so i talked to this guy on a dating app, and he immediately asked me out which gave me the impression it would be more of a hook up situation rather than anything serious (im fine with either one). i told him straight away that im trans and his response was that “he respects people for who they are” and i was like “cool, hes fine with it”.
when we met up, it went pretty great. we got to know each other a lot and when it came to the “hook up” part, i basically just did stuff to him. he wanted me to take off my pants all the way and i declined cus i found out then and there that i wasnt comfortable with showing my privates (im pre-op and he is the first person ive hooked up with as a trans girl). he respected that and didnt insist any further.
i saw him one second time with the same intentions of hooking up and same thing happened and i still declined, which he respected again. he wants to continue seeing me and even implied doing something other than hooking up next time we meet up which kind of got me excited cus im starting to like him the more i get to know him.
problem is: i kept wondering if he truly knows what i meant when i told him im trans. i told him once and we never brought it up or even asked about it so i keep wondering if he is thinking that i might be post-op or something. of course, the solution would be to have a conversation about it, but im not sure how to approach that conversation and how i should do it (in person or over text). he’s really nice, but you never know how someone might act if they get surprised by that info AFTER you’ve already hooked up with them twice.