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Fewer Young men are having sex, why? - And why the sex disparity?
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It is a multi-faceted problem, and one that has been spiraling for a while, though current year accelerated it.
The release of sex drugs and abortion made a previously taboo activity easy to do and with little consequence. Before, pregnancy would be a huge hurdle to somewhat force that you pick a good partner. Those dynamics are now gone. and base instincts win out. Women go for the top men and put out in a hope to keep them, while said men have their fun with the all-you-can-eat-buffet presented to them by the dating market.
This issue is then compounded by Feminism raising women up above men. With more women succeeding over men, the smaller the pool of "successful" men gets. Women look for a winner, and the current conditions simply do not produce such an outcome. Now the goal for men is to be amongst the top then never settle, as that is the perfect strat to maxx out the game we call dating.
There was a post I remember seeing regarding an Asian classroom of roughly 1/2 boy to girl ratio that sort of spoke on the above. When girls were given the resources (in this case snacks) during a girl's day, they shared with 2 out of the 10 boys. The teacher then did the same for the boys and came to the result that they distributed the snacks in a way to which no girl was left out and all were generally happier. I believe we are living in a world similar to the girl's day now, explaining much of the disparity. The boys have nothing to offer girls, so the girls just stick to the top of the litter be it the actual successes, or the best looking.
As others have mentioned, the internet also plays a part. The ability to move down further niches does kill off the ability to interact normally. The internet also discourages going out and truly interacting.
Dating apps are an obvious scam, literally designed to suck money out of men's pockets, yet have, unfortunately, become the main source of dating. Not only are men living through the above classroom experiment, but they are also haggled by the app itself intentionally hiding them till a day before renewal. It is horrific how much dating apps prevent any real interaction, regardless of how much you pay.
Covid and the destruction of America play a huge factor. Many staple locations are now closed down, including malls and restaurants. Everything is closing earlier as well. Young people, especially those who have to work till night hours, have nowhere to really go anymore. Many jobs are now online as well, so that kills even more opportunities.
Current year politics are another obvious hurdle to dating. Everyone is politically charged now, and way more hostile. Good connections can be ruined by one misstep in not being a true believer. We also cannot forget how much #MeToo empowered people to take up destroying randos for minor comments. It just isn't worth the risk to figure out if he/she is a politico looking for a new victim. Not to mention, even if you did somehow break past that barrier of politics with them, the empowered individual is just naturally insufferable and will make life hell.
Finally add in all the other increasing blights: junkies, single moms, fatties, soys, fem/incels and it just isn't worth it.
The release of sex drugs and abortion made a previously taboo activity easy to do and with little consequence. Before, pregnancy would be a huge hurdle to somewhat force that you pick a good partner. Those dynamics are now gone. and base instincts win out. Women go for the top men and put out in a hope to keep them, while said men have their fun with the all-you-can-eat-buffet presented to them by the dating market.
This issue is then compounded by Feminism raising women up above men. With more women succeeding over men, the smaller the pool of "successful" men gets. Women look for a winner, and the current conditions simply do not produce such an outcome. Now the goal for men is to be amongst the top then never settle, as that is the perfect strat to maxx out the game we call dating.
There was a post I remember seeing regarding an Asian classroom of roughly 1/2 boy to girl ratio that sort of spoke on the above. When girls were given the resources (in this case snacks) during a girl's day, they shared with 2 out of the 10 boys. The teacher then did the same for the boys and came to the result that they distributed the snacks in a way to which no girl was left out and all were generally happier. I believe we are living in a world similar to the girl's day now, explaining much of the disparity. The boys have nothing to offer girls, so the girls just stick to the top of the litter be it the actual successes, or the best looking.
As others have mentioned, the internet also plays a part. The ability to move down further niches does kill off the ability to interact normally. The internet also discourages going out and truly interacting.
Dating apps are an obvious scam, literally designed to suck money out of men's pockets, yet have, unfortunately, become the main source of dating. Not only are men living through the above classroom experiment, but they are also haggled by the app itself intentionally hiding them till a day before renewal. It is horrific how much dating apps prevent any real interaction, regardless of how much you pay.
