The mom started the Instagram account three years ago as a pandemic-era diversion—a way for her and her daughter, a preteen dancer, to share photos with family, friends and other young dancers and moms. The two bonded, she said, as they posted photos of the girl dancing, modeling and living life in a small Midwestern town.
The mom, a former marketing manager, oversaw the account and watched as the number of followers grew. Soon, photographers offered to take professional shots for the girl. Brands began sending free apparel for her to model.
“We didn’t even have the page for a month, and brands were like, ‘Can we send her dancewear?’” the mom said. “She became popular really fast.”
The mom also began to notice a disturbing trend in the data that showed up on the account dashboard: Most of the girl’s followers were adult men.
Men left public comments on photos of the daughter with fire and heart emojis, telling her how gorgeous she was. Those were the tamer ones. Some men sent direct messages proclaiming their obsessions with the girl. Others sent pictures of male genitalia and links to porn sites.
Sometimes the mom spent two to four hours a day blocking users or deleting inappropriate comments. At the same time, more sponsorships and deals were trickling in.
“It just kept growing, and then the brands weren’t just dance brands anymore,” the daughter, who’s now in high school, said. “It was actually really cool.”
The daughter loved coming up with creative posts. She told her mom she wanted to become an influencer, a “dream job” she could pursue after school and dance practice.
“It wasn’t like I was trying to push her to be a star, but part of me thought it was inevitable, that it could happen someday,” the mom said. “She just has that personality.”
The mom was torn. To reach the influencer stratosphere, the account would need a lot more followers—and she would have to be less discriminating about who they were. Instagram promotes content based on engagement, and the male accounts she had been blocking tend to engage aggressively, lingering on photos and videos and boosting them with likes or comments. Running them off, or broadly disabling comments, would likely doom her daughter’s influencer aspirations.
That was a reason to say no. There were also reasons to say yes. The mom felt the account had brought her closer with her daughter, and even second- and third-tier influencers can make tens of thousands of dollars a year or more. The money could help pay for college, the mom thought.
The mom said yes. And with that, she grew to accept a grim reality: Being a young influencer on Instagram means building an audience including large numbers of men who take sexual interest in children.
“It’s not that I liked it, ever. Ever. It just is what it is,” the mom said. At times, she’s questioned her decision to keep the account going. The account dashboard had recently put the number of male followers at 92%. At one point, she offered Instagram subscriptions to users willing to pay a monthly fee for extra photos and videos. Many of them were also men.
Thousands of other young female influencers, and their parents, have made similar calculations in using social-media sites to promote posts and products. Parents have found that Instagram, owned by Meta Platforms, is a particular problem.
Instagram’s algorithm is built to identify users’ interests and push similar content. Photo: Thomas Trutschel/Zuma Press
Instagram makes it easy for strangers to find photos of children, and its algorithm is built to identify users’ interests and push similar content. Investigations by The Wall Street Journal and outside researchers have found that, upon recognizing that an account might be sexually interested in children, Instagram’s algorithm recommends child accounts for the user to follow, as well as sexual content related to both children and adults.
That algorithm has become the engine powering the growth of an insidious world in which young girls’ online popularity is perversely predicated on gaining large numbers of male followers.
“If you want to be an influencer and work with brands and get paid, you have to work with the algorithm, and it all works with how many people like and engage with your post,” said the Midwestern mom. “You have to accept it.”
Meta has said that it has spent more than a decade working on keeping children safe online, and developed tools, features and resources to support teens and their parents. In response to Journal articles over the past year showing how its algorithms connect pedophilic accounts and promote material that sexualizes children, the company said it took a series of measures to remove violating accounts and enhance safety.
The company has been developing technology to identify accounts belonging to potentially suspicious adults. It said it has removed tens of thousands of such accounts in recent months.
Instagram photos of young girls become a dark currency, swapped and discussed obsessively among men on encrypted messaging apps such as Telegram. The Journal reviewed dozens of conversations in which the men fetishized specific body parts and expressed pleasure in knowing that many parents of young influencers understand that hundreds, if not thousands, of pedophiles have found their children online.
