They end up relying on that for any sexual outlet in a very unhealthy coping mechanism, but I don't think there's any sort of misogyny on their part for it.
@Inside your walls made a really good post about this where she explained it way better than I can, I'll edit this post to link to that once I find it.
I do agree with that post, however I do find it funny that, for a medium written exclusively by women, they don't usually center female characters or relationships; those that do devolve into the absolute worst cat fights followed by toxicity. Even those who write exclusive WLW content often get dogpiled because they aren't writing it correctly. Can't win for losing. That content doesn't interest me, but it is interesting from an outsider's perspective because WLW content gets way more flak and criticism than even the shittiest MLM shit.
I have also noticed that in recent years, the 'top and bottom dynamics' are increasingly blurred, adding for more variety, because it used to be really black and white 10-15 years ago. However, you'll still find instances where the 'trad wife' mentality comes through - and it really is in places you don't expect.
The bit about male characters being better written and focused on is unfortunately true. In mediums where there are prominent female characters this is largely rectified, but nine times out of ten it's the opposite. Not to get off topic, but I do remember when Supernatural was at its peak, there were some complaints that it was misogynistic because it had no prominent female characters. It wasn't lampooned by Breadtube or the usual Leftist suspects because the most popular relationship was between two men - Dean and Castiel. The people who usually will complain about misogyny were silent.
But when it actually comes to gay porn written by and for men (such as bara, but that is increasingly being infested by pooners), you experience a completely different mentality. Everything from the writing and art is exclusively male centric - and I do mean
male centric. It's like night and day. MLM written by women for women tends to focus more on the emotional beauty and care of the relationship, while with the other it's literally all balls out.
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Nice. I know who I'm gonna program to be my robot husbandos.
Wanted to add that I have noticed that this is especially exemplified in fan-made media.There also seems to be where even in fandoms (group of people who like the same media/literature) that are mostly women and girls, the top romance/sexual pairings are gay couples specifically. Whether it be due to the lack of characterization/time spent on female characters or how sexualized girls/women are by the fans (typically men), the male characters tend to be the ones most enjoyed and related to. I also noticed that some people, mostly women and girls, tend to project a similar trauma they have experienced onto characters as a way to process it or get comfort out of it, ESPECIALLY if it is sexual abuse committed at the hands of an adult or older child.
Yes, this was actually noted by an AO3 graph a few years ago. To make things simple, since fan made media is largely done by (white) women, they're going to focus on men they find attractive, and in a majority of the media they consume, male characters are front and center. It is for all the reasons I and other users mentioned: since men are the predominant characters, they will have the sexualization focused on them, because it takes the attention off of women.
In terms of the trauma stuff, I have noticed the classic sexual abuse tropes have been gradually replaced with actual characters with backgrounds and trauma that anyone can relate to/find sympathetic, but you will see this in works written by trans men. Out of all of these examples, they just seem to stand out like a sore thumb.
I've always had a soft spot for stories with well written female characters (most of my own stuff includes them) and definitely promote them when I can.
Oh, and yes,
@UselessRubberKeyboard they do indeed have the smallest dicks - measured! Around 4 inches.