Fat Acceptance Movement / Fat Girlcows

[Breadbear]

I'm all for Evie asking for too much from her brother and sister in law. The more she asks for, the sooner she gets abandoned and has to figure shit out on her own. I can't believe she's still asking Jeremy to do stuff. He must be a masochist if he hasn't blocked her yet.

Well, he's in the middle of selling his house. Once that's through he can change his number.

 

[xh9lqwz9c]

I found it especially poignant because at the time of her death, all of these people were talking about how sweet and kind she was, how she would have done anything for her friends, how she encouraged them when they were down. Everyone loved her, but no one noticed they hadn't heard from her in weeks? Nobody thought it was weird that she wasn't answering their texts or calls? I mean, fuck, maybe there's an innocent explanation, but the optics are kind of icky.

Sometimes it seems that we are more and more isolated from each other, even as technology claims to connect us.

It's sad, but the article reads as though self-isolation wasn't out of character for her.

An unfortunate side effect of poor mental health is the fact that sometimes when people insist on being left alone, they actually are left alone.

 

[Angry New Ager]

She still speaks to Jeremy when she finds something she thinks he needs to do for her or send her.

• She complains that he is "detaching" from her and not giving her the attention she wants.

I was going to say, "Well, once Jeremy has sold the house and unloaded all of the shit he no longer needs—including everything she left behind—she won't be able to do that any more."

Only the sale of the house seems to have fallen through, and it's now off the market. I took this screengrab on the 10th:


And this is what the listing on Zillow looks like right now:


It's not just off the market, but all of the listing photos have been removed.

Maybe he's realized he needs to do some additional work on the place to get it ready for market, if he's going to get a decent price for it. Removing the wheelchair ramp, putting some trim around the doorways he had to widen, and getting rid of all of Evie's left-behind shit would be a good start.

Or, maybe now that Evie's gone, and she's not draining him dry, he's decided he can afford to stay. In which case, he either needs to stop answering her calls/texts/emails, or change his phone number.

ETA: As for Evie already not being able to pay rent, I am absolutely unsurprised, given that she appears to have no income. How the hell she even got approved to get into that apartment had me baffled (still does); I've known enough disabled-but-not-on-disability folks, and assorted working poor, who struggled like mad to find housing they could afford, and successfully jump through all of the hoops to get it. But somehow Evie got into an apartment right away.

That she's only now getting around to getting her medical care eligibility and shit like food stamps figured out is pretty WTF-inducing. She could have had most of that done before she moved, or at least knew what she needed to do the moment she arrived in Oklahoma. I should introduce her to my long-homeless personal lolcow, who is also a semi-retarded parasite (on top of now being an actual crazy person, assuming she's not dead or trafficked), because my personal cow is a fucking pro at getting all of her tugboats in line the instant she arrives in a new state.

 

[Thomas Eugene Paris]

It's sad, but the article reads as though self-isolation wasn't out of character for her.

An unfortunate side effect of poor mental health is the fact that sometimes when people insist on being left alone, they actually are left alone.

That's a very good point, particularly the last sentence. Thank you.

That she's only now getting around to getting her medical care eligibility and shit like food stamps figured out is pretty WTF-inducing. She could have had most of that done before she moved, or at least knew what she needed to do the moment she arrived in Oklahoma.

The entitlement just oozing out of this sentient blob of poor decisions is off the charts. I think she expected her brother to seamlessly take over the Jeremy role, and I hope to God he keeps resisting. I don't know how he can stand the whining.

 

[Angry New Ager]

The entitlement just oozing out of this sentient blob of poor decisions is off the charts. I think she expected her brother to seamlessly take over the Jeremy role, and I hope to God he keeps resisting. I don't know how he can stand the whining.

I have no idea how well he knows her. Clearly, not well enough, if he was willing to help her move out to be close to him, instead of telling her to go live with her mom (I assume they have the same dad, but different moms; correct me if I'm wrong).

Part of the reason she chose to go to Oklahoma instead of to live with her mom was that she didn't think she'd receive the quality of medical care she insists she deserves in her mother's state. But here she is, with sky-high BG levels (and looking worse with each passing day), because she didn't ensure that she could maintain her prescription for a crucial medication before moving to Oklahoma.

Her apartment's not accessible, and she can't fit in the shower—how did she not know this before moving? Oh, wait—I guess that's in the same category as figuring out how she was going to pay the rent in the first place. And apparently her sister-in-law got stuck with the task of wiping her ass? Evie seriously needs to be in a care facility, and I hope her brother figures that out and does the legwork in finding one for her, even if only for his own sake. His wife didn't agree to and shouldn't be doing ass-wiping duty for his useless deathfat sister. If he wants to stay married, he needs to get Evie in someplace with paid ass-wipers—because Evie herself is unwilling (and probably unable, lezbereal) to do that herself. Also, under no circumstances should he move her into his own home when she gets evicted, because that will guarantee the end of his marriage.

DKA, or a stroke or heart attack, will probably take her out, and if she's lucky, it'll be swift.

 

[Zemblan Physics]

DKA,

I was taught that the risk for DKA is almost negligible in T2D, unless you’re on an SGLT2-inhibitor or pretty much end-stage T2D (is she?). Something about the poor remaining insulin cells preventing DKA. Maybe some other medfag knows better?

My money in the death poll would be on a massive embolism due to fat and immobile.

 

[DavidS877]

It's not just off the market, but all of the listing photos have been removed.

Could also be far enough in the sales process they blocked it on MLS entirely. No transfer recorded with the local assessors office yet though.

