I think you’re super valid for being irritated about that comment. It was a bit careless and uneducated. I agree, you and your wife’s opinion are the only that matter… but still, words can hurt, especially when they are from any cherished close ones, like friends.
I also really can’t stand when people make these kinds of comments. 1) the amount of patience, pain, and discomfort that goes into the recovery of this surgery is something that I quite honestly feel more people who aren’t trans should have respect for. It’s not easy feat. Of course, it’s an amazing surgery and I love having male genitalia now, but it’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done… maybe ever will do. 2) “it’s not the same” —- this gets me every time. As if genitalia doesn’t vary from person to person anyhow. Also if you’ve never tried, how do you know?
All in all, sorry you had to bear witness to that commentary. It really wasn’t cool of your friend to say that
So true! And also, I get that a dildo is not the same as a flesh and blood penis. I mean, I wouldn’t know but that makes sense lol. But after phallo, it’s flesh and blood, so I don’t get how it isn’t the same, especially with an ED.