high number of partners diminishing chance if success

Never, ever disclose a) past drug use b) past number of sexual partners c) if you ever had an abortion for ANY reason. No matter how much you've changed over the years, no matter how long ago it was - it will forever stain the other person's perception of you that you will never escape.

You cannot build a house on a faulty foundation. It is unwise to overshare during the courting process but when a relationship is serious and engagement has been proposed or is in the vicinity of that, absolute fucking trust is essential. A wife or husband is someone you need to be able to trust your life with and that should mean no secrets.

 

[John R. Brown M.D.]

Generally no. As Gonzalo Lira (dead lol) put it "it's damaged goods".
But like any damaged goods, it depends in the overall usefulness and quality of the product. I'm not a consumerist Amazon paypigging retard so I can repair and find usefulness in things those individuals would consider useless.

"That's very dehumanizing"
Yes. And?

 

[The Ugly One]

No, I was haha. I was a heroin addict and did that work on the side, I haven't done either in over 5 years. I have a really nice, stable life now. It's just a little lonely.

I wouldn't date anyone I knew up front wasn't wife material, and "former heroin addict" and "former whore" are both dealbreakers. I dated a woman briefly who had been a complete degenerate, not a hooker, and despite the fact that she'd moved on from that life, the fact that I'd never been into drugs or casual sex made her neurotic and the relationship explosive.

My suggestion is to tell any guy on maybe the second or third date, and say something like, "This is my past, and I understand if you don't want to see me again." You might just stay lonely. That's often the price for making egregiously retarded decisions in your youth, and shooting smack and whoring yourself out are about the dumbest things a woman can do.

 

[VargReallyDidNothingWrong]

I'm not trying to do a bait and switch. I would get an STD screening and have the results in hand to prove that my vagina isn't radioactive, if I'm going to plead my case I've got to come correct. I would probably say something along the lines of, "This is something from my past that I am embarrassed about, I feel our relationship is at the point where I have to tell you. I know this might be a deal breaker but I would rather be honest and not waste each others time if that's the case." I'd prefer to be rejected outright than have that hanging over my head.

Please note that my response was to a different woman having a woman moment (being defensive and arguing that the answer to being a whore, having abortions, or being a druggie previously is to clam up and admit nothing to anyone lest they be judged).

Your reaction sounds like you're willing to own up to what you were and what you did. And while I think you are to some degree "damaged goods" in the eyes of most men, maybe there will be someone willing to look past that.

Good luck.

 

[The Ugly One]

To try and put a positive spin on it, it's better to be alone than to be with someone who wouldn't be with you if they knew who you were.

 

[Kel1 shi1]

I hear you, but a handful of close friends and family know and I think it would be wrong to keep that from my boyfriend. Secrets from the distant past can also reveal themselves no matter how careful the person is. If, God forbid, that information did come out I would want my SO to hear it from me. Being blindsided by something like that would be so humiliating to them, and even though there's only a small chance of them finding out, it's not impossible.
It's about ethics in whoreing.

You're not wrong here. When I was dating a woman with negotiable intimacy I never told anyone what her job was because she/we would have been judged and worse at least one or more men in our friends circle would have been guaranteed to think he could get a "free one". I knew what she did and more importantly why she needed too and it wasn't drugs or just chasing the dollar. As far as anyone knew outside of her colleagues we were just a normal couple.

 

[DumbDude43]

Please note that my response was to a different woman having a woman moment (being defensive and arguing that the answer to being a whore, having abortions, or being a druggie previously is to clam up and admit nothing to anyone lest they be judged).

to be fair: if you are a bitter cynic, and your goal is to become a callous gold digger who milks sad dudes for all their money and then discards them, then that advice makes perfect sense.

 

[CoolFool]

Lots of guys won't want to date you even if you've changed, but there will be plenty who will. Not all of them will be good guys, which you seem aware.

The few guys in this thread acting like you'll be stuck lonely forever are coping hard. I know too many men that are good and stable, yet they're dating complete basket cases that are much more insane than how OP comes across. I'll never forget this one male family member of mine, bringing druggie stripper to a family event. She was such a wreck, she had to go back home to put on some less revealing stripper clothes. Despite this major embarrassment and the fact that everyone hated her, he was head over heels for her and stayed with her for 2 years.

Some guys have the whole "I can fix her" mentality, that's probably the type of guy OP will find, only she won't need "fixing" if she really changed.

 

[Justa Grata Honoria]

dating

important word, not marrying,not having kids with, there are plenty out there who have opening for forever gf and will wield her past against her like a weapon. And that is the best case scenario. Even if he is ok with it , it doesnt mean his family will be . The only gender that looks over glaring issues are women if she wants family and kids she is better off trying to marry a woman.