One man, speaking about one of his favorite young influencers in a Telegram exchange captured by a child-safety activist, said that her mother knew “damn well” that many of her daughter’s followers were “pervy adult men.”
“We’re all model scouts, agents and brand owners,” another man replied in jest. “We’re totally NOT jerking off to the pics.”
The Midwestern mom, in interviews by phone and at her home on a suburban cul-de-sac, said she tried to position herself as the barrier between her daughter and the pedophiles following along. After she learned that her daughter’s photos were trading on Telegram, she sought brand partnerships offering school and leisure outfits instead of tight-fitting dancewear.
Meta looms over everything young influencers do on Instagram. It connects their accounts with strangers, and it can upend their star turns when it chooses. The company periodically shuts down accounts if it determines they have violated policies against child sexual exploitation or abuse. Some parents say their accounts have been shut down without such violations.
Over the course of reporting this story, during which time the Journal inquired about the account the mom managed for her daughter, Meta shut down the account twice. The mom said she believed she hadn’t violated Meta’s policies.
Meta offices in Menlo Park, Calif., in 2021. Photo: Ian Bates for The Wall Street Journal
‘Gorgeous!’
The Instagram posts started three years ago, the mom said. Her daughter, whom she describes as a “little ham” who loves the spotlight, had hundreds of photos from dance practice and competitions. She and her daughter enjoyed posting them and connecting with other young dancers online.
“It felt very safe,” her mother said. “Whether or not it was, it felt that way.”
Young influencers began following the account. But many followers lacked proper names and personal photos—signs of possible burner accounts for users with sexual interest in children to consume content anonymously. Some had crude or obscene usernames.
Meta’s guidance for content creators stresses the importance of engaging with followers to keep them and attract new ones. The hundreds of comments on any given post included some from other young fashion influencers, but also a large number of men leaving comments like “Gorgeous!” The mom generally liked or thanked them all, save for any that were expressly inappropriate.
Meta spokesman Andy Stone said the company enables parents who run accounts for their children to control who is able to message them on Instagram or comment on their accounts. Meta’s guidance for creators also offers tips for building a safe online community, and the company has publicized a range of tools to help teens and parents achieve this.
The mom and daughter began putting in hours of work throughout the week to produce a steady stream of content. Some brands paid several hundred dollars for photos or Reels, with stipulations for how and when to post them.
Like many young girls, the daughter envied fashion influencers who made a living posting glamour content. When the mother agreed to help her daughter build her following and become an influencer, she set some rules. Her daughter wouldn’t be allowed to access the account or interact with anyone who sent messages. And they couldn’t post anything indicating exactly where they live.
The mom stopped blocking so many users. Within a year of launching, the account had more than 100,000 followers. The daughter’s popularity earned her invitations to modeling events in big coastal cities where she met other young influencers.
Closer contact
Children, often with parental encouragement, have posed and performed for money for decades in beauty pageants, modeling gigs or acting spots. Predators have been there just as long, watching and participating.
Social-media platforms have helped level the playing field for parents seeking an audience for their children’s talents. Instagram, in particular, is visually driven and easily navigable, which also makes it appealing for child-focused brands.
But the platforms also have brought children and predators into closer contact.
While Meta bans children under the age of 13 from independently opening social-media accounts, the company allows what it calls adult-run minor accounts, managed by parents. Often those accounts are pursuing influencer status, part of a burgeoning global influencer industry expected to be worth $480 billion by 2027, according to a recent Goldman Sachs report.
Young influencers, reachable through direct messages, routinely solicit their followers for patronage, posting links to payment accounts and Amazon gift registries in their bios.
In 2022, Instagram started letting certain content creators offer paid-subscription services. At the time, the company allowed accounts featuring children to offer subscriptions if they were run or co-managed by parents.
