Are you lost needing femoid advice post here - For the poor bastard's who dare or are just curious

[Andoxico]

Meet women literally anywhere else. See a chick at the grocery store not rocking a wedding ring and doesn't have a boyfriend with her? Just fucking ask. If you got a job where you have to deal with people? If you got along well with a female customer, chances are she won't mind passing on her number if she had a good experience with you if she's single. Just try not to get too down if they shut you down. It happens. Don't take it personal, move on, try again later.

I have never personally tried this so I can't say for sure but that sounds like an awful fucking idea. Meet women by meeting people. Find a hobby you can do socially, hang out with co-workers, just fucking touch grass. People have been hanging out and finding mates for hundreds of millions of years, you'll figure it out if you just fucking go outside.

 

[Dread First]

I'm still combing through the highlights of this thread, and I must say: it's refreshing, wholesome, and genuinely informative. It also reinforces a lifelong truth that I've held close, though other men often dismiss - women are the best people to get advice about other women from.

There's one bit of advice I wish to provide for the men that I haven't seen posted yet (though it might be addressed in a later post I've yet to read): Always easier said than done, but DON'T BE SO FUCKING QUICK TO INTERNALISE THE WORST SHIT YOU SEE OR READ ABOUT OTHER MEN. I say this because even I'm prone to it if I spend one too many nights skimming through the highlights of the man-hate thread.

This is a neurotic quirk of mine, though I've seen other men exhibit similar behaviour. A woman with some type of closeness (i.e. friend, female relative, acquaintance, etc) is talking about some undesirable trait in other men that you/me/whoever unfortunately have. You realise you have this trait/habit/whatever, the disdain she expresses quickly becomes uncomfortable, now you're grappling with the cognitive dissonance. Do you:

a) Realise that the woman in question is speaking broadly, consider the topic she was talking about and how it applies to your life, and strive to do better because you're not a fucking loser like the man she was talking about?

b) Internalise the shit out of it because you're just like that fucking degenerate she's talking about in more ways than she realises, and how this trait she dislikes is so fundamentally awful that you can never be redeemed for it?

I cannot tell you how many guys I know, IRL or online, who go with the latter train of thought (including myself). It's the easiest fucking thing to do since you don't have to change a thing about yourself or do anything mildly unpleasant. The only cost is your willingness to endure the unending self-hating inner monologue, as it gets stronger with every post you read where women express vitriol toward men, or as you overhear every negative thing the women in your life and online say about men (and you, by extension). I can't pretend like I'm a well-adjusted human being, but I think my fucked-up psyche would've been better off if I didn't spend so much time self-flagellating over my perceived faults and y'know... actually worked on them???

Spoiler: long ass rant directed toward other men with similar neuroses to mine

Were you a poor sod who was bullied by the pretty girls when you asked your crush out because you were an awkward, pudgy kid? Did the weight slowly accumulate, with your self-confidence being the price you pay for cultivating so much mass? You have a tangible solution that will get you from point A to point B (diet, exercise, and cultivating healthier habits), it requires a ton of work and self-discipline, and shortcuts like Ozempic won't ever work out the way you intend for them to. You're a man, losing weight is demonstrably and irrefutably easier for you than an equivalent woman in your BMI. You don't have to go to the gym 5 times a day, but why not start with getting the blood flowing back to your legs after 10-12 hours of sitting in a chair?

Do the women in your life call you a selfish slob who don't clean or do chores for shit? Okay, prove them fucking wrong and be proactive! House cleaning, much like cooking, ain't intuitive for most people, but resources do exist to help you learn. If you're gonna be a fucking degenerate, at least have the decency to be a degenerate that doesn't prefer to live in squalor. I seriously don't understand why so many men just bitch about the women in their life "nagging" about "chores." Is living in abject filth while being surrounded with all your immediate comforts preferable to living in sanitary conditions? I would hope not, but I've been bitterly disappointed before so I ain't holding my breath.

