Are you lost needing femoid advice post here - For the poor bastard's who dare or are just curious

[BrazilianDog]

.She never texts you first? How long do you typically go between texts? There's no one metric for texting frequency, in a normal exchange there is give and take and you kind of go with the flow. If I was always the one texting first, that would give me the impression they weren't that into me.

Not once. It does give me the impression she's not that into me, but when she'll text back, she'll be friendly so I don't have enough of a reason to drop it. She's from a different country so I can try to fool myself that it's a cultural barrier. I typically wait a week until I can't take it anymore and message her.

Beyond that, she hasn't given me reason to give up. She's still friendly towards me. After making the previous post, I ended up breaking the silence and asking her out. She was busy. Say's she'll be busy for the next couple of weeks but expressed interest in going on a road trip somewhere pretty with me. If it hadn't been for that last minute proposal, I'd be exceptionally demoralized.

In the past, I have had my low self-esteem take a hold of me and I have a tendency to assume the worst which led to break off contact with women that I'd later find out were interested in me. This time that won't happen, if for no other reason that I really, really like her and have no choice but to keep prodding and prodding until she either rejects me or marries me.

 

[CharcoalChkn]

>date a girl for a while
>everything seems fine, we have chemistry and i assume we both like spending time with each other
>suddenly one day says its over, she doesn't want anything with anyone and wants to be alone, but still wants me in her life because i make her feel like she matters to someone
>oh okay, whatever, seems we have a mutual trust relationship so if thats how you feel then who am i to stop you
>fucking replaced in less than a week by another guy
>not even an upgrade, guy makes some of the severe incels here look sane and productive
Why are women like this, it would't sting as much if she had the decency to just end things outright instead of this wishy washy shit

You are green texting on Kiwifarms, I think you are severely downplaying your autism friend.

Serious response is, what do you expect from her? She wasn't feeling it, she told you she wasn't feeling it, life goes on.

How long is a while? I'm sorry for being a bit callous here but I feel like you are being purposely vague with some details here to favour yourself.

What do you mean by "replaced"? She's official and moving in with the guy? Or just having some fun, or it's just a dude she's hanging out with as a friend and you are having a meltie and making up scenarios in your head?

Ignoring everything else, she didn't want to be in the relationship any longer, be thankful it ended amicably, no cheating, no histrionics, no drama.

 

[ConsentAccidentVictimNo98]

What do you mean by "replaced"? She's official and moving in with the guy? Or just having some fun, or it's just a dude she's hanging out with as a friend and you are having a meltie and making up scenarios in your head?

Plus she literally said that she wanted him as a friend! And sometimes, friendships matter more than dating. Idk, the best way to test if people actually care about someone is to see if they are romanticizing/objectifying them (if it's you wanting to be with them, do you truly care for them or are you acting selflessly?) or, are trying to do the best for them. Be a friend for them, care for them. Support and accept their decisions! Rejection hurts, but if you genuinely care I'd argue what you ought to do is be a good friend for her, if you're jelly take some time and come back accepting the newly defined boundary without the hope of getting into her pants. Some of my best friendships came about this way.

 

[babyTAP]

Say's she'll be busy for the next couple of weeks but expressed interest in going on a road trip somewhere pretty with me.

Nobody is too busy to do something they really want to do for weeks. She’s willing to accept an opportunity to leave town because it doubles as a shot to get photos of herself taken in novel, scenic places which boosts her profile to her peers.

 

[سلیمان عثمان]

Spoiler: TMI

Probably the last post I will ever be making but I am kind of stuck in life at the moment. I know I am asking for trouble airing embarrassing personal shit on the mean-girl gossip forum but my best friend who I used to be able to talk to has gone insane and at least here I can hypothetically remain anonymous and the average poster here seems to be non-retarded. I do not know how to even talk about this with out raving like a lunatic.