The Midwestern mom debated whether to charge for access to extra photos and videos via Instagram’s subscription feature. She said she has always rejected private offers to buy photos of her daughter, but she decided that offering subscriptions was different because it didn’t involve a one-on-one transaction.
“There’s no personal connection,” she said. “You’re just finding a way to monetize from this fame that’s impersonal.”
The content she started charging for was simply more of the types of photos and videos they posted free, but hundreds of accounts soon subscribed. Some were other young influencers. Many others were adult men.
The mom allowed the men to purchase subscriptions so long as they kept their distance and weren’t overtly inappropriate in messages and comments.
“In hindsight, they’re probably the scariest ones of all,” she said.
Stone, the Meta spokesman, said that the company will no longer allow accounts that primarily post child-focused content to offer subscriptions or receive gifts, and that the company is developing tools to enforce that.
Saving for college
A straight-A student who hangs out with a small group of studious friends, the daughter talked excitedly in an interview about wanting to go to a large public university in her state. She thinks she might like to study business.
On a recent spring day, the girl was taking a break from making content for the Instagram account as she studied for her tests.
“They do come before modeling,” she said. “I just want that 4.0 GPA.”
Her focus on the account would resume as her friends sought summer jobs babysitting, teaching swim lessons and working in coffee and ice cream shops.
“I definitely consider it a job,” the girl said, adding that she saves almost all of her earnings for a car and for college.
Instagram is visually driven and easily navigable, which makes it appealing for child-focused brands. Photo: Jaap Arriens/NurPhoto/Zuma Press
To date, she has saved about $20,000, her mother said.
Most of the comments the daughter has seen on her posts are encouraging reactions from other young influencers she has gotten to know through the account. Her mom filtered some of the comments from men, and direct messages have been funneled to inboxes that only her mom had access to.
Still, the girl knows that men have accounted for tens of thousands of her followers, and said she sees it as inevitable.
The mom has spoken frankly with her daughter about the fact that most of her followers are men, many potentially dangerous. Several times, the mom has explained how to identify sextortion attempts and warned against responding to anyone trying to make direct contact. She has warned her daughter to be wary of anyone claiming to have nude photos or other means of blackmail.
“We’ve never taken a bad picture. That’s stupid. I would just block them,” the mom recalled her daughter responding.
“But I’m like, these people are really smart and they could try to trick you,” the mom said. “We have conversations like this.”
The mom saw her daughter, though young, as capable of choosing to make money as an influencer and deciding when she felt uncomfortable. The mom saw her own role as providing the support needed for her daughter to do that.
The mom also discussed safety concerns with her now ex-husband, who has generally supported the influencer pursuit. In an interview, he characterized the untoward interest in his daughter as “the seedy underbelly” of the industry, and said he felt comfortable with her online presence so long as her mom posted appropriate content and remained vigilant about protecting her physical safety.
No swimsuits
The mom knew there was opposition to accounts like her daughter’s. Some child-safety activists argued that parents running such accounts exploited their girls by knowingly accepting money from users who were sexually interested in the content.
Some criticized the Midwestern mom specifically, in messages or reports to Meta. She felt unfairly targeted. She saw other accounts featuring skimpier outfits or more risqué poses. She also had heard stories about parents selling custom photo sets to fans willing to pay substantial sums.
She had at first been vaguely aware from other influencer moms that men traded photos in private chats, she said, “but I didn’t really know what happened.”
That changed last spring, when an anonymous person professing to be a child-safety activist sent her an email that contained screenshots and videos showing her daughter’s photos being traded on Telegram. Some of the users were painfully explicit about their sexual interest. Many of the photos were bikini or leotard photos from when the account first started.
The mom tried to better tailor the photos and videos to reach young girls and moms.
“I try to keep it girlie. I always have bows in my hair and cute stuff,” the daughter said. “Girls obviously want to see fashion inspiration and hairstyles. I also never post in swimsuits, ever. That’s the No. 1 way to attract men, so that’s a big no.”
Still, the mom realized she couldn’t stop men from trading the photos, which will likely continue to circulate even after her daughter becomes an adult.