Do the women in your life talk shit about men who play video games and obsess over dry shit like history and philosophy? Okay, I find the disregard for other peoples' hobbies to be a dick move if either sex does it. Unless we're talking about some histrionic ultra-bitch who hates all things male to the point of absurdity, no woman talks shit about another man's hobbies unprovoked. There are plenty of maladapted faggots on this website, hell even a few in this thread, who callously dismiss female hobbies while asking loaded questions. Don't talk shit about crocheting until you've tried your hand at it, and realised just how shit your finer dexterity is. Autistic weeaboo males will obsess over Gunpla buildable kits, completely oblivious to how there are women in the same fucking craft store buying supplies for their hobbies. Be open to new shit that you've never once thought of!

Are the women in your life and online constantly talking about how it's impossible to find a man whose brain wasn't completely fried due to pornography consumption? Well, I'd hate to be the bearer of bad news, but porn consumption was always fucking hideous and unattractive. It was really fucking creepy and off-putting to all the girls in the playground who overheard gross conversations that some of the boys were having after one of them found porn on Newgrounds, it's fucking awkward and terrifying whenever some poor girl in high school finds out her boyfriend wants to do sexual shit he saw in a porn video online with her, and it's absolutely fucking repulsive now whenever some long-suffering housewife finds a colossal trove of degenerate pornography compiled over a lifetime of constant consumption. There's no such thing as "responsible" consumption because pornography is highly addictive; that truth only gets vindicated with time, especially in the notoriously pozzed world of academia. It's a long road ahead, but ceasing consumption altogether is the most tangible way to improve your relationships with and perceptions of women, full stop. Much in the same way that casual coke habits are built upon an endless chain of suffering, so too is casual porn consumption built upon an endless chain of exploitation.

It's way too fucking easy to give into the natural male urge to internalise shit and just not do anything while letting your habits get worse and magnify with time. It's another thing entirely to just... do the work and be glad that you're making tangible steps at self-improvement. You ain't gonna be drowning in poontang, but you'll go from "off-putting weirdo who would look nice if he cleaned up" to "vaguely approachable weirdo who might actually be fun to talk to." That's already an improvement by millions of orders of magnitude.

 

[Snack Cracker]

Have a weird sympathy for incels, much more so the guys who fit the criteria but aren’t bitter psychos over it.

From what I’ve heard it’s hard to know where it’s appropriate to approach women today, and after thinking about it it makes sense why under socialized or autistic men have an issue with that.

Work, not an option a good portion of the time because you don’t shit where you eat and if things aren’t reciprocated it can be taken to HR.

When women are working, not an option without coming off as a weirdo that essentially has a captive audience because the woman is paid to deal with them.

Gym, have to be REAL careful with that.
Talking to women when they’re working out is unwanted, if they’re wearing headphones and not a matching sports bra and bike shorts outfit.
Headphones are the signal that I don’t want to talk to anyone.

Dating apps sound like a horror nowadays and from what I’ve seen it can be grim, but I have a hope story.

Guy close to me has never had a girlfriend at the age of 30, but he owns properties and works and has his own car.
Doesn’t drink, doesn’t have any weird fixations outside of fantasy RPG stuff, his family is downright suburban normal with two parents still married with a good relationship.
He is autistic.

This guy has been trying to meet a woman for years, now he’s dating to find a wife and a mother for his future kids.
Guy desperately wants to settle down so he’s been on these hellhole dating apps finding nothing but thots, but he started going to the gym and working his ass off.
Keep in mind he has never done any sport or anything physically taxing.
The results are starting to show so I can tell he genuinely feels good about himself and more confident.

Best of all, he found a seemingly also autistic woman through one of those apps.
Cute but not thin (not fat though by Murican standards) , natural redhead, very nice skin.
She’s into video games, anime, fantasy wizards and necromancer shit, and apparently has had a lifelong fear of speaking to boys then men.
So far it’s going well, but this is the best I could have hoped for.
He feels good about himself, is healthy, and found a nerdy cutie that won’t run away when he asks if they could do that RPG fighting with LARPING and foam weapons and costumes.

There’s hope fellas.

 

[I_Lurk_Here]

Question for the females: How often do you get hit on and how do you feel about it? I'm seeing dating advice on the internet about talking to waitresses and such and that feels pretty wrong to me.