I am not interested in consolation or being told it "isn't my fault" or similar shit. This entire situation is entirely of my own making and I need to just accept that fact. I need advice about how to move forward when every thing I have been working towards turned out to be bull shit and I need to know how to better deal with the realization that I am a fucking retard with zero ability to assess the character of people around me.

I had plans, I thought I was going to retire early with some one I love. Not really an option any more, just the thought of dating makes me irrationally angry and paranoid. The person who I thought was closer to me than any one in the world was living a double life and I knew nothing about it for years, how the hell am I supposed to ever get close to some one ever again? My parents are reaching the age where they are starting to struggle, it might be worth while for me to move closer to home and help them out, that is really the least meaning less thing I can think of at the moment. Just kind of in a holding pattern waiting to see if there is any thing I can bring my self to care about.

I learned about a year ago that the person I have been married to for over a third of my life has been cheating on me for pretty much the entire time. When ever I was out of town working a shift he would go on the prowl. When I learned about it and confronted them about it they tried to wave it off, "oh I am just such a little scamp, aren't I?" and all-but accused me of abuse for expecting monogamy or at the very least honesty. We had a Catholic wedding even though they are an atheist but I thought they at least took their vows to me seriously. I thought they at least respected how important my religion was to me but entire time we knew each other my faith was only ever a joke to him, a silly little quirk they figured I would just grow out of. They knew that I love my job and said they were okay with me working shifts out of town when we met but retroactively I am selfish and do not care about their loneliness and their 'needs'.

I do not believe in divorce except in extremis and tried to see if we could work things out (FUCKING IDIOT) I walked away from my job, lied to my co-workers about why I was leaving, took a significant pay cut to do it and this pestilential coomer fuck-weasel decides to start squealing almost immediately about how polyamory would be so so much better for us. After all, this way I could have my old job back and money is so much tighter now! That was the end of it, I am not going to be some gooner's co-dependendent side meat.

I have my old job back, as far as I know no one at work knows my situation and I am happier with it that way. I finally told my parents, fun talk, and they are 100% on Team Total Divorce Rape but I just want this over with I really do not want to deal with a protracted divorce. All I want is for this person to be immediately erased from my history and air brushed out of every photograph I just want them gone and will take any settlement that achieves this end. Thank God we never had children, pretty much the only silver lining in this retarded shit show, though they would bring it up for the first few years we were married. It would have been an absolute crime for that creature to be a parent and I just ignored over a decade of giant blazing red flags. Not sure if the church will grant me an annulment but that only really matters if I have a stroke, become next level retarded and want to try my hand at marriage again.

I just do not know where to go from here, I still have hobbies and some acquaintances locally. I still like my job but it all just feels like a march to no where at the moment. I can not trust my self to get close to any one other than family members, it seems that any one I do get close to who is not a relative degenerates in to a deranged pervert. I feel cursed, hell if I spend too much time with my family I think they might catch what ever Typhoid Mary tard sickness it is that I am carrying.

Sorry, rambling, where do I go from here? Has any one here experienced some thing like this?

I doubt I will be logging back in to answer any questions, this entire situation is absolutely mortifying and I am hardly interested in sticking around to be justly made fun of. Any way, thank you in advance to any one who read through this inane bitching and especially if you have any insight or advice. I will stay logged out and just read the thread to see if there are any replies.

RIP this account.
Fuck it, at least I'm not Nick Rekieta

 

[Shidoen]

Christ well that’s a lot to deal with. I don’t want to add too much fuel to fire but that guy is a real piece of shit.

Spoiler: TMI

I’m sympathetic since my mom has gone through that sorta thing recently

 

[NoReturn]

RIP this account.

Hurry back, we'll miss you, and laughing at Rekieta will give you a nice distraction from this shitshow you're in.
Look at the silly clown, look how he dances.

 

[Friend of Dorothy Parker]

Sorry, rambling, where do I go from here? Has any one here experienced some thing like this?