“Every little influencer with a thousand or more followers is on Telegram,” she said. “They just don’t know it.”
In one exchange saved by child-safety activists about another young girl who now has more than 300,000 followers on Instagram, a user digitally altered a photo of her wearing a tank top to make it look like she was wearing a micro-bikini top, with only small triangles of fabric.
“You guys like my improvement?” he asked the group.
“Beautiful breasts,” another responded. “How old is she?”
A person in the group used Google to identify the girl and determine she was 13 or 14 years old.
Assessing the risks
Early last year, Meta safety staffers began investigating the risks associated with adult-run accounts for children offering subscriptions, according to internal documents. The staffers reviewed a sample of subscribers to such accounts and determined that nearly all the subscribers demonstrated malicious behavior toward children.
The staffers found that the subscribers mostly liked or saved photos of children, child-sexualizing material and, in some cases, illicit underage-sex content. The users searched the platform using hashtags such as #sexualizegirls and #tweenmodel.
Meta headquarters in Menlo Park, Calif. Photo: josh edelson/AFP/Getty Images
The staffers found that some accounts with large numbers of followers sold additional content to subscribers who offered extra money on Instagram or other platforms, and that some engaged with subscribers in sexual discussions about their children. In every case, they concluded that the parents running those accounts knew that their subscribers were motivated by sexual gratification.
In the following months, the Journal began its own review of parent-run modeling accounts and found numerous instances where Meta wasn’t enforcing its own child-safety policies and community guidelines.
The Journal asked Meta about several accounts that appeared to have violated platform rules in how they promoted photos of their children. The company deleted some of those accounts, as well as others, as it worked to address safety issues.
Meta’s internal report also had highlighted the Midwestern mom’s account as part of a look at subscribers to hundreds of popular tween and teen influencer accounts. At the time, the account had 428 subscribers, about 42% of whom had shown problematic behavior, the staffers found.
The Midwestern mom had no knowledge of Meta’s internal investigation then, but she had become concerned about the prospect of losing her account. Meta, without explanation, had removed several photos she had posted for subscribers of her daughter dressed in casual clothes and athleticwear. She expressed her worry and confusion over the removals in a story posted to the account.
The Journal asked Meta why it had at some points removed photos from the account. Weeks later, Meta disabled the account’s subscription feature, and then shut down the account without saying why.
The removal of the account made for a despondent week for the mom and daughter. The mother was incensed at Meta’s lack of explanation and the prospect that users had falsely reported inappropriate activity on the account. She was torn about what to do. When it was shut down, the account had roughly 80% male followers.
“If I could go back, I don’t know if I would do it all again,” she said at the time. “There are too many flaws in it all.”
The daughter said she felt as if her hard work in building a following had disappeared overnight. But the two had another account, established years earlier as a backup. The daughter told her mom she wanted to use it to rebuild her following.
“It was disappointing, you know?” the daughter said. “I didn’t want to quit, but if I didn’t have the backup, I don’t know if I would have kept going.”
Her mom felt deeply conflicted. She thought about the Telegram screenshots. Child-safety activists had expressed concerns to her daughter’s dance studio. Someone had once emailed a blackmail attempt to her and other influencer accounts, messages she didn’t respond to but felt compelled to show to brand sponsors. But she didn’t want to disappoint her daughter.
The account soon had more than 100,000 followers, about 92% of whom were male, according to the dashboard. Within months, Meta shut down that account as well. The company said the account had violated its policies related to child exploitation, but it didn’t specify how.
Meta’s Stone said it doesn’t allow accounts it has previously shut down to resume the same activity on backup accounts.
The mom and daughter have been debating how to proceed. They offer some subscription content on another platform, but the majority of their followers were on Instagram. The mom said she is now considering allowing her daughter to open a new Instagram account of her own—figuring Instagram would allow that—and leaving the girl to mostly manage it herself, with some oversight and limitations.
