The controversial cult of the host club in Japan - Sell physical intimacy to man; buy emotional intimacy from man.

In kabukicho, a red-light district in Tokyo, four young men surround your female correspondent. Hiragi Saren, a 25-year-old with bleached hair, a black tank top and a silver necklace, sits closest. He chatters warmly and glances seductively, his pink eyeshadow glimmering under the chandeliers. His three assistants keep filling your correspondent’s shochu glass and shower her with compliments about her appearance. She doubts their sincerity, but is strangely pleased. After an hour and a half, the bill is ¥30,000 ($200).

Host clubs are booming in Japan. Some 21,000 hosts—well-dressed young men, often wearing make-up like k-pop stars—work at 900 such establishments. They pamper and flatter their female clients. Sex is not part of the bargain but could happen, somewhere else. Clients usually seek psychological rather than physical intimacy. Hosts refer to them as hime (princess), and never ask how old they are or what they do for a living.

To understand the cult of the host, start with two statistics. More than 60% of Japanese women in their late 20s are unmarried, double the rate in the mid-1980s. A recent survey found that more than a third of unmarried adults aged 20-49 had never dated. Many single women visit host clubs because they are lonely. They get a thrill from meeting “the kind of men they don’t meet in everyday life”, Mr Hiragi says.

The first host club opened in the mid-1960s, mostly serving as a dance hall for rich matrons and widows. Early hosts described themselves as “male geishas”, says Hojo Yuichi, who runs Ai Honten, the oldest active host club. At first, the clubs were seen as a fringe, sleazy business. But that stigma has faded.

Successful hosts are now celebrities. In the 2000s they started appearing on tv shows. Today many have a big social-media following. Billboards and trucks display pictures of the highest earners. Hosts feature as characters in manga and anime, too. They have become “an archetype within Japanese popular culture”, says Thomas Baudinette, an anthropologist at Macquarie University. Mr Hiragi moved to Tokyo from a rural area with dreams of becoming a famous host. “I wanted to be part of a world that’s glamorous,” he says.

Glamorous, yet controversial. Feminist groups accuse host clubs of exploitation: overcharging for drinks and manipulating clients into racking up huge tabs. Hosts praise those who spend the most, calling them “ace”. Some customers end up in debt after paying millions of yen for a single visit. Takahashi Ichika, a client, recalls that her favourite host would ignore her and fiddle with his phone when she refused to order champagne. “I would spend more money because I didn’t want him to dislike me. I wanted his attention,” she says.

Some women go to extraordinary lengths to feed their host habit. A survey last year showed that among women arrested for selling sex around Okubo Park, a popular pickup spot, over 40% were trying to earn enough money to go to host clubs. Politicians have started discussing ways to regulate the industry, for example by cracking down on opaque pricing. Host-club owners hope to pre-empt this with better self-regulation.

Some see a link between the cult of the host and obsessive fan culture. In a survey in 2023, 72% of Japanese women in their 20s said they indulged in oshikatsu (avidly supporting a celebrity, for example by buying several copies of each new hit). The objects of their adoration were often pop idols. But some are switching their allegiance to hosts, to whom they can get much closer. Ms Takahashi says she used to spend a lot on boy bands, but when concerts stopped during covid, she started to splurge on hosts instead.

Many other Japanese businesses, such as cuddle cafés, offer intimate services, usually to men. Mr Baudinette worries, though, that for many Japanese people, “intimacy can only be accessed through commoditised forms.”

Yamada Kurumi, a client, works at a brothel to earn enough money to visit the clubs, which she does about once a week. She had boyfriends in the past but finds hosts more exciting. She is unsure whether to seek an office job after graduating from college or to carry on with sex work, which pays better. “A lot of people start losing touch with friends once they get addicted to host clubs,” says Ms Yamada. “My host is already part of my everyday life…If I get a normal job, I probably won’t be able to see him any more. That scares me.” ■

 
Yamada Kurumi, a client, works at a brothel to earn enough money to visit the clubs, which she does about once a week.
Woman works in a brothel, 'faking' the sex part of a relationship with a man for money, and then she goes to a host club to spend that money on a man who fakes the emotional part of a relationship. Wild.
 
A survey last year showed that among women arrested for selling sex around Okubo Park, a popular pickup spot, over 40% were trying to earn enough money to go to host clubs.
Sounds like a good plot for a hentai. Having Paid Sex With Gross Otaku and Ugly Bastards Just So I Can Spend it All On My Favorite Host Who Hates Me.
 
Mr Baudinette worries, though, that for many Japanese people, “intimacy can only be accessed through commoditised forms.”
Japan today, every developed nation within the next twenty years.

Once you have internalised the root belief of unfettered capitalism - that everything is a 'market', that everything has a 'value' and that 'value' can be expressed in fiat currency - then everything is for sale. Very, very quickly after everything is for sale, the only way to get anything is to buy it.

The widespread and imminent legalisation of sex work just about everywhere is the final smoothing of the bumps in the road to our new reality: sexual and more importantly emotional intimacy is something you just have to pay for, same as nice clothes and a nice car. And as with other desirable consumer goods, the slightly worse off can expect to be locked out of obtaining them.

It's the market, stupid. Unregulated markets are the Future of Humanity. Yeah, well, the future is arriving.
 
Woman works in a brothel, 'faking' the sex part of a relationship with a man for money, and then she goes to a host club to spend that money on a man who fakes the emotional part of a relationship. Wild.
The most important point of this article is you can get a discount from a hooker if you shower her with compliments, doll yourself up, and call her a princess.

Hell, if you’re really good at it, she might even pay you.
 
Japan today, every developed nation within the next twenty years.

Once you have internalised the root belief of unfettered capitalism - that everything is a 'market', that everything has a 'value' and that 'value' can be expressed in fiat currency - then everything is for sale. Very, very quickly after everything is for sale, the only way to get anything is to buy it.

The widespread and imminent legalisation of sex work just about everywhere is the final smoothing of the bumps in the road to our new reality: sexual and more importantly emotional intimacy is something you just have to pay for, same as nice clothes and a nice car. And as with other desirable consumer goods, the slightly worse off can expect to be locked out of obtaining them.

It's the market, stupid. Unregulated markets are the Future of Humanity. Yeah, well, the future is arriving.
The year is 2077 and the AI bots durka durred decades ago. Imagine having a real job that doesn't involve sex work or false intimacy (since you are competing against AI bots in both cases, I hope you're into sadomasochism, gangbangs, scat, and other humiliation fetishes).
 
Sex is not part of the bargain but could happen, somewhere else.
The article kinda glosses over it, but yeah, host clubs used to include sex since they were just brothels at their core. Once the men started becoming hosts themselves, that practice faded away since the female customers wanted to be wooed more than to get laid.

Gay. How about just get married and have babies.
Doesn't make a difference. Male host clubs were frequented by married women because they weren't getting the attention they wanted from their husbands.
 
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This type of service industry is a norm in Japan. There's tons of themed cafes that simulate the types of experiences customers want. Host and Hostess clubs are simply an extension of this. The proverbial "companion" simulation. Both sides know that its ultimately fake, but to them, that "fake" feels safe.

Which is also the logic simps have when throwing tons of money on e-whores.
Sounds like a good plot for a hentai. Having Paid Sex With Gross Otaku and Ugly Bastards Just So I Can Spend it All On My Favorite Host Who Hates Me.
...This should be an actual work. That said, there is a manga that talks about the rough life of Host Clubs as well as prostitution in general. Its called "Shinjuku Swan".
 
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