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- Feb 14, 2023
Twelve days ago annika828 looked deep within himself. His wife’s fury with his transition stemmed not from her sense of betrayal. No, she clearly had BPD. Why, his therapist thought so too! Also, the bitch is Catholic, and clearly braindead. He still had enough self-awareness to feel embarrassed by his pursuit of a fetish, but not enough to, you know, stop.
He has continued to show that sort of integrity and courage by stealth transitioning and hoping his wife will leave him. His first baby step after sneaking titty skittles behind his wife’s back: talking like an idiot.
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The second will be a bit harder to conceal:

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Not surprisingly, his half-in, half-out attitude to his marriage has not gone unnoticed
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Fancy that! Annika828 is pretty sure it’s all his wife’s fault, but thought he’d double-check
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His fellow troons agree - she is a selfish cunt. It’s no wonder he doesn’t want to be intimate with her anymore. Anyway, he missed out on much freaky time by marrying the first woman who would have him, and it’s his time to shine

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Good God, it’s like another Hon Lisa has fallen out of the sky onto my head. I should buy a lottery ticket.
He has continued to show that sort of integrity and courage by stealth transitioning and hoping his wife will leave him. His first baby step after sneaking titty skittles behind his wife’s back: talking like an idiot.
link | archive
The second will be a bit harder to conceal:

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Shaving beard even if wife likes it - is that insensitive?General Question (self.TransLater)
submitted 4 days ago by annika828
Hi all — I started wearing a beard 7 years ago partly as a shield but also because my wife said she liked it. Was hoping to help her get past a rough spot by reassuring her I was “manly” and not wanting to be feminine.
Tried shaving it a few times and she made a huge fuss and my daughter even flips out.
I think this is silly and unjustified as I don’t tell them how to be.
I’m planning to go barefaced again cause I’m really being bothered by it but I am anxious about the blowback.
My wife will ask “what changed” and expect sone justification for this.
I suspect she is worried I’m transitioning — which I kinda am — but she is impossible to bring this up with and I don’t want to mess with kids stable family life
submitted 4 days ago by annika828
Hi all — I started wearing a beard 7 years ago partly as a shield but also because my wife said she liked it. Was hoping to help her get past a rough spot by reassuring her I was “manly” and not wanting to be feminine.
Tried shaving it a few times and she made a huge fuss and my daughter even flips out.
I think this is silly and unjustified as I don’t tell them how to be.
I’m planning to go barefaced again cause I’m really being bothered by it but I am anxious about the blowback.
My wife will ask “what changed” and expect sone justification for this.
I suspect she is worried I’m transitioning — which I kinda am — but she is impossible to bring this up with and I don’t want to mess with kids stable family life
Not surprisingly, his half-in, half-out attitude to his marriage has not gone unnoticed
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Marriage in platonic holding patternDiscussion (self.TransLater)
submitted 4 days ago by annika828
First came out to wife 14 years ago and wasn’t well received. Went back into the closet.
Was “discovered” by her several time since expressing my feminine side (found clothes, noticed eyebrows, etc).
Over the years she’s become increasingly conservative and Christian — now a hardline Catholic. Our kids are being raised Catholic. My own views — Atheist/Humanist/liberal — are nonexistent in the house.
We get along ok as much as two adults with widely varying views can but I can’t remember when we were last intimate and TBH I don’t really want to be.
Now, she’s an amazing mom to our daughters— she is the glue that binds our family. She plans our trips, thinks a lot about how the kids are doing etc. I work long hours as partner at a consulting firm — I work at home mostly (thankfully) but it takes a lot out of me. However, also earn a very large amount of money and we get amazing benefits. She and I jointly made the decision for me to take the job and she stays at home.
Sometimes I still feel guilty that I’m not being present enough at home.
I don’t see our relationship getting better but it’s at this local minimum that I fear we’ll swirl in for a long time. I wish she’d just get fed up with me and file but I’m fearing she’ll force my hand.
Part of it is that I’m not open about my desire to transition because in don’t want her to make the divorce about that (and we live in the fucked up state of Texas). I worry my kids will hate me.
Thanks all — not sure what I’m hoping to get from this but thanks for reading.
submitted 4 days ago by annika828
First came out to wife 14 years ago and wasn’t well received. Went back into the closet.
Was “discovered” by her several time since expressing my feminine side (found clothes, noticed eyebrows, etc).
Over the years she’s become increasingly conservative and Christian — now a hardline Catholic. Our kids are being raised Catholic. My own views — Atheist/Humanist/liberal — are nonexistent in the house.
We get along ok as much as two adults with widely varying views can but I can’t remember when we were last intimate and TBH I don’t really want to be.
Now, she’s an amazing mom to our daughters— she is the glue that binds our family. She plans our trips, thinks a lot about how the kids are doing etc. I work long hours as partner at a consulting firm — I work at home mostly (thankfully) but it takes a lot out of me. However, also earn a very large amount of money and we get amazing benefits. She and I jointly made the decision for me to take the job and she stays at home.
Sometimes I still feel guilty that I’m not being present enough at home.
I don’t see our relationship getting better but it’s at this local minimum that I fear we’ll swirl in for a long time. I wish she’d just get fed up with me and file but I’m fearing she’ll force my hand.
Part of it is that I’m not open about my desire to transition because in don’t want her to make the divorce about that (and we live in the fucked up state of Texas). I worry my kids will hate me.
Thanks all — not sure what I’m hoping to get from this but thanks for reading.
Fancy that! Annika828 is pretty sure it’s all his wife’s fault, but thought he’d double-check
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Getting called selfish by spouseGeneral Question (self.TransLater)
submitted 5 hours ago by annika828
Is transitioning while raising kids selfish?
I (43 AMAB) have been married to my wife (cis Female) since 2008 (together since 2005). I’ve always struggled with being male but never thought there was anything one could do about it without “looking like a freak”. In 2010 I heard about “transitioning” and my egg cracked bad.
After much internal angst I got the courage to tell her in early 2011. She said she didn’t want to me married to a woman and we shouldn’t talk about this again. My wife has been almost my first everything (sex, girlfriend, wife) — my first kiss was when I was 21! I couldn’t handle the thought of losing her and the disappointment of my family so i went back in the closet. We had our first child in 2012 and a second in 2019 (IVF).
She has since “caught” me doing transgender stuff (found clothing mostly) in 2013, 2015, and most recently this year (2024). She has said in the past that she feels bad if she made me feel embarrassed about my gender issues bit since becoming catholic she has taken a turn to the right answer now watches Matt Walsh, Bishop Barron, and others like that. She is not an ally of LGBT anymore.
Anyway, the issue that always comes up is that me transitioning is a selfish indulgence that comes at the expense of our kids. She has shown me videos of catholic gay men to marry women anyway and father children, who compare being gay to alcoholism and that neither should be acted on.
Is this fair? Do some cis partners really think we got up and thought “gee I can’t wait to blow up my life for a nice pair of breasts and a miniskirt!”
Also, she notices I take care of my face and have nicely shaped eyebrows and asks “where do you have time for that?! I’m not wearing makeup right now - why are you so vain and concerned? I’m too busy taking care of the kids to worry about my face”
Yet..she spends 30+ mins every day doing makeup and such and even got done up for a trip to a cat cafe with only us as our kids there. Just seems like a double standard so she can make me seem shallow.
submitted 5 hours ago by annika828
Is transitioning while raising kids selfish?
I (43 AMAB) have been married to my wife (cis Female) since 2008 (together since 2005). I’ve always struggled with being male but never thought there was anything one could do about it without “looking like a freak”. In 2010 I heard about “transitioning” and my egg cracked bad.
After much internal angst I got the courage to tell her in early 2011. She said she didn’t want to me married to a woman and we shouldn’t talk about this again. My wife has been almost my first everything (sex, girlfriend, wife) — my first kiss was when I was 21! I couldn’t handle the thought of losing her and the disappointment of my family so i went back in the closet. We had our first child in 2012 and a second in 2019 (IVF).
She has since “caught” me doing transgender stuff (found clothing mostly) in 2013, 2015, and most recently this year (2024). She has said in the past that she feels bad if she made me feel embarrassed about my gender issues bit since becoming catholic she has taken a turn to the right answer now watches Matt Walsh, Bishop Barron, and others like that. She is not an ally of LGBT anymore.
Anyway, the issue that always comes up is that me transitioning is a selfish indulgence that comes at the expense of our kids. She has shown me videos of catholic gay men to marry women anyway and father children, who compare being gay to alcoholism and that neither should be acted on.
Is this fair? Do some cis partners really think we got up and thought “gee I can’t wait to blow up my life for a nice pair of breasts and a miniskirt!”
Also, she notices I take care of my face and have nicely shaped eyebrows and asks “where do you have time for that?! I’m not wearing makeup right now - why are you so vain and concerned? I’m too busy taking care of the kids to worry about my face”
Yet..she spends 30+ mins every day doing makeup and such and even got done up for a trip to a cat cafe with only us as our kids there. Just seems like a double standard so she can make me seem shallow.
His fellow troons agree - she is a selfish cunt. It’s no wonder he doesn’t want to be intimate with her anymore. Anyway, he missed out on much freaky time by marrying the first woman who would have him, and it’s his time to shine