Covid and the destruction of America play a huge factor. Many staple locations are now closed down, including malls and restaurants. Everything is closing earlier as well. Young people, especially those who have to work till night hours, have nowhere to really go anymore. Many jobs are now online as well, so that kills even more opportunities.
Current year politics are another obvious hurdle to dating. Everyone is politically charged now, and way more hostile. Good connections can be ruined by one misstep in not being a true believer. We also cannot forget how much #MeToo empowered people to take up destroying randos for minor comments. It just isn't worth the risk to figure out if he/she is a politico looking for a new victim. Not to mention, even if you did somehow break past that barrier of politics with them, the empowered individual is just naturally insufferable and will make life hell.
Finally add in all the other increasing blights: junkies, single moms, fatties, soys, fem/incels and it just isn't worth it.
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No on wants or cherishes intimacy anymore and you can get your rocks off with porn or AI chatbots if you need smut talk. It's that simple.
This isn't sex or gender specific. Both men and women, gays and straights, are doing this. It's becoming the new norm and perpetuating itself as both sexes drift further and further away from wanting, or even being able, to relate to one another.
Third worlders without access to this shit are still fucking like rabbits though so take that for what it's worth.
This isn't sex or gender specific. Both men and women, gays and straights, are doing this. It's becoming the new norm and perpetuating itself as both sexes drift further and further away from wanting, or even being able, to relate to one another.
Third worlders without access to this shit are still fucking like rabbits though so take that for what it's worth.
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I think this specifically compounded by the prettier girls being more likely to share, I remember a friend of mine who was fairly pretty would share her food with me and I had to repeatedly tell her she didn't need to spend her money on a coffee for me. The guys don't want to actively hurt the girls, but they don't want to settle for someone mid who is going to treat them terribly.
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Autism and overpopulation. It's fucked.
To be fair a lot of people (myself included) do not want casual sex, it's just hedonism has taken over and fucked over (pun intended) more feels-y type men and women.
I should probably stop viewing threads like this, it's fucked for my already fragile mental health.
To be fair a lot of people (myself included) do not want casual sex, it's just hedonism has taken over and fucked over (pun intended) more feels-y type men and women.
I should probably stop viewing threads like this, it's fucked for my already fragile mental health.
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It's been going down since baby boomers. Baby boomers had more sexual partners than their grandparents or their children. The average has historically been like 3-5.
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Young people are in their parents' houses masturbating and being depressed on the internet, not getting drunk and handsy with their friends in a band or whatever Gen X did
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We invented internet connections faster than 14.4k baud and ruined the world in the process.
More seriously? I don't know and anyone claiming to know is pulling shit out of their ass. Things like this are never due to a single, simple issue and in reality it's probably a thousand different things affecting people and society differently. It's a death by a thousands cuts kind of situation.
Furries? Most male furries are fucking other dudes.
More seriously? I don't know and anyone claiming to know is pulling shit out of their ass. Things like this are never due to a single, simple issue and in reality it's probably a thousand different things affecting people and society differently. It's a death by a thousands cuts kind of situation.
Anime? Most of the men into it are not having sex.
Furries? Most male furries are fucking other dudes.
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If men and women weren’t so damn fat they’d be a lot more attractive to each other. It takes a lot of hentai to override the loins natural desire to come inside of a lithe 24 year old woman.
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Instead of writing a 12 page thesis I'll just say:
3rd/4th wave feminism fucked it all up to some degree making women hate men somehow even more and men returned the sentiment.
social media made your life an open book for who you're fucking/trying to fuck leading to hesitation and fear of public judgement.
men became lazy faggots and decided jerking off was far easier than trying to get laid
the cost of living has gone so fucking high it's unlikely you have your own apt to even fuck a woman in
women's perception of themselves somehow changed IMMENSELY, if a woman is a 4 she thinks she's a 7, if a woman is a 7 she thinks she's a 10.
3rd/4th wave feminism fucked it all up to some degree making women hate men somehow even more and men returned the sentiment.
social media made your life an open book for who you're fucking/trying to fuck leading to hesitation and fear of public judgement.
men became lazy faggots and decided jerking off was far easier than trying to get laid
the cost of living has gone so fucking high it's unlikely you have your own apt to even fuck a woman in
women's perception of themselves somehow changed IMMENSELY, if a woman is a 4 she thinks she's a 7, if a woman is a 7 she thinks she's a 10.
