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The entire cancer arc was an absolute mess. I can understand the various responses to it.
Cancer/No Cancer rambling. Hidden in a spoiler for anyone sick of the topic and wanting to move on without reading it:
TL;DR: Amber's a stunted, irrational, self-sabotaging narcissistic individual with almost non-existent self awareness and a woefully poor grasp of reality. NOTHING that comes out of her mouth is going to make sense if it was first processed by HER brain. Her cancer story didn't make any sense because it was told to us by Amber. Is this due to a single or multiple diagnosed/undiagnosed personality disorders? Sure, why not? Is this due to multiple diagnosed/undiagnosed mental illnesses? Sure, why not? It doesn't really matter: regardless of the why, this is who she is and what she does.
Thank you for coming to (or completely skipping over) my TED TALK.
Edited to fix some things and add something I missed.
Cancer/No Cancer rambling. Hidden in a spoiler for anyone sick of the topic and wanting to move on without reading it:
In 2019 Norma had cancer. Ree-Neck-uh was spending more and more time caring for her mom. In the year before Amber's cancer, Amber filmed herself making a big deal of every time Becky left to visit her mom. Remember the sad-sack-sammich video in 2019 where she got pissed at the muppet for getting himself fast-food and not getting anything for her? Becky was gone for like, 2-3 HOURS at that point. Amber had a history of irregular and heavy periods (as many obese women do). My speculation is that her previous ones in 2019/2020 were a lot lighter, and this last one was all the built-up nastiness coming out at once (after clotting from being in there for so long). She may or may not have also had active bleeding - I dunno. And while several people commented things like "that's just endo - other women have it far worse", if Amber had called 911, the first responders would NOT have said that. They would have said "get your meds and your health card (or whatever you do in 'Murica when you see the doctor), and let's go to the ER... uh... just let the medics put the plastic sheet on their stretcher first". If you are walking in or that, you do NOT fuck around and try to play the guessing game of 'WTF is really going on'. Amber probably didn't realize the potential severity of the situation, but hey, this looks bad enough to get Becky to stop focusing on that HOMOPHOBIC BITCH and start focusing on MEEEE, her GORLFRIEND! Then SURPRISE! Something actually WAS wrong! OH NO!!!
After the Dx, Amber goes into retcon mode to make herself seem like EVEN MORE of a victim. She starts telling us this back-story of bleeding every day for a year - no, a year and a half - NO! ALMOST TWO YEARS! YES! DEFINITELY OVER TWO YEARS! And it was all Ree-Neck-uh's fault because she didn't seem worried so Amber wasn't worried. Then people go through Amber's back-log of vlogs and find her talking about starting and stopping her period, and talking about long gaps between her periods. When people confront her about all of this, she then said that she told doctors, but they didn't care. THEN she admits that doctors would ASK HER about her menstrual cycles, and she would lie about there being any abnormalacy in them to avoid the subject. I think Amber was lying about a lot of this because it made her seem like even more of a victim, when every rewrite made her sound worse and worse. She probably would have gotten a lot LESS shit if she had just said "No, I didn't have ANY warning this was happening. One day I just started bleeding really badly, and it turns out it was stage ONE cancer. I'm so grateful it was discovered so early, because my prognosis is excellent". But her irrational, attention-whoring mind decided to instead post the whole (blood and) SHIT-show to the internet for attention.
(To those who joined the Amberverse after this: YES there was shit. NO I will not go find those photos for you - Neitzsche wasn't joking around about the abyss.)
Also keep in mind that at this time, Amber was DESPERATE to get a new medical diagnosis. Right before this, Amber was getting Becky to take her from doctor to doctor to try to get her EYE TWITCH diagnosed as something more than a side-effect from her new psych medication... because Amber throught it was really BRAIN CANCER. If her bleeding was as serious and as prolonged as she later claimed, this would definitely be something to look into. I mean, if an eye twitch is cancer, than what would you call your vajayjay recreating the elevator scene from The Shining on a daily basis?
Then of course everything we got from her were either half-truths or outright lies during her 3 month gorge-fest before her surgeon finally sliced her open like a tauntaun. The information she gave didn't make sense and things weren't entirely clear - because Amber lies about everything she tells the audience. Either to make it sound worse than it really is, or to make her the hero, or to try and keep her real situation (type deal) secret from her audience. Or maybe even because she's just too dim to fully understand what's going on. Being so out-of-touch with reality, she never ends up able to tell a convincing story. She also ate like a glutton and GAINED WEIGHT before the surgery instead of working to try and lose weight to decrease the chances of problems. And then afterwards she accused her surgical team of possibly nicking her spinal cord during the epidural they had to give her (because she was so fat), and used that as an excuse to lounge in her recliner and stuff her face. Becky even had to give her blood-thinner injections at home because of Amber's unwillingness to be mobile.
