My Coming Out Disaster TRIGGER WARNING (
self.TransLater)
submitted 8 hours ago * by
HopefulYam9526 to
r/TransLater
I came out to my sister yesterday, and was hoping for a positive reaction, since we are pretty close, and I've always considered her my best friend. Her initial reaction was shock, but she quickly became supportive. I was planning to come out to my ex-wife today, because we have a rare opportunity to talk, and keeping it in is killing me. I need to tell my daughter soon, and her mother needs to know first, with enough time to process it. Tomorrow I was going to say something to a couple of co-workers I work closely with, but not so much that it gives away anything I'm not ready for.
So this morning, as I was preparing myself for the intense and difficult conversation ahead, my sister texted to re-affirm her support. Then she called me a few minutes later, and talked for two hours about how everyone in her life is having some kind of situation, and it's too much, and went on about her new boyfriend, and their relationship, and then talked about her complicated relationship with our Mother, and second-guessed my wanting to tell my daughter, as well as my ability to do so without it having a negative impact on her.
Is everyone going to make this about them? When do I get to live my life? I was having enough trouble facing so many difficult conversations in rapid succession, but now I feel like I can't tell anyone, and telling my sister was a mistake. She's only the third person I've told, and now I'm questioning whether transitioning is something I can handle. I feel sabotaged, hopeless, and alone.
I guess this is just what it's like to be trans, and you can't expect anything from people, but I'm really feeling like I can't trust anyone. My sister's reaction isn't exactly unexpected, but it hurts, and now I'm putting the brakes on everything.
If anyone has any advice or perspective to share, I could really use it right now. I feel like I have nowhere to turn.