One would think that with all of the polytard communities and support structures, and with all of the books and podcasts and therapists and information, it would be very fucking hard to do it wrong.
The problem with this line of thinking is that it takes a nearly universal truth (people will often still feel attraction to others even though they are coupled) and takes it to a completely retarded conclusion. Are all partnered people - or nearly all - occasionally in situations where they are sexually/emotionally attracted to someone outside of their partner? Yes. Does that mean everyone is a "little bit" polyamorous? No. It simply means that most people have realized that it's a bad idea to chase after every object of lust in life because there are more important things than a constant stream of new sex partners and "new relationship energy."
Wasn't there an author of poly books that turned out to be a really abusive POS?
Unironically a marker for autism.
Lol, at least one, but I'd guess more than that.
I think a lot of couples who have been together for a long time sometimes try to spice things up by going to a swingers club, or trying a threesome or whatever a few times and they stay together and life goes on as normal, and that has been happening for a very long time. A lot of these people you are referring to probably try to frame that as people being a "little bit poly" as if you and your buddy getting drunk one night, spit roasting you wife, and never talking about it again is the same as pursuing a full blown web of poly relationships.
I've only known of one person who I actually knew irl that was poly and he was an abusive pos. I'd be willing to bet everyone who's gotten famous for it is as well.
The entire poly thing is comprised of over-educated midwits trying to intellectualise into oblivion the fact that they want to fuck other people but still keep their poor spouse along for the ride. Nothing more nothing less. Everyone I know who has participated in this bullshit has at minimum a bachelor's degree in something useless, and has been either been the dragger or the dragee.
There is no one answer - which is why it's horseshit.
I've seen it spun too as that "everybody's a little bit poly" because sometimes people who are married or in committed relationships get crushes on other people or find other people attractive.
Some of the people in the Sammie Bushart-verse were involved in throuples and they're about as backwoods trailer trash as you can get.
Ah, yes. I recall a story recently where a trailer trash couple got involved in a throuple with a teenage girl. Anyway, they killed her and buried her under the trailer. Took decades to find the body.
Aye.
Gosh when you put it like that, it almost sounds, cultish.
"I can smell you through my phone"
Insecurity, they need validation in being desirable through wanting multiple people around them at all times. Your friend might have self-image issues, or might just like the attention she gets from the goblins (likely desperate men)
Hot people can cheat and be forgiven if they've secured a partner who cares more for keeping up appearances than having a healthy and meaningful relationship. Hot people can participate in hook-up culture and be as hedonistic as they desire because a leading currency in that circle is physical attractiveness. Hot people can pick and choose who they want because they attract wider circles and even if a relationship ends, if they want to they could likely find themselves a replacement as soon as the very same evening if they dress up and head out for a quick fuck.