“She just wants to figure out how to keep working with her brands and do her job,” the mom said. “I would love to boycott Instagram altogether, but that’s really hard if you’re trying to work with brands.”
The mom, a former marketing manager, oversaw the account and watched as the number of followers grew. Soon, photographers offered to take professional shots for the girl. Brands began sending free apparel for her to model.
“We didn’t even have the page for a month, and brands were like, ‘Can we send her dancewear?’” the mom said. “She became popular really fast.”
The mom also began to notice a disturbing trend in the data that showed up on the account dashboard: Most of the girl’s followers were adult men.
Men left public comments on photos of the daughter with fire and heart emojis, telling her how gorgeous she was. Those were the tamer ones. Some men sent direct messages proclaiming their obsessions with the girl. Others sent pictures of male genitalia and links to porn sites.
Sometimes the mom spent two to four hours a day blocking users or deleting inappropriate comments. At the same time, more sponsorships and deals were trickling in.
“It just kept growing, and then the brands weren’t just dance brands anymore,” the daughter, who’s now in high school, said. “It was actually really cool.”
The daughter loved coming up with creative posts. She told her mom she wanted to become an influencer, a “dream job” she could pursue after school and dance practice.
“It wasn’t like I was trying to push her to be a star, but part of me thought it was inevitable, that it could happen someday,” the mom said. “She just has that personality.”
The mom was torn. To reach the influencer stratosphere, the account would need a lot more followers—and she would have to be less discriminating about who they were. Instagram promotes content based on engagement, and the male accounts she had been blocking tend to engage aggressively, lingering on photos and videos and boosting them with likes or comments. Running them off, or broadly disabling comments, would likely doom her daughter’s influencer aspirations.
That was a reason to say no. There were also reasons to say yes. The mom felt the account had brought her closer with her daughter, and even second- and third-tier influencers can make tens of thousands of dollars a year or more. The money could help pay for college, the mom thought.
The mom said yes. And with that, she grew to accept a grim reality: Being a young influencer on Instagram means building an audience including large numbers of men who take sexual interest in children.
“It’s not that I liked it, ever. Ever. It just is what it is,” the mom said. At times, she’s questioned her decision to keep the account going. The account dashboard had recently put the number of male followers at 92%. At one point, she offered Instagram subscriptions to users willing to pay a monthly fee for extra photos and videos. Many of them were also men.
Thousands of other young female influencers, and their parents, have made similar calculations in using social-media sites to promote posts and products. Parents have found that Instagram, owned by Meta Platforms, is a particular problem.
Instagram’s algorithm is built to identify users’ interests and push similar content. Photo: Thomas Trutschel/Zuma Press
Instagram makes it easy for strangers to find photos of children, and its algorithm is built to identify users’ interests and push similar content. Investigations by The Wall Street Journal and outside researchers have found that, upon recognizing that an account might be sexually interested in children, Instagram’s algorithm recommends child accounts for the user to follow, as well as sexual content related to both children and adults.
That algorithm has become the engine powering the growth of an insidious world in which young girls’ online popularity is perversely predicated on gaining large numbers of male followers.
“If you want to be an influencer and work with brands and get paid, you have to work with the algorithm, and it all works with how many people like and engage with your post,” said the Midwestern mom. “You have to accept it.”
Meta has said that it has spent more than a decade working on keeping children safe online, and developed tools, features and resources to support teens and their parents. In response to Journal articles over the past year showing how its algorithms connect pedophilic accounts and promote material that sexualizes children, the company said it took a series of measures to remove violating accounts and enhance safety.
The company has been developing technology to identify accounts belonging to potentially suspicious adults. It said it has removed tens of thousands of such accounts in recent months.
Instagram photos of young girls become a dark currency, swapped and discussed obsessively among men on encrypted messaging apps such as Telegram. The Journal reviewed dozens of conversations in which the men fetishized specific body parts and expressed pleasure in knowing that many parents of young influencers understand that hundreds, if not thousands, of pedophiles have found their children online.
