The dad is a big black box to me. He has very little online presence, and even what was said about him by his wife/ex and her family varies wildly from one post to the next.
Now, his lack of online presence by itself could easily mean a number of things:
1. He's a sensible hard-working guy and smart enough to lay low and keep things private.
2. He's a bad hombre, but also clever enough to cover his tracks.
3. He's too dumb to use the internet.
4. He works too much to have time to use the internet. (And if he's in construction, probably doesn't need it much for work.)
So he is either too smart or too dumb, too busy or too lazy- it gives me no useful data.
The wildly varying reports about him mostly point to mom and her family being a little unhinged. However, the mom's posts about him having a rough childhood and struggling with substance abuse are likely to be mostly accurate. It's consistent with the whole picture of the family.
Still impossible to say. Yeah it's a retarded hairstyle, and the dye job would have been considered gayish in another era, but I see kids out there in public every day with equally gay hairstyles and most of them are neither gay nor troons. Current Year is just a time of really idiotic hair styles.