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First kiss at 21, virgin till 24Discussion (self.TransLater)
submitted 5 hours ago by annika828
Is it normal for trans folks to avoid sex and relationships?
I never felt good as a male, and so I only had a few single night dates and kissed them a few times. My first kiss was October 2002 (21 years old). Met my soon to be wife on eHarmony in 2005 and she has been the only girlfriend I’ve ever had, and my only sexual experience.
However, even here my feeling when having sex was 80% stress and 20% pleasure. I didn’t like it and she had to initiate most of the time. My desire to have sex went downhill from there to the point we have not had sex in over a year!
Despite being on hrt I do have a good libido but only in imagined scenarios where I’m a female taking a sexually submissive role. Ive recently started to find trans women and a very select few men attractive which is not helping lol!
Is this normal?
submitted 5 hours ago by annika828
Is it normal for trans folks to avoid sex and relationships?
I never felt good as a male, and so I only had a few single night dates and kissed them a few times. My first kiss was October 2002 (21 years old). Met my soon to be wife on eHarmony in 2005 and she has been the only girlfriend I’ve ever had, and my only sexual experience.
However, even here my feeling when having sex was 80% stress and 20% pleasure. I didn’t like it and she had to initiate most of the time. My desire to have sex went downhill from there to the point we have not had sex in over a year!
Despite being on hrt I do have a good libido but only in imagined scenarios where I’m a female taking a sexually submissive role. Ive recently started to find trans women and a very select few men attractive which is not helping lol!
Is this normal?
Good God, it’s like another Hon Lisa has fallen out of the sky onto my head. I should buy a lottery ticket.