
They always want who they can't have.
And this comment here just shows how they blame society for straight men not dating them:
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I mean it doesn’t hurt to reiterate that this isn’t a healthy attitude you’re expressing there, BUT:
In the present moment, we live in a hierarchical society. Just calling it like it is, I hate it too. Status is largely about identity but also about what is considered attractive. If you’re hot and socially respected, you’ve got it made. Trans women often present a contradiction because we are often seen as very attractive, but our trans identity completely negates this as far as social status goes.
To me, the reason why we are attracted to men like this is because we try our best not to buy into society’s bullshit and don’t consider our trans identity to be a factor, even though it is. We believe we deserve these men, which is true but also not how the world works. This is slowly changing and I hope one day this is no longer true. But for now, our expectations are sadly unrealistic. Because of how society views trans people, guys who are attractive to us and seem “on our level” are typically aware of their status and aren’t prepared to sacrifice this to pursue us.
You may have noticed the inverse is true also. I’ve noticed that highly unattractive/undesirable guys will sometimes seek a trans girlfriend because they see it as an opportunity to “trade up” because they stand less to lose in pursuing us anyway and the possible stigma is a price worth paying for a partner that they consider significantly more attractive than what they may consider to be their options within cisgender women. And these guys tend to by highly available, to an repulsive extent!
You can’t help who you’re attracted to and I think your instincts are right to be drawn to the guys you’re drawn to. If shame was not a part of our society, I think the way these men would interact with us would be totally different! It’s not just about how they feel about us; it’s about how they feel others would see it and thus how that makes them feel about themselves.
I actually feel kinda gross articulating this though. I hate that this is how I see things, but that’s how they appear to be. Status matters to most people, and sometimes has nothing to do with true desire. Most people will choose the partner who gives them more power, not less… even if it means missing out on something that is subjectively more desirable."
They really should just date bisexual men, but we know why they don't.