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HOW TO DEAL WITH A HUSBAND ADDICTED TO PORN​

Pornography is incredibly difficult to quit. It is a very real addiction that rewires the brain. If your husband is open to accountability software, by all means use it. We use covenant eyes. It works on all of our devices. But do not put your trust in software. No software works 100 percent of the time. There is always a way around it.

If your husband is open to Christian counseling, do it. But not marriage counseling, counseling for him. He will need help to learn how to overcome addiction, strategies for rewiring the neuropathways in the brain, and help to see the damage caused by this sin.

Whether or not he is open to the types of help I mentioned, there are three incredibly important things you MUST do:

1. Stop looking. Seriously, do not check up on your husband. Don’t look at his likes or browser history. Men find this very disrespectful. It’s not your job to catch him in sin or convict. Leave that work to the Holy Spirit. The Lord sees everything.

2. Pray for your husband. Pray for him continually. Every time you think of him pray.

3. Be a good wife; obedient to all the commands the Lord gives to wives. You must show him respect and submit to him.

It’s not easy to do these things but remember that your trust is in the Lord. You don’t have to trust your husband, but you must always show him respect and submit to him. Do not bring up the past.

These things are as much for him as they are for you. Knowing if he is doing what is wrong isn’t helping you be a good wife. It isn’t helping you to give to your husband cheerfully. It isn’t helping you to trust in the Lord.

I have walked this road and helped many other women walk it as well. The Lord will help you.

Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear.

1 Peter 3:1,2

 

[GunCar Gary]

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wow much useful, thank you

 

[Justa Grata Honoria]

wow much useful, thank you
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Exactly ... Now either help out or stfu.

 

[Heed Not]

Porn addiction is a real and serious problem that probably does require something like inpatient rehab in extreme cases.
But I don't get being a married man addicted to porn. It's even weird to watch porn when you're dating someone imo, it's a bachelor's depravity. But maybe I'm not addicted enough to get it.

 

[GunCar Gary]

Exactly ... Now either help out or stfu.

help with what? it tells her exactly what to do in the article

3. Be a good wife; obedient to all the commands the Lord gives to wives. You must show him respect and submit to him.

she should stop questioning her husband and go make him a sandwich or something. as according to her religion

 

[God of Nothing]

you fags are here complaining about utterly irrelevant shit when the woman all but said "hope it goes away k thanks goodbye"
who am i kidding
you probably didn't even bother to read it

 

[Karen of Human Resources]

you fags are here complaining about utterly irrelevant shit when the woman all but said "hope it goes away k thanks goodbye"
who am i kidding
you probably didn't even bother to read it

Just because she sounds like a condescending judgemental bitch doesn't mean I want her to be unhappy.

I hope she resolves the situation and they have a much more fulfilled life together.

 

[Wendell Stamps DoL]

Without a reader’s questions type start off, it’s a crap way of writing an advice column

True, but to be fair such extra information would be incredibly embarrassing to the author, since the inspiration for the post appears to have been her own life.

I have walked this road and helped many other women walk it as well.

This is how a tradwife shames her husband without looking like she's shaming her husband.

 

[Bungdit Din]

Rape by coercion. "If you don't fuck me it's gonna get worse."

Are you saying that's a problem, or the solution?

 

[God of Nothing]

This is how a tradwife shames her husband without looking like she's shaming her husband.

well yeah
imagine a woman ever admitting this to another woman

 

[Local Farmer]

I don't know, maybe actually fuck him every once in a while instead of going "sorry, I have a headache", you dumb bitch?

Their are retards in the Gooner thread on the PG that spend thousands of dollars to get away from their family and rent an Airbnb to create a gooncave

 

[Karen of Human Resources]

well yeah
imagine a woman ever admitting this to another woman

I don't know what you know about women but I know more about my female co-workers, let alone my freinds, partners sex lives than their partners do.

There are no secrets. We know everything.

 

[God of Nothing]

I don't know what you know about women but I know more about my female co-workers, let alone my freinds, partners sex lives than their partners do.

There are no secrets. We know everything.

this is about their partners in this case but okay
i guess you couldn't help yourself

 

[Übertroon]

The problem is that porn gets them young. There are 14 year olds addicted to porn.
Best way to cure porn addiction is deprivation.
Try to get him to agree it's a problem. Get him to agree to block all porn sites and let you see what he is doing on his phone. A couple has no reason to keep their browsing activity secret, and that goes borh ways.
If that doesn't prevent him from browsing porn then there's also the option of traveling somewhere without easy web access and see if that works.

Even after just a couple of weeks without porn the male brain starts normalizing for most.

Porn addiction is bad because of the escalation. It starts normal enough, then it's the incest shit that' everywhere, then there's the violent stuff, and before you know it he's beating off to loli futa with gore

 

[Wendell Stamps DoL]

well yeah
imagine a woman ever admitting this to another woman

Nah, I kind of suspected this might be shaming from the first mention of Christianity because growing up in the southern baptist church I saw it all the time. It was a game between my brother and I that when a woman gave a sermon reading to spot when she started pointedly looking at her husband and figure out what he'd done.

 

[WhiskeyJack]

I mean, is he addicted or just someone who watches porn? Because some people see everything in the most extreme possible light and it's hard to judge if they're making a fuss over nothing. A guy who likes to stare at big tits from time the time is miles away from a depressed shut-in who jerks off 15 times a day and has 20 terabytes of videos of Adriana Chechik shoving her fleshlight up her own ass and can identify his favorite pornsluts by pictures of their anus alone.