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Without getting into a long drawn out debate, why do people trust polls? Who the hell responds to polls today? I need evidence stronger than an internet or phone survey to believe that men or women are having sex at a meaningfully distinct rate from each other. Respondents can be selected from laughably non-representative groups (e.g. redditors). They can also lie in an attempt to save face.
My theory is that of the men and women not having sex, these are probably in similar numbers and represent a growing demographic of social retards. For every video game addict male, there's likely a slashfic female who is equally perplexed at her inability to meet men without a dating app (the population of which almost universally skews male). The belief that women are sluts who get laid easily is derived from dating app population demographics but these are certainly not representative of the general population, which is growing more and more disillusioned of dating apps. The socially isolated or romantically uninvolved normie demographic is also large and the result of conditions that are hard to alleviate without great effort. If you want more young (???) people to have sex, go start some singles groups and be disappointed when you realize that people are super lazy and don't bother to show up, but will remind you later that they're lonely and single. Advanced versions of the "why won't these fucking retards talk to each other" emerge once pajeets and other undesirables invade your country and harass anyone remotely attractive. I've seen so many public events ruined by a small horde of male pajeets stop by and harass any non-pajeet woman.
Ez mode for single people out there. Get a few new hobbies that force you to be social. Do not pick anything specific to a single sex, even if it's the one you want to fuck. Mixed age demographics are ideal if you're a redditor who's afraid of the opposite sex. Let the old fogies teach you how not to be retarded with the opposite sex.
TLDR: The internet isn't real life and it accumulates losers who are extremely certain that the opposite sex is awful. This problem gets worse as more people become internet addicted.
My theory is that of the men and women not having sex, these are probably in similar numbers and represent a growing demographic of social retards. For every video game addict male, there's likely a slashfic female who is equally perplexed at her inability to meet men without a dating app (the population of which almost universally skews male). The belief that women are sluts who get laid easily is derived from dating app population demographics but these are certainly not representative of the general population, which is growing more and more disillusioned of dating apps. The socially isolated or romantically uninvolved normie demographic is also large and the result of conditions that are hard to alleviate without great effort. If you want more young (???) people to have sex, go start some singles groups and be disappointed when you realize that people are super lazy and don't bother to show up, but will remind you later that they're lonely and single. Advanced versions of the "why won't these fucking retards talk to each other" emerge once pajeets and other undesirables invade your country and harass anyone remotely attractive. I've seen so many public events ruined by a small horde of male pajeets stop by and harass any non-pajeet woman.
Ez mode for single people out there. Get a few new hobbies that force you to be social. Do not pick anything specific to a single sex, even if it's the one you want to fuck. Mixed age demographics are ideal if you're a redditor who's afraid of the opposite sex. Let the old fogies teach you how not to be retarded with the opposite sex.
TLDR: The internet isn't real life and it accumulates losers who are extremely certain that the opposite sex is awful. This problem gets worse as more people become internet addicted.
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I would be willing to bet even among gay people furries are having less gay sex than normal gay people
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Can't see it being porn. Whores, of either sex, are not novel inventions neither are naughty pictures .
I do think choice and venues are a big thing.
On the venues front, it's a lot harder to find a suitable place. You can't ask a freind out, because that's creepy. You can't approach a stranger in person, because that's intimidating. You can't ask someone at work, because HR forbids it. The only "safe" venue, is a dating app with an audit trail of messages and the ability to block at will.
On the choice front, young women and men have far higher opinions of themselves. A few decades ago you might feel you've done well if you picked a uni grad from the local area, now there's hordes of terminally online overly materialistic youth with weak social skills and a vastly inflated sense of self worth fighting over the cream of the crop. There's also an aversion to getting with a man less "succesful" than you, and I'll come back to this. Men want young meat to fuck and their other attributes (wealth, social position etc) matter less. Women don't work like this and consider more.
Men aren't immune to this either. For some, they haven't left the Roman era and think they deserve a wife, and this person should hang on their every word and be an unpaid slave. Meanwhile they're unattractive (unlike women, men can have the most hideous face but still be attractive assuming they hit the gym and have something resembling manners) and offer nothing to make women want him. Look at nature, the male courts and tries to please the female, not the other way around.