I have been to hell and back. It takes time to get past it and work through it all. Allow yourself some time and to feel like shit...but at some point it's important to think about it all, about what happened, about what you accepted in a mate, about whether there are things to learn about yourself, about your expectations for other people, about how you perceive and relate to people, and about how you want to be and what you deserve. It's good you're working and are connected with your family. And that you have acquaintances and hobbies. Once the immediate shock is a little eased, get to know yourself again or for the first time (or first time in a long time), and start arrangimg your life and priorities according to you. Figure out what and who you are, which may or may not be who/what you were in your marriage or before then. And if you're so disposed, a neutral third party (therapist/counselor) may be of help working through some of it, but with or without that, it's a process.

It may be something you get past quickly, or it may mean a whole remake. If it's super- new and raw, don't worry too much about what comes next. But eventually, there's potentially a lot of good that can come out of it, even if you didn't choose it and don't want it. And you may never be "glad" about having gone through a bad time, or having known or trusted a bad person - and I will never say to be grateful to a havoc-wreaking fuckhead - but you can come out of it better.

 

[community member]

>date a girl for a while
>everything seems fine, we have chemistry and i assume we both like spending time with each other
>suddenly one day says its over, she doesn't want anything with anyone and wants to be alone, but still wants me in her life because i make her feel like she matters to someone
>oh okay, whatever, seems we have a mutual trust relationship so if thats how you feel then who am i to stop you
>fucking replaced in less than a week by another guy
>not even an upgrade, guy makes some of the severe incels here look sane and productive
Why are women like this, it would't sting as much if she had the decency to just end things outright instead of this wishy washy shit

She is mentally ill. Expect to see this in the dating pool, dating sites will have the highest concentration. Many women have been physically and psychologically violated and abandoned by men multiple times in their life. This is the inevitable outcome.

I do agree with the other responder that the greentext story format is way more autistic than you might realize though. lol

Fuck it, at least I'm not Nick Rekieta

Definitely. And you certainly are lucky to have a job and no kids in the picture. My mom was once a member of a Catholic church and was afraid of getting divorced because of it. Frankly, the church was a cult and burning those bridges was the better outcome. She also reconnected with another woman who left that church after divorcing and they are good friends now. There is definitely a future out there for you and you have some good resources at your disposal. I'm guessing you will need to discover personal hobbies and interests that give you a sense of identity and address the feeling of meaninglessness. The meaning of life is up to you, but I find that creating things you enjoy, making time for fun experiences, and making some sort of contribution to the society around you is a decent path to take. Good luck homie <3

 

[deermeat]

Soooo... Where I live, its extremely humid in the summer. Its like wearing a wet blanket at worse, feeling sticky at best.
While Im not fat, my ass is big. And my boobs are medium-sized. It makes it so that I feel itchy/burn-y between my cheeks and in my bra. Its bad. I don't know what to do. Im constantly sweaty out there, and Im sweaty indoors because we don't have an AC.

Im worried Im gonna get a rash. Even my vag feels uncomfortable. Its like bruh..
What do you guys do for this? Do you just sit there and suffer? Lol. Its not like I can remove my fat ass, most of its muscle. And Im not getting zippertits either.

 

[Andoxico]

Soooo... Where I live, its extremely humid in the summer. Its like wearing a wet blanket at worse, feeling sticky at best.
While Im not fat, my ass is big. And my boobs are medium-sized. It makes it so that I feel itchy/burn-y between my cheeks and in my bra. Its bad. I don't know what to do. Im constantly sweaty out there, and Im sweaty indoors because we don't have an AC.

Im worried Im gonna get a rash. Even my vag feels uncomfortable. Its like bruh..
What do you guys do for this? Do you just sit there and suffer? Lol. Its not like I can remove my fat ass, most of its muscle. And Im not getting zippertits either.

Anti chafing stick works pretty well, though the mental image of applying that between butt cheeks is hilarious to me (sorry). Might also be a good idea to get an AC unit or at least a dehumidifier.

