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Dating apps are designed to keep you lonely and desperate. How are they supposed to make money if they get you into a relationship? Good luck if you decide to go that route.
I agree, it is like that for me at least. I got almost no likes and didn't match with a single woman when stating that I was not looking for a Hookup but a serious relationship. I imagine stating that I'm religious would decrease the chances even more. I mainly tried Tinder.
When traveling I got a bunch of likes though. I just stated that I was traveling and looking to meet new people and changing some pictures. I probably got like 10-15 times the likes in a short amount of time.

I usually get unhappy using the apps, so I decided to not touch them anymore, although the thought of just meeting a women without going through the effort of first getting to know them is very tempting.
 
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Dating apps are designed to keep you lonely and desperate. How are they supposed to make money if they get you into a relationship? Good luck if you decide to go that route.
They are convenient. When your job/friend group/hobbies do not bring in anyone you could be interested in, you might as well try them out. Nobody here is saying that they are ideal, but pretending as if people don't find significant others there is retarded.

They also allow you to get a feel for the person you will be meeting. For women, this means risking yourself physically way less. For men, it may mean seeing if you have compatible wants. Getting as many matches as possible is not the only thing that matters to people. God knows the amount of deranged retards I've avoided just by vetting them online first.

If you get lonely and desperate because you are not getting as much attention on dating apps as you'd like then you might be too autistic to date to begin with.
 
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Dating apps are designed to keep you lonely and desperate. How are they supposed to make money if they get you into a relationship? Good luck if you decide to go that route.
yeah, that's a good point. now that you say that I actually recall hearing this said. i haven't paid anything for either of them so far, but they're definitely asking me to all the time.
If you get lonely and desperate because you are not getting as much attention on dating apps as you'd like then you might be too autistic to date to begin with.
Yeah, maybe I guess.
 
They are convenient. When your job/friend group/hobbies do not bring in anyone you could be interested in, you might as well try them out. Nobody here is saying that they are ideal, but pretending as if people don't find significant others there is retarded.
They aren't convenient when you have to spend 30 minutes swiping to keep your "relevance" up (a stat of your profile tracked by the app to push you to more people) and the only alternative is to pay money. And finding your soulmate is a needle in a hay stack when the seemingly majority of accounts you're swiping through are either OF thots advertising their socials or scammers.

They also allow you to get a feel for the person you will be meeting.
You say that as if the only alternative is going on blind dates. God forbid you go out to social activities and get a feel for someone in a friendly setting before developing an interest.

If you get lonely and desperate because you are not getting as much attention on dating apps as you'd like then you might be too autistic to date to begin with.
I'm not arguing anecdotes, the apps are designed to make the average person fail so they pay up for what they perceive will be a better chance.
There was an online dating service I forgor the name of that had used a personality quiz when users signed up and had a pretty good success rate with matches. IIRC it was bought out by OKCupid and turned into the same slop as tinder/bumble/etc.
 
And finding your soulmate is a needle in a hay stack when the seemingly majority of accounts you're swiping through are either OF thots advertising their socials or scammers.
You say that as if the only alternative is going on blind dates. God forbid you go out to social activities and get a feel for someone in a friendly setting before developing an interest.
99.9999999875% of women out there in the world won't be your soulmate either. Apps slightly up your chances, as do all other activities.

I am not arguing with you. I'm fully aware of what the men's side of dating apps looks like. I'm saying that it's something you do while you are going through the motions everywhere else. Also, if a man can get manipulated into paying for dating apps, then he has considerably larger issues than his lack of a love life.
 
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They aren't convenient when you have to spend 30 minutes swiping to keep your "relevance" up (a stat of your profile tracked by the app to push you to more people) and the only alternative is to pay money. And finding your soulmate is a needle in a hay stack when the seemingly majority of accounts you're swiping through are either OF thots advertising their socials or scammers.


You say that as if the only alternative is going on blind dates. God forbid you go out to social activities and get a feel for someone in a friendly setting before developing an interest.


I'm not arguing anecdotes, the apps are designed to make the average person fail so they pay up for what they perceive will be a better chance.
There was an online dating service I forgor the name of that had used a personality quiz when users signed up and had a pretty good success rate with matches. IIRC it was bought out by OKCupid and turned into the same slop as tinder/bumble/etc.
That was eharmony.
 
Here’s a different question for the religious and/or spiritual Kiwi sisters among us: how do you maintain consistency with your practice? Open to advice from people of all backgrounds.

I’m able to absorb and digest the theory effortlessly, but maintaining a consistent practise is an area where I’m sorely lacking. I can maintain a practise for 3-4 days, maybe a week, and then I get sidelined with distractions and let it fall apart.

Most of the women in my life are inexplicably able to maintain a consistent practise, regardless of what faith/spiritual background they are. I’ve asked for help once or twice IRL, but the answer I get usually amounts to “just do it and stop complaining.” The men in my life offer similar advice, but they’re equally bad at maintaining consistency as I am.

Minor tangential question: any recommendations for prayer beads?
It's genuinely a matter of faith and devotion, if you're not devoted you're not going to be able to maintain it
They say that I'm "boyfriend material, not hookup material". What the fuck does that mean?
That's a pretty direct "I'd rather have a stable, committed relationship with you"
for some reason I can't quote you but I'll answer:
Highlight the text you want to quote, there should be a little transparent popup with "quote" and "reply"
 
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I've been wearing Armani Code as my scent for the last 15 years and recently the smell has started to bother me. Trying to pick a new scent and it is a toss up between Burberry High Tea and Sauvage by Christian Doir. Can any of y'all give me your impressions and tell me what images spring to mind when you smell them?
Might be worth asking here

I personally find Sauvage a bit dull. Not bad, just very popular and not too interesting. But a good all-purpose scent. From just looking at High Tea online, it sounds much more interesting.
 
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Thinking of buying one of these three cigarette cases.
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How do I meet a woman IRL organically? I feel like there's no real hope outside dating apps.
Here are some relevant facts about me:
>doing engineering apprenticeship paid for by company, so one semester of college and 9 months of on-the-job training
>5'5" (cucked by my dad's genes)
>losing beer belly (down from 81kg to 78kg so far)
>two really good friends, but they are separate from each other
>really nerdy interests, for the most part, but capable of conversation and not a giga autist
 
I'm trying to improve things I can control. I'm going to the gym, I'm trying to cut down my alcohol intake, and m nail biting habit is out of control at the moment so I need to rein that in.
 
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I'm trying to improve things I can control. I'm going to the gym, I'm trying to cut down my alcohol intake, and m nail biting habit is out of control at the moment so I need to rein that in.
Good shit bud, get yourself on a good proper regimen. Routine helps.
 
Do women really think beards are gross? I imagine if you have a beard you would keep it well trimmed and groomed like a lady would her hair
 
Do women really think beards are gross? I imagine if you have a beard you would keep it well trimmed and groomed like a lady would her hair
If a man can keep it clean and conditioned, then most women probably wouldn't mind. I think the full santa/wizard beards are less likely to be admired though than something like a short boxed beard or stubble, just for the sake of cleanliness and not looking disheveled. Completely shaven is reserved for those with a pronounced jawline.
 
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