 

[msd]

You girls have helped me woth hair care before and I come again, to humbly ask for more advice.

I sleep, and wake up to my hair being a tangled mess, which makes it a hassle when I'm working.

My hair goes to the middle of my back, any ways I can stop it from being as tangled, or am I just fucked.

 

[Justa Grata Honoria]

You girls have helped me woth hair care before and I come again, to humbly ask for more advice.

I sleep, and wake up to my hair being a tangled mess, which makes it a hassle when I'm working.

My hair goes to the middle of my back, any ways I can stop it from being as tangled, or am I just fucked.

Two braids before going to bed it will keep protected and not tangled

 

[msd]

Two braids before going to bed it will keep protected and not tangled

Ah see, I don't know how to do that, I've always just put it into a low ponytail, besides that I let it flow.

My ex used to braid it, but I never learned.

 

[TETRABAX]

Women usually find it funny that I have 7 shirts that I've ranked in order of my favorites and wear them in that order so I'm always wearing the same shirt on Monday, and then the next favorite in Tuesday, etc. I also have a favorite brand of sweatpants so I bought 7 of the same ones to wear a clean one each day.

Apparently they think it's weird but I'm just min/maxing my clothes. It's not really that weird, right?

 

[Justa Grata Honoria]

Ah see, I don't know how to do that, I've always just put it into a low ponytail, besides that I let it flow.

My ex used to braid it, but I never learned.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8rOx_oS6rSo

two simple braids split hair in two should look like this.

https://www.freepik.com/premium-photo/girl-with-two-braids-pink-dress_47938390.htm

Nothing fancy will keep hair in place without much tangles and damage also.

 

[msd]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8rOx_oS6rSo

two simple braids split hair in two should look like this.

https://www.freepik.com/premium-photo/girl-with-two-braids-pink-dress_47938390.htm

Nothing fancy will keep hair in place without much tangles and damage also.

Hey this works, thank you.

I've been debating on shaving my head since the texas summer is killing me, but I get compliments on my hair, so I figured I'd keep it long

 

[Snack Cracker]

You girls have helped me woth hair care before and I come again, to humbly ask for more advice.

I sleep, and wake up to my hair being a tangled mess, which makes it a hassle when I'm working.

My hair goes to the middle of my back, any ways I can stop it from being as tangled, or am I just fucked.

The best way to avoid that is buying a silk pillowcase (not crazy expensive), it doesn’t make your hair frizz at night and not tangle as much.

Silk also remains cold feeling if you’re a cold pillow type of guy.

Also, pulling your hair back into a loose low ponytail, again preferably with a thin silk scrunchie (which protects against breakage), but a regular hair tie would work.
Do that before you sleep, the loose low ponytail won’t cause breakage in your sleep and will keep things together.

Or skip the silk and pull it back into a low loose ponytail before sleeping.
Best case scenario is braiding it into a low loose braid for sleep, but only if you want to and like the slightly wavy look in the morning.

 

[msd]

The best way to avoid that is buying a silk pillowcase (not crazy expensive), it doesn’t make your hair frizz at night and not tangle as much.

Silk also remains cold feeling if you’re a cold pillow type of guy.

Also, pulling your hair back into a loose low ponytail, again preferably with a thin silk scrunchie (which protects against breakage), but a regular hair tie would work.
Do that before you sleep, the loose low ponytail won’t cause breakage in your sleep and will keep things together.

Or skip the silk and pull it back into a low loose ponytail before sleeping.
Best case scenario is braiding it into a low loose braid for sleep, but only if you want to and like the slightly wavy look in the morning.

I'll try these, texas has pretty high humidity, so I'm always trying to find stuff for better hair care.

 

[umami's milk]

Apparently they think it's weird but I'm just min/maxing my clothes. It's not really that weird, right?

You're a little peculiar about your clothes but it's not too weird, no. Pants you'll also have an easier time getting away with. I don't think most people think about their clothes this much.

Question for the females: How often do you get hit on and how do you feel about it? I'm seeing dating advice on the internet about talking to waitresses and such and that feels pretty wrong to me.