And then she treated the whole enlarged "noids" as a pity party. Oh noes, poor me, I could STILL HAVE CANCER but they don't make machines big enough for me to fit in. What can I do? And then when her audience pointed out how she was still GAINING instead of losing weight to be able to get the screenings, Amber went into cunt-mode. She started saying how she just KNEW she had cancer in 2020 because she could "feel it", and she just knows that she's cancer-free now because she "FEELS" that the cancer is gone.
If any other attention-seeking narc treated their cancer journey like this, I know I'd be suspicious of them being dishonest. A grainy photo of their medical portal? People can fake that. I mean, didn't Destiny's mom (or Amber's mom) have a similar cancer? She's faked the picture! Oh, the doctors may also recommend a radical hysterectomy for pre-cancerous cells and endmetriosis, so she's faking her dx! Inconsistent story about the surgery? LIES! Refusal to get follow-up care? It's because NONE OF IT WAS REAL! These aren't illogical thoughts.
A big thing that seals the deal for me is: Why would a surgeon want to risk cutting into a 500+lb deathfat over completely untreated endo and PREcancerous cells? To my knowledge, Jenn had this but never got the surgery. Chantal did, but she was far lighter than Amber. Would there not be a more stern warning to get her weight under control, as they would have had some time to work with? And of course, the little detail that this is a pretty common cancer for fatty-bo-battys. This was kinda cause and effect.
And while the talk of how traumatic it was that this surgery took Amber's choice of birthing a child away from her, I'm going to be the asshole and say the obvious: it was far less than the trauma that would have been experienced by the potential child(ren). Some might even argue that this was divine intervention for the unborn. Let them (hopefully) be placed instead in a less self-absorbed and self-destructive parent. Plus, she never said she wanted to birth a child - she always ONLY spoke about adopting. It was only when birthing no longer became a possibility (let's be real, it never really ever was a possibility), AND she knew she could make videos crying about it on the internet (for money), that it suddenly entered her mind.
Honestly, this is AMBER. We've seen a decade of lying. She's TERRIBLE at it, and I don't know if she could pull off a convincing fake like that. Remember her faking the urologist's voicemail? Remember how quickly and easily everyone predicted that she'd want Dr Smith as her WLS? Remember her pathetic attempts of trying to get everyone off the trail? Remember the whole 'dangleen lung' saga? Amber had no fucking clue WHAT was going on there and every 3 days it was another "they misdiagnosed me AGAIN" ordeal. And we've seen Amber... um... exist for the last decade. We've watched her put out the cringiest shit that she thinks actually makes her look good (but in reality shows how stunted she is). I can still see her stupid grin and double thumbs up while nodding and saying "... and mutual obsession is DEFINITELY green-flag-coded..." We've watched her spend years doing the most destructive behaviours she could to self-sabotage and train her mind to become more and more helpless and mentally ill. We've seen the blank, no-one's-home look in her eyes when someone explains something to her. The story didn't make sense because Amber told it - not because it didn't happen.
Though, who knows, I'm just some random asshole on the internet. For all I know in a year or so Amber will post "Everything I've Lied About - Vol 12", where she admits to staging this entire thing (but I don't think so).
After the Dx, Amber goes into retcon mode to make herself seem like EVEN MORE of a victim. She starts telling us this back-story of bleeding every day for a year - no, a year and a half - NO! ALMOST TWO YEARS! YES! DEFINITELY OVER TWO YEARS! And it was all Ree-Neck-uh's fault because she didn't seem worried so Amber wasn't worried. Then people go through Amber's back-log of vlogs and find her talking about starting and stopping her period, and talking about long gaps between her periods. When people confront her about all of this, she then said that she told doctors, but they didn't care. THEN she admits that doctors would ASK HER about her menstrual cycles, and she would lie about there being any abnormalacy in them to avoid the subject. I think Amber was lying about a lot of this because it made her seem like even more of a victim, when every rewrite made her sound worse and worse. She probably would have gotten a lot LESS shit if she had just said "No, I didn't have ANY warning this was happening. One day I just started bleeding really badly, and it turns out it was stage ONE cancer. I'm so grateful it was discovered so early, because my prognosis is excellent". But her irrational, attention-whoring mind decided to instead post the whole (blood and) SHIT-show to the internet for attention.
(To those who joined the Amberverse after this: YES there was shit. NO I will not go find those photos for you - Neitzsche wasn't joking around about the abyss.)