One man, speaking about one of his favorite young influencers in a Telegram exchange captured by a child-safety activist, said that her mother knew “damn well” that many of her daughter’s followers were “pervy adult men.”
“We’re all model scouts, agents and brand owners,” another man replied in jest. “We’re totally NOT jerking off to the pics.”
The Midwestern mom, in interviews by phone and at her home on a suburban cul-de-sac, said she tried to position herself as the barrier between her daughter and the pedophiles following along. After she learned that her daughter’s photos were trading on Telegram, she sought brand partnerships offering school and leisure outfits instead of tight-fitting dancewear.
Meta looms over everything young influencers do on Instagram. It connects their accounts with strangers, and it can upend their star turns when it chooses. The company periodically shuts down accounts if it determines they have violated policies against child sexual exploitation or abuse. Some parents say their accounts have been shut down without such violations.
Over the course of reporting this story, during which time the Journal inquired about the account the mom managed for her daughter, Meta shut down the account twice. The mom said she believed she hadn’t violated Meta’s policies.
Meta offices in Menlo Park, Calif., in 2021. Photo: Ian Bates for The Wall Street Journal
‘Gorgeous!’
The Instagram posts started three years ago, the mom said. Her daughter, whom she describes as a “little ham” who loves the spotlight, had hundreds of photos from dance practice and competitions. She and her daughter enjoyed posting them and connecting with other young dancers online.
“It felt very safe,” her mother said. “Whether or not it was, it felt that way.”
Young influencers began following the account. But many followers lacked proper names and personal photos—signs of possible burner accounts for users with sexual interest in children to consume content anonymously. Some had crude or obscene usernames.
Meta’s guidance for content creators stresses the importance of engaging with followers to keep them and attract new ones. The hundreds of comments on any given post included some from other young fashion influencers, but also a large number of men leaving comments like “Gorgeous!” The mom generally liked or thanked them all, save for any that were expressly inappropriate.
Meta spokesman Andy Stone said the company enables parents who run accounts for their children to control who is able to message them on Instagram or comment on their accounts. Meta’s guidance for creators also offers tips for building a safe online community, and the company has publicized a range of tools to help teens and parents achieve this.
The mom and daughter began putting in hours of work throughout the week to produce a steady stream of content. Some brands paid several hundred dollars for photos or Reels, with stipulations for how and when to post them.
Like many young girls, the daughter envied fashion influencers who made a living posting glamour content. When the mother agreed to help her daughter build her following and become an influencer, she set some rules. Her daughter wouldn’t be allowed to access the account or interact with anyone who sent messages. And they couldn’t post anything indicating exactly where they live.
The mom stopped blocking so many users. Within a year of launching, the account had more than 100,000 followers. The daughter’s popularity earned her invitations to modeling events in big coastal cities where she met other young influencers.
Closer contact
Children, often with parental encouragement, have posed and performed for money for decades in beauty pageants, modeling gigs or acting spots. Predators have been there just as long, watching and participating.
Social-media platforms have helped level the playing field for parents seeking an audience for their children’s talents. Instagram, in particular, is visually driven and easily navigable, which also makes it appealing for child-focused brands.
But the platforms also have brought children and predators into closer contact.
While Meta bans children under the age of 13 from independently opening social-media accounts, the company allows what it calls adult-run minor accounts, managed by parents. Often those accounts are pursuing influencer status, part of a burgeoning global influencer industry expected to be worth $480 billion by 2027, according to a recent Goldman Sachs report.
Young influencers, reachable through direct messages, routinely solicit their followers for patronage, posting links to payment accounts and Amazon gift registries in their bios.
In 2022, Instagram started letting certain content creators offer paid-subscription services. At the time, the company allowed accounts featuring children to offer subscriptions if they were run or co-managed by parents.
The Midwestern mom debated whether to charge for access to extra photos and videos via Instagram’s subscription feature. She said she has always rejected private offers to buy photos of her daughter, but she decided that offering subscriptions was different because it didn’t involve a one-on-one transaction.