The fact that he's married probably means he's not the depressed shut-in type who is actually addicted, and he's just some guy who likes to stare at tits from time to time. Try not to take it so personal, men like tits and if he's not cheating on you, it's probably not a sign that he doesn't like your tits in particular. Worst case, you could probably get him to stop staring a porn in exchange for blowjobs more often. Most men would happily take that deal.

Realistically, he'll hit his mid-30's and his interest in sex and masturbation will plummet, and the problem will largely self-correct.

Otherwise, just think of it like a hobby. He likes to see bouncing tits for a few minutes a day to let off some steam after work, you like to melt into your couch while watching 6 hours of HGTV each evening and he doesn't interrupt to explain how that houseflipping couple you love just demolished a perfectly fine historic soapstone sink to install a $200 chinesium piece of crap from Ace Hardware because they're sponsoring the show.

 

[AllieKat]

Rape by coercion. "If you don't fuck me it's gonna get worse."

Yes.

 

[grump]

I don't know, maybe actually fuck him every once in a while instead of going "sorry, I have a headache", you dumb bitch?

It’s called divorce.

There's nowhere near enough information here to really know who is "at fault" here.

Surrendered wife types tend to never say no, but there's plenty of them (especially Catholic) who are "Sex is purely for procreation". In which case, I'm not remotely sympathetic to her anguish that he might be looking at porn.

I'd actually want to know what kind of porn he's looking at. If it's barely legal teens or violent I'd be worried, but if not...



>Plastic tits
>Face-lift
>Make up
>Be demure and submissive
>Always be patient
>Be a good housekeeper
>Be a whore in bed but a nun in public

You're right. Women have no expectations from them at all.

porn addiction is perhaps not the root of all evil (that's love of filthy lucre) but it's damn near the root

you can't have "a bit of good porn" just like you can't be "a little bit pregnant" or "acceptable amounts of shit in my coffee"

Divorce. There's no way back and porn addiction isn't about sex.

What is porn addiction? If the guy is getting ed unless he sees the corpses of 10 midget transsexuals banging each other or he's fapping 24/7 okay maybe there might be a problem. If the woman is simply getting offended about the man looking at porn every once in awhile thats on her.

The hard cold truth is Men are wired to want to bang tons of hot women. Most men don't get hot women. And the few that do the woman either gets ugly/fat with age or they simply need a change of pace.

Hate it or love it porn is the most socially acceptable if suboptimal outlet left when we are no longer allowed to live as we were meant to clubbing rivals and gathering harems of beautiful girls.

Expecting men to just flip a switch on their instincts and never look or have a single sexual thought toward anyone except one single average woman who just melts and expands into a wrinkly bloated mess over the years for the rest of his life once he gets married is insane. I absolutely do not get it. People who think this way are either women or severely repressed men under the heel of women.

 

[World Famous Quasi Payer]

Porn addicted moids, like any other addict, cannot be cured by anything external. They have to do the work themselves. No amount of real life pussy will ever cure a pornbrained male. Coddling men's feelings by telling them, and allowing them to tell themselves, that it's a woman's fault, regardless of what it is, is one of the most overplayed moves in the history and the preferred way a male has to avoid all responsibility.

So the lack of a sex life plays no role in porn use?

Say that to Chris tysons ex wife i dare you.

For those who want to see how she looks like here is link to her insta

https://www.instagram.com/katiefarquhartyson/?hl=en

While I agree Chris' wife is good looking, isn't he the one that got caught talking to underage boys? If that's what he's after, no amount of good looking, dinner cooking, mother of my children woman is going to fix that or stop that.

I don't know what you know about women but I know more about my female co-workers, let alone my freinds, partners sex lives than their partners do.

There are no secrets. We know everything.

Why are y'all like this? Why? And y'all call us degenerates.

 

[FierceBrosnan]

I'm 6 of one, half dozen of the other, on this article. One one hand, dude you're married now, cut that shit out. On the other hand this was super vague and I don't know if the husband in this scenario is on the "just likes looking at the occasional strange tiddy" level of "addiciton" or if we're talking "my husband has entombed himself in his GoonCave™ and I can't find the dog" levels of addiction.

 

[Whoopsie Daisy]

The hard cold truth is Men are wired to want to bang tons of hot women. Most men don't get hot women

Wanking isn't getting hot women. It's short-cutting the brain's most powerful driver; sex, by jerking it to women on TV. This isn't the titillating porn of the 70's or 80's or the new porn of the 90's where it was everywhere but not acted upon, this is 24/7 degeneracy beamed into people's subconscious.

I'm not going to sperg out because I can't be arsed but there's a thing called kinaesthetic anchoring, whereby you use touch to put your mind into a certain state. Wanking does just that. You touch your cock, are satisfied and trick your brain into thinking you've done the hard work of gym, socialising, chasing and shagging.

Hate it or love it porn is the most socially acceptable outlet left

Socially acceptable. That's the problem. Whore houses and brothels used to be socially acceptable. Socialising and shagging birds you met at a bar used to be socially acceptable. Now it's wanking, non-manogomy, fucking trannies and trawling for arse-to-eat on tinder.

Expecting men to just flip a switch on their instincts and never look or have a single sexual thought toward anyone except one single average woman who just melts and expands into a wrinkly bloated mess over the years for the rest of his life once he gets married is insane.

Tricking that switch into thinking porn will cover up for the excuse of not going to the gym and bettering yourself is why men turn into wrinkly incels.

I absolutely do not get it. People who think this way are either women or severely repressed men under the heel of women.

You obviously don't get it. Stop wanking for a month and then you'll understand.