 

[The Ugly One]

My wife's been gone for 2 weeks, visiting her ailing mother. I want to do something nice for her when she gets back. I could just buy her flowers and a card, easy go-to that is inexplicably always appreciated. But, let's say I want to change it up, what should I do?

 

[Justa Grata Honoria]

My wife's been gone for 2 weeks, visiting her ailing mother. I want to do something nice for her when she gets back. I could just buy her flowers and a card, easy go-to that is inexplicably always appreciated. But, let's say I want to change it up, what should I do?

favorite snack, what she likes to do to relax? massage gift card with reputable massager is also good. Most women love that . Scented candles, assorted face masks, bath bombs, combo. etc .

 

[CharcoalChkn]

My wife's been gone for 2 weeks, visiting her ailing mother. I want to do something nice for her when she gets back. I could just buy her flowers and a card, easy go-to that is inexplicably always appreciated. But, let's say I want to change it up, what should I do?

Have the house clean, clothes washed, fresh sheets on the bed and a meal prepared for her when she arrives home.

Doesn't need to be spotless, but just so she can come home and relax, not see a pile of dishes unwashed or a load of laundry asking to be washed when she walks in the door.

 

[AWizard]

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Informative and discouraging.

Edit, an aside, I'm curious as to what femoid reactions/views are to this:
The controversial cult of the host club in Japan

Host clubs are booming in Japan. Some 21,000 hosts—well-dressed young men, often wearing make-up like K-pop stars—work at 900 such establishments. They pamper and flatter their female clients. Sex is not part of the bargain but could happen, somewhere else. Clients usually seek psychological rather than physical intimacy. Hosts refer to them as hime (princess), and never ask how old they are or what they do for a living.

*Feminist groups accuse host clubs of exploitation: overcharging for drinks and manipulating clients into racking up huge tabs. Hosts praise those who spend the most, calling them “ace”. Some customers end up in debt after paying millions of yen for a single visit. Takahashi Ichika, a client, recalls that her favourite host would ignore her and fiddle with his phone when she refused to order champagne. “I would spend more money because I didn’t want him to dislike me. I wanted his attention,” she says.

Some women go to extraordinary lengths to feed their host habit. A survey last year showed that among women arrested for selling sex around Okubo Park, a popular pickup spot, over 40% were trying to earn enough money to go to host clubs.

(* kills me for some reason)

 

[I_Lurk_Here]

Lurking this thread, it's turned out to be more helpful and genuine than I expected. Could anyone tell me how women with BPD feel and act? I know they're joked about often but my PL is that I've dealt with family members and people in general who are mentally ill often and I'd like a better understanding. And hypothetically, there might be a BPD girl I like.

 

[Sweetie Kitty]

My wife's been gone for 2 weeks, visiting her ailing mother. I want to do something nice for her when she gets back. I could just buy her flowers and a card, easy go-to that is inexplicably always appreciated. But, let's say I want to change it up, what should I do?

That already sounds very thoughtful and sweet. Maybe having a nice dinner for her one night would be good- whether it’s take out or maybe you just throw something you know she likes together. Wishing the best for your family, it’s always difficult when there’s an impending loss.

 

[The Ugly One]

Have the house clean, clothes washed, fresh sheets on the bed and a meal prepared for her when she arrives home.

Doesn't need to be spotless, but just so she can come home and relax, not see a pile of dishes unwashed or a load of laundry asking to be washed when she walks in the door.

Whoa whoa whoa let's not go crazy here. But you are probably right, this is the best answer.

 

[NoReturn]

Informative and discouraging.

Edit, an aside, I'm curious as to what femoid reactions/views are to this:
The controversial cult of the host club in Japan




(* kills me for some reason)

Strongly recommend if you all haven't seen yet:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WoeeMLCopu8

 

[Cyclonus]

Do you know who I am? Cope is not an option, so hope or rope?