“There’s no personal connection,” she said. “You’re just finding a way to monetize from this fame that’s impersonal.”
The content she started charging for was simply more of the types of photos and videos they posted free, but hundreds of accounts soon subscribed. Some were other young influencers. Many others were adult men.
The mom allowed the men to purchase subscriptions so long as they kept their distance and weren’t overtly inappropriate in messages and comments.
“In hindsight, they’re probably the scariest ones of all,” she said.
Stone, the Meta spokesman, said that the company will no longer allow accounts that primarily post child-focused content to offer subscriptions or receive gifts, and that the company is developing tools to enforce that.
Saving for college
A straight-A student who hangs out with a small group of studious friends, the daughter talked excitedly in an interview about wanting to go to a large public university in her state. She thinks she might like to study business.
On a recent spring day, the girl was taking a break from making content for the Instagram account as she studied for her tests.
“They do come before modeling,” she said. “I just want that 4.0 GPA.”
Her focus on the account would resume as her friends sought summer jobs babysitting, teaching swim lessons and working in coffee and ice cream shops.
“I definitely consider it a job,” the girl said, adding that she saves almost all of her earnings for a car and for college.
Instagram is visually driven and easily navigable, which makes it appealing for child-focused brands. Photo: Jaap Arriens/NurPhoto/Zuma Press
To date, she has saved about $20,000, her mother said.
Most of the comments the daughter has seen on her posts are encouraging reactions from other young influencers she has gotten to know through the account. Her mom filtered some of the comments from men, and direct messages have been funneled to inboxes that only her mom had access to.
Still, the girl knows that men have accounted for tens of thousands of her followers, and said she sees it as inevitable.
The mom has spoken frankly with her daughter about the fact that most of her followers are men, many potentially dangerous. Several times, the mom has explained how to identify sextortion attempts and warned against responding to anyone trying to make direct contact. She has warned her daughter to be wary of anyone claiming to have nude photos or other means of blackmail.
“We’ve never taken a bad picture. That’s stupid. I would just block them,” the mom recalled her daughter responding.
“But I’m like, these people are really smart and they could try to trick you,” the mom said. “We have conversations like this.”
The mom saw her daughter, though young, as capable of choosing to make money as an influencer and deciding when she felt uncomfortable. The mom saw her own role as providing the support needed for her daughter to do that.
The mom also discussed safety concerns with her now ex-husband, who has generally supported the influencer pursuit. In an interview, he characterized the untoward interest in his daughter as “the seedy underbelly” of the industry, and said he felt comfortable with her online presence so long as her mom posted appropriate content and remained vigilant about protecting her physical safety.
No swimsuits
The mom knew there was opposition to accounts like her daughter’s. Some child-safety activists argued that parents running such accounts exploited their girls by knowingly accepting money from users who were sexually interested in the content.
Some criticized the Midwestern mom specifically, in messages or reports to Meta. She felt unfairly targeted. She saw other accounts featuring skimpier outfits or more risqué poses. She also had heard stories about parents selling custom photo sets to fans willing to pay substantial sums.
She had at first been vaguely aware from other influencer moms that men traded photos in private chats, she said, “but I didn’t really know what happened.”
That changed last spring, when an anonymous person professing to be a child-safety activist sent her an email that contained screenshots and videos showing her daughter’s photos being traded on Telegram. Some of the users were painfully explicit about their sexual interest. Many of the photos were bikini or leotard photos from when the account first started.
The mom tried to better tailor the photos and videos to reach young girls and moms.
“I try to keep it girlie. I always have bows in my hair and cute stuff,” the daughter said. “Girls obviously want to see fashion inspiration and hairstyles. I also never post in swimsuits, ever. That’s the No. 1 way to attract men, so that’s a big no.”
Still, the mom realized she couldn’t stop men from trading the photos, which will likely continue to circulate even after her daughter becomes an adult.
“Every little influencer with a thousand or more followers is on Telegram,” she said. “They just don’t know it.”