Admittedly, it's harder to impress a woman who is better educated, wealthier and probably has a stronger social network than you. It takes effort to show yourself a viable long term, stable, partner. Not all males or females in nature breed, the "fittest" do.
I don't think fighting nature really ever works very well. Men do have to try much harder today, but so do young women who undertake much more than some did previously.
I don't think this is bad for anyone, I think it's time everyone upped their game. If you think life is going to hand you something on a silver platter just because you are you, you're an idiot. At the same time, some who think they're special and really aren't need to rethink their position and what they're capable of.
Put down the video game controller. Start becoming interesting, start becoming someone that other people want around and find interesting or useful to know. Yes girls, that includes you. Nobody gives a fuck about your pokemon plushie collection. Become something better.
TL;DR: Unrealistic expectations and cultural taboos
I do think choice and venues are a big thing.
On the venues front, it's a lot harder to find a suitable place. You can't ask a freind out, because that's creepy. You can't approach a stranger in person, because that's intimidating. You can't ask someone at work, because HR forbids it. The only "safe" venue, is a dating app with an audit trail of messages and the ability to block at will.
On the choice front, young women and men have far higher opinions of themselves. A few decades ago you might feel you've done well if you picked a uni grad from the local area, now there's hordes of terminally online overly materialistic youth with weak social skills and a vastly inflated sense of self worth fighting over the cream of the crop. There's also an aversion to getting with a man less "succesful" than you, and I'll come back to this. Men want young meat to fuck and their other attributes (wealth, social position etc) matter less. Women don't work like this and consider more.
Men aren't immune to this either. For some, they haven't left the Roman era and think they deserve a wife, and this person should hang on their every word and be an unpaid slave. Meanwhile they're unattractive (unlike women, men can have the most hideous face but still be attractive assuming they hit the gym and have something resembling manners) and offer nothing to make women want him. Look at nature, the male courts and tries to please the female, not the other way around.
Admittedly, it's harder to impress a woman who is better educated, wealthier and probably has a stronger social network than you. It takes effort to show yourself a viable long term, stable, partner. Not all males or females in nature breed, the "fittest" do.
I don't think fighting nature really ever works very well. Men do have to try much harder today, but so do young women who undertake much more than some did previously.
I don't think this is bad for anyone, I think it's time everyone upped their game. If you think life is going to hand you something on a silver platter just because you are you, you're an idiot. At the same time, some who think they're special and really aren't need to rethink their position and what they're capable of.
Put down the video game controller. Start becoming interesting, start becoming someone that other people want around and find interesting or useful to know. Yes girls, that includes you. Nobody gives a fuck about your pokemon plushie collection. Become something better.
TL;DR: Unrealistic expectations and cultural taboos
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It's a combination of having an extreme hatred of women and an addiction to violent or degrading pornography.
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Hmmm, why ask men about this? Let's instead ask a feminist woman. Surely she will have a coherent, measured response.
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>Young men are having sex
>"Nooooo that's hecking wrong, abstinence is the way to go!"
>Men stop having sex
>"Noooooo men aren't having sex! Why aren't they having sex!"
It's a mystery we will take to our graves.
>"Nooooo that's hecking wrong, abstinence is the way to go!"
>Men stop having sex
>"Noooooo men aren't having sex! Why aren't they having sex!"
It's a mystery we will take to our graves.
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Oh look, it’s our resident (((Christian))) here to be misogynistic
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Proliferation of libtardism with the youth, throw in porn and dating apps and most men just don’t even bother because they already feel it’s pointless and they’re axed out of any romantic success
Liberalism is truly a death cult. I’ve known many of intelligent girls who would have made decent wife material 50 years ago become absolutely repulsive to me because all that’s in their head is the latest libtard social media craze
Likewise otherwise decent men down the hole of coomer shit
It’s an overall societies issue not to be blamed on one gender. It’s a symptom of a sick decaying unhappy society
Liberalism is truly a death cult. I’ve known many of intelligent girls who would have made decent wife material 50 years ago become absolutely repulsive to me because all that’s in their head is the latest libtard social media craze
Likewise otherwise decent men down the hole of coomer shit
It’s an overall societies issue not to be blamed on one gender. It’s a symptom of a sick decaying unhappy society
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