I don't like it especially when I'm out and about on the street, but I also aim to be the pursuer in relationships so... Being stopped when I'm trying to get somewhere is pretty jarring. Also I don't think you should approach people who are working unless you also work with them.

Being approached in an appropriate setting (A party, a bar, a club, or other social gathering) is much nicer.

 

[Snack Cracker]

Question for the females: How often do you get hit on and how do you feel about it? I'm seeing dating advice on the internet about talking to waitresses and such and that feels pretty wrong to me.

Buddy, waitresses get hit on so much that they pretty much turn that flattery part off during shift.
Waitresses are also obligated to be nice and charming and possibly a little flirty to get those tips.
Some women are shameless about it, please don’t think that means they’re actually showing interest.
They also need to look groomed and a little bit of makeup, again for those tips.
It’s all about getting a good tip, but regulars who tip well still aren’t dating material.

Not to mention, waitresses have to be nice to you unless you cross a major inappropriate line.
They can’t leave lol, and they have to pretend at least to be nice.

I agree with you that it feels wrong, women in the service industry are a captive audience, they can’t just peace out to get away from a customer.

I’m sure you’re not a creep, but the above still applies.

 

[TETRABAX]

You're a little peculiar about your clothes but it's not too weird, no. Pants you'll also have an easier time getting away with. I don't think most people think about their clothes this much.

Thanks, all my shirts are Hawaiian shirts with different colors/patterns from the same company since I really like their fit, fabric, look, and price. And my pants are all exactly the same. I think I just grew up watching too many cartoons where everyone always had the same outfit.

 

[Georgio Cocklord]

I dont know if this has been mentioned but thanks to the women on here for kindness and patience. Its nice of you all to provide advice and comments to "dumb scrotes" as some people refer to us. Its appreciated more than you know.

 

[NoReturn]

You girls have helped me woth hair care before and I come again, to humbly ask for more advice.

I sleep, and wake up to my hair being a tangled mess, which makes it a hassle when I'm working.

My hair goes to the middle of my back, any ways I can stop it from being as tangled, or am I just fucked.

My ex used to braid it, but I never learned.

A silk bonnet is also a good idea. They aren't just for black women, black women just love them because their hair is more prone to breakage (generally) than eurasian hair.

 

[Andoxico]

Guy close to me has never had a girlfriend at the age of 30, but he owns properties and works and has his own car. [...]
Guy desperately wants to settle down so he’s been on these hellhole dating apps finding nothing but thots, but he started going to the gym and working his ass off.
[...]
Best of all, he found a seemingly also autistic woman through one of those apps.
Cute but not thin (not fat though by Murican standards) , natural redhead, very nice skin.
[...]
So far it’s going well, but this is the best I could have hoped for.

There’s hope fellas.

So we have to own multiple properties, be physically fit, have no weird hobbies, and have a healthy family to land a nerdy, "not thin" spud on Tinder? The future is bright!

 

[isalaide]

You girls have helped me woth hair care before and I come again, to humbly ask for more advice.

I sleep, and wake up to my hair being a tangled mess, which makes it a hassle when I'm working.

My hair goes to the middle of my back, any ways I can stop it from being as tangled, or am I just fucked.

If you're struggling to braid it behind your head, since you can't see what you are doing, your hair sounds more than long enough for the lazy girl braid.

Pull all your hair over one shoulder, and start braiding from the bit you can see. It won't be braided on the side of your head, so you won't have to lie on the braid itself if you side sleep.

I have been 'Elsa braiding' for ever since I never get the first two stitches right if I start behind my head.

Also, are you conditioning? You need to be conditioning if your hair is that long.

 

[msd]

If you're struggling to braid it behind your head, since you can't see what you are doing, your hair sounds more than long enough for the lazy girl braid.

Pull all your hair over one shoulder, and start braiding from the bit you can see. It won't be braided on the side of your head, so you won't have to lie on the braid itself if you side sleep.

I have been 'Elsa braiding' for ever since I never get the first two stitches right if I start behind my head.

Also, are you conditioning? You need to be conditioning if your hair is that long.

I actually ran out of conditioner, but the softness of my hair hasn't changed.

Something something genetics, that's what I get told when I comment about it