First gender therapy appointment
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I had my first appointment with a gender therapist today. I think it went well. There were no real epiphanies or revelations. I mainly talked about what brought me to the point of wanting to talk through my issues (it’s all in previous posts if anyone is actually interested). For the most part she asked some probing questions and I answered with a mass of word vomit. I guess 40 years of gender dysphoria, combined with past trauma, PTSD from my time in the military and the trauma of coming out to my wife was a lot to unpack in a single session.
Apart from setting more appointments, the therapist only offered one statement that has left me feeling both elated and a bit apprehensive. She said “you stated that you didn’t know who you actually are, but I believe that it is obvious who you are.”
I had told her at the start to call her by my male name and that given my appearance (male presenting) he/him pronouns were my personal choice. However, looking back on the session once I mentioned my female name, I consistently referred to myself as Lisa (even if I did refer to her as the woman inside and as my wife referred to her as the other woman).
I really wish that I could unpack that statement with her a bit more. However, I will have to wait until next months appointment.
She now goes by Azlan, rather than Birdy.