In one exchange saved by child-safety activists about another young girl who now has more than 300,000 followers on Instagram, a user digitally altered a photo of her wearing a tank top to make it look like she was wearing a micro-bikini top, with only small triangles of fabric.
“You guys like my improvement?” he asked the group.
“Beautiful breasts,” another responded. “How old is she?”
A person in the group used Google to identify the girl and determine she was 13 or 14 years old.
Assessing the risks
Early last year, Meta safety staffers began investigating the risks associated with adult-run accounts for children offering subscriptions, according to internal documents. The staffers reviewed a sample of subscribers to such accounts and determined that nearly all the subscribers demonstrated malicious behavior toward children.
The staffers found that the subscribers mostly liked or saved photos of children, child-sexualizing material and, in some cases, illicit underage-sex content. The users searched the platform using hashtags such as #sexualizegirls and #tweenmodel.
Meta headquarters in Menlo Park, Calif. Photo: josh edelson/AFP/Getty Images
The staffers found that some accounts with large numbers of followers sold additional content to subscribers who offered extra money on Instagram or other platforms, and that some engaged with subscribers in sexual discussions about their children. In every case, they concluded that the parents running those accounts knew that their subscribers were motivated by sexual gratification.
In the following months, the Journal began its own review of parent-run modeling accounts and found numerous instances where Meta wasn’t enforcing its own child-safety policies and community guidelines.
The Journal asked Meta about several accounts that appeared to have violated platform rules in how they promoted photos of their children. The company deleted some of those accounts, as well as others, as it worked to address safety issues.
Meta’s internal report also had highlighted the Midwestern mom’s account as part of a look at subscribers to hundreds of popular tween and teen influencer accounts. At the time, the account had 428 subscribers, about 42% of whom had shown problematic behavior, the staffers found.
The Midwestern mom had no knowledge of Meta’s internal investigation then, but she had become concerned about the prospect of losing her account. Meta, without explanation, had removed several photos she had posted for subscribers of her daughter dressed in casual clothes and athleticwear. She expressed her worry and confusion over the removals in a story posted to the account.
The Journal asked Meta why it had at some points removed photos from the account. Weeks later, Meta disabled the account’s subscription feature, and then shut down the account without saying why.
The removal of the account made for a despondent week for the mom and daughter. The mother was incensed at Meta’s lack of explanation and the prospect that users had falsely reported inappropriate activity on the account. She was torn about what to do. When it was shut down, the account had roughly 80% male followers.
“If I could go back, I don’t know if I would do it all again,” she said at the time. “There are too many flaws in it all.”
The daughter said she felt as if her hard work in building a following had disappeared overnight. But the two had another account, established years earlier as a backup. The daughter told her mom she wanted to use it to rebuild her following.
“It was disappointing, you know?” the daughter said. “I didn’t want to quit, but if I didn’t have the backup, I don’t know if I would have kept going.”
Her mom felt deeply conflicted. She thought about the Telegram screenshots. Child-safety activists had expressed concerns to her daughter’s dance studio. Someone had once emailed a blackmail attempt to her and other influencer accounts, messages she didn’t respond to but felt compelled to show to brand sponsors. But she didn’t want to disappoint her daughter.
The account soon had more than 100,000 followers, about 92% of whom were male, according to the dashboard. Within months, Meta shut down that account as well. The company said the account had violated its policies related to child exploitation, but it didn’t specify how.
Meta’s Stone said it doesn’t allow accounts it has previously shut down to resume the same activity on backup accounts.
The mom and daughter have been debating how to proceed. They offer some subscription content on another platform, but the majority of their followers were on Instagram. The mom said she is now considering allowing her daughter to open a new Instagram account of her own—figuring Instagram would allow that—and leaving the girl to mostly manage it herself, with some oversight and limitations.
“She just wants to figure out how to keep working with her brands and do her job,” the mom said. “I would love to boycott Instagram altogether, but that’s really hard if you’re trying to work with brands.”