Also keep in mind that at this time, Amber was DESPERATE to get a new medical diagnosis. Right before this, Amber was getting Becky to take her from doctor to doctor to try to get her EYE TWITCH diagnosed as something more than a side-effect from her new psych medication... because Amber throught it was really BRAIN CANCER. If her bleeding was as serious and as prolonged as she later claimed, this would definitely be something to look into. I mean, if an eye twitch is cancer, than what would you call your vajayjay recreating the elevator scene from The Shining on a daily basis?
Then of course everything we got from her were either half-truths or outright lies during her 3 month gorge-fest before her surgeon finally sliced her open like a tauntaun. The information she gave didn't make sense and things weren't entirely clear - because Amber lies about everything she tells the audience. Either to make it sound worse than it really is, or to make her the hero, or to try and keep her real situation (type deal) secret from her audience. Or maybe even because she's just too dim to fully understand what's going on. Being so out-of-touch with reality, she never ends up able to tell a convincing story. She also ate like a glutton and GAINED WEIGHT before the surgery instead of working to try and lose weight to decrease the chances of problems. And then afterwards she accused her surgical team of possibly nicking her spinal cord during the epidural they had to give her (because she was so fat), and used that as an excuse to lounge in her recliner and stuff her face. Becky even had to give her blood-thinner injections at home because of Amber's unwillingness to be mobile.
And then she treated the whole enlarged "noids" as a pity party. Oh noes, poor me, I could STILL HAVE CANCER but they don't make machines big enough for me to fit in. What can I do? And then when her audience pointed out how she was still GAINING instead of losing weight to be able to get the screenings, Amber went into cunt-mode. She started saying how she just KNEW she had cancer in 2020 because she could "feel it", and she just knows that she's cancer-free now because she "FEELS" that the cancer is gone.
If any other attention-seeking narc treated their cancer journey like this, I know I'd be suspicious of them being dishonest. A grainy photo of their medical portal? People can fake that. I mean, didn't Destiny's mom (or Amber's mom) have a similar cancer? She's faked the picture! Oh, the doctors may also recommend a radical hysterectomy for pre-cancerous cells and endmetriosis, so she's faking her dx! Inconsistent story about the surgery? LIES! Refusal to get follow-up care? It's because NONE OF IT WAS REAL! These aren't illogical thoughts.
A big thing that seals the deal for me is: Why would a surgeon want to risk cutting into a 500+lb deathfat over completely untreated endo and PREcancerous cells? To my knowledge, Jenn had this but never got the surgery. Chantal did, but she was far lighter than Amber. Would there not be a more stern warning to get her weight under control, as they would have had some time to work with? And of course, the little detail that this is a pretty common cancer for fatty-bo-battys. This was kinda cause and effect.
And while the talk of how traumatic it was that this surgery took Amber's choice of birthing a child away from her, I'm going to be the asshole and say the obvious: it was far less than the trauma that would have been experienced by the potential child(ren). Some might even argue that this was divine intervention for the unborn. Let them (hopefully) be placed instead in a less self-absorbed and self-destructive parent. Plus, she never said she wanted to birth a child - she always ONLY spoke about adopting. It was only when birthing no longer became a possibility (let's be real, it never really ever was a possibility), AND she knew she could make videos crying about it on the internet (for money), that it suddenly entered her mind.
Honestly, this is AMBER. We've seen a decade of lying. She's TERRIBLE at it, and I don't know if she could pull off a convincing fake like that. Remember her faking the urologist's voicemail? Remember how quickly and easily everyone predicted that she'd want Dr Smith as her WLS? Remember her pathetic attempts of trying to get everyone off the trail? Remember the whole 'dangleen lung' saga? Amber had no fucking clue WHAT was going on there and every 3 days it was another "they misdiagnosed me AGAIN" ordeal. And we've seen Amber... um... exist for the last decade. We've watched her put out the cringiest shit that she thinks actually makes her look good (but in reality shows how stunted she is). I can still see her stupid grin and double thumbs up while nodding and saying "... and mutual obsession is DEFINITELY green-flag-coded..." We've watched her spend years doing the most destructive behaviours she could to self-sabotage and train her mind to become more and more helpless and mentally ill. We've seen the blank, no-one's-home look in her eyes when someone explains something to her. The story didn't make sense because Amber told it - not because it didn't happen.
Though, who knows, I'm just some random asshole on the internet. For all I know in a year or so Amber will post "Everything I've Lied About - Vol 12", where she admits to staging this entire thing (but I don't think so).
Thank you for coming to (or completely skipping over) my TED TALK.
Edited to fix some things and add something I missed.
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