Some other sources still say "Pending" or "Contingent"

 

[Spicy Meatball]

Could also be far enough in the sales process they blocked it on MLS entirely. No transfer recorded with the local assessors office yet though.

Some other sources still say "Pending" or "Contingent"

Contingent on Evie being unable to come back to the house, pending filing of Evie’s death certificate.

 

[Otterly]

Someone co signed the lease I presume? So they will be in the hook for her rent. Her brother and SIL don’t look like they’ve got a lot of money. Their marriage will get strained by this
There is no way I’d be wiping Evie’s arse for her. I’d be helping her sort medications and welfare and all that for sure but there is no way money I needed for my kids would be spent on her rent and no way I’d be risking my back moving or wiping her
What happens if the Co signer doesn’t pay? Can they be chased and prosecuted for it?

 

[GenociderSyo]

What happens if the Co signer doesn’t pay? Can they be chased and prosecuted for it?

Yep. If you cosign your taking liability if the main person doesn't pay.

 

[often puzzled]

Chiming in on the Zillow thing: Zillow has a little quirk where listings that were contingent appear to revert to their prior (pre-sales listing) state and then tick over to show a successful sale. I have no idea why; it's just an oddity I've noticed. I do hope the sale goes through. The kids need to be able to leave that house and the memories of Evie behind them, and I do think a significant shift like a new house would be helpful for them. If any of Evie's stuff is still there-- and I'm sure it is-- he needs to tell her to pay up, or it's going in the dumpster.

Evie isn't capable of living on her own in any way. She can't manage it financially, can't manage it physically, apparently can't manage it mentally. She needs to be in a care home, because there's no one in her family who can or should be forced to care for her. By her own admission, that's what ended the relationship with Jeremy, and she should not be allowed to ruin her brother's relationship with his wife and child. I hope they don't give an inch, because Evie will keep taking and taking.

I almost started to write that an accessible studio-type apartment would be more affordable and navigable for her, but then I ditched that idea: she needs to be in a care home, full stop. There's just no way to make an independent living situation work for her. And I've got no sympathy at all for her situation, because digging her own grave is the only work she's done in her entire wasted life.

 

[Thomas Eugene Paris]

DKA, or a stroke or heart attack, will probably take her out, and if she's lucky, it'll be swift.

I was taught that the risk for DKA is almost negligible in T2D, unless you’re on an SGLT2-inhibitor or pretty much end-stage T2D (is she?). Something about the poor remaining insulin cells preventing DKA. Maybe some other medfag knows better?

My money in the death poll would be on a massive embolism due to fat and immobile.

Infection is another big one in this population, no pun intended*. She's unable to bathe and has indicated that she's been utilizing the "rag on a stick" method, which is not exactly effective, judging from her increasingly filthy appearance. She complained while in hospital that the nurses weren't able to wipe her ass for her, and I assume she hasn't had any more luck than they did in that particular department. She's asking for an infection of her urinary tract or skin.

My money is on urosepsis. Her kidneys are extremely fucked, she's probably got a thriving ecosystem of fecal coliforms in her various crevices, and God only knows how you'd even tell if she were experiencing altered mental status.

*fine, maybe a little intended

 

[GenociderSyo]

The apartment Evie is in is accessible shes just too large to be able to function in a accessible apartment. Her wheelchair is a super size bariatric and doorways are not that wide even accessible ones. Shower is accessible, but she is too large to fit in it. Like other HAES accessible is supposed to mean supersized.

 

[GAY Ted Wheeler]

Why are we not legit euthanizing people like Evie? She contributes nothing to society. Is a massive net negative to everyone she comes in contact with and has zero chance of ever living anything resembling a decent life. Each picture that gets posted of her looks worse than the last and the text that accompanies them is even more grim.

 

[I call shenanigans]

DKA, or a stroke or heart attack, will probably take her out, and if she's lucky, it'll be swift.

Evie’s T2D so it’s not going to be DKA. Wish farmers would learn the difference, and stop speculating that every T2D is risking DKA on the daily, because they aren’t. I’m with @Thomas Eugene Paris , that it’ll be sepsis that takes this cow out. Sure it could be heart attack, stroke, kidney failure even, but she’s so unhygienic that sepsis is very likely going to be the culprit.

Question for those in the know. Has Evie still got all her lady bits, or has she had all the bits yeeted like many other deathfats? Her estrogen levels must be off the charts if she’s intact. Uterine cancer won’t take her out, but is very much on the cards for her.

 

[cybercybe]

Question for those in the know. Has Evie still got all her lady bits, or has she had all the bits yeeted like many other deathfats? Her estrogen levels must be off the charts if she’s intact. Uterine cancer won’t take her out, but is very much on the cards for her.

She's mentioned that a baby is no longer a possibility for her but that may just mean menopause.

 

[Thomas Eugene Paris]

Why are we not legit euthanizing people like Evie? She contributes nothing to society. Is a massive net negative to everyone she comes in contact with and has zero chance of ever living anything resembling a decent life. Each picture that gets posted of her looks worse than the last and the text that accompanies them is even more grim.

Everyone is just a little touchy these days about appearing too eager to euthanize people without their consent.

Evie is a miserable, worthless lump with no quality of life, but if she doesn't actually want to die, which I don't think she consciously does, there's not even a conversation to be had.

Can't rush nature's perfection, anyway.

 

[GenociderSyo]

 

[ScooterQueen]

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Can’t tell if filter is failing or she’s getting that DeathByJen face lymphedema on her right. Our left.

 

[stupid frog]

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The nephew is also taking care of you? Fucked up and probably true.