Virgie Tovar - #losehatenotweight HAES, BoPo Snake Oil Salesman. Fat AF.

[Angry New Ager]

Apparently, Virgie has lost weight. I never thought that would happen.

I'm not seeing it.

She's not that fat, not for a fat activist who has been around as long as she has. Her weight's held pretty much steady, with only minor fluctuations, for years.

I find it hilarious that she'd get scolded for being a privileged smallfat if she was a white girl, but thanks to intersectionality she gets a smallfat pass because she's Latina, and thanks to the fact people have eyes, she also gets a pass because she's a hella tragic uggo.

If she ever lost weight, I'd expect her to do it slowly, not mention it at all, and when eventually confronted (most likely by a negress or another Latina, because the white deathfats wouldn't dare), she'd post a bitchy, sarcastic response about body policing, and people looking at you and assuming they know anything about what's really going on with your body. But I doubt she'll ever do that, because, as @vlcsr pointed out, there's no Ugly Acceptance movement she can attach herself to.

 

[The-Mad-Asshatter]

With the amount of money she's spent on trips, clothes, food--plastic surgery could've helped. Neck lipo, nose job, skin resurfacing, buccal fat removal. It would probably be under 20k. 30k tops.

With her weight, it gives her face the giant dimply pores, 'hound-dog' jowls, and a heavily noticeable deep crease right under her chin, which gives her a hybrid double chin and Becky-esc neck jowl combination that doesn't look attractive.

If she lost the weight and didn't keep eating large amounts of heavily processed foodlike products so much, I think her face would probably just become 'average' looking and her attitude might even improve. When people eat lile garbage, they'll look like garbage and they will feel like garbage, and at times act like garbage.

She acts like this because I heavily suspect she thinks it's impossible to lose weight or keep it off, so the HAES stuff is just massive cope because it would mean having to renegotiate and rethink one's attitudes around food. Especially foods that so many food companies try to make as addictive as possible, this making the HAES activists think it's 'natural' to be fat, when all of it is just the incessant push of an obesogenic society that lets these predatory food companies run wild. Hence why it feels almost 'impossible' to lose weight, because these have multi-million dollar engines behind them to scientifically develop and advertise them, and HAES people are fighting this cultivated craving for dopamine that these foods are especially designed to create.

 

[P. Barnes’ THOT 2.0]

With the amount of money she's spent on trips, clothes, food--plastic surgery could've helped. Neck lipo, nose job, skin resurfacing, buccal fat removal. It would probably be under 20k. 30k tops.

Dude, a $150 chemical peel and something like kybella (which I think is like a grand?) would improve her face by ten-fold. Like, that’s what? A weeks worth of takeaways for her?

 

[often puzzled]

I checked in on Virgie, since the thread was bumped anyway, and I noticed a recent piece by her called "Plus-size influencers are receiving paid offers to try weight-loss drugs: 'I don't want Ozempic.'"

link to article -- archive

I'm sharing this because Corissa is currently ranting about Oprah endorsing the drug, and Anna O'Brien has been in a partnership with the Ozempic manufacturer. I don't agree with Virgie about much of anything, but I do agree that the influencer-based marketing is pretty questionable.

Spoiler: the article

I'm only sorry that Anna didn't get called out specifically, because that would have been fun (for me).

 

[Angry New Ager]

Dude, a $150 chemical peel and something like kybella (which I think is like a grand?) would improve her face by ten-fold. Like, that’s what? A weeks worth of takeaways for her?

The visible state of one's skin is a testament to what's going on underneath it, and until hormonal issues and systemic inflammation are addressed, no amount of chemical peels or surface treatments is going to make much of a difference. Corissa's had at least one chemical peel that I can recall, and her face still looks like a bad stucco job; Virgie's results would be no better.

For her, the solution would be to stop eating garbage, but she doesn't want to do that. And frankly, she'd still be a bog troll even if her bad skin miraculously cleared up.

 

[P. Barnes’ THOT 2.0]

The visible state of one's skin is a testament to what's going on underneath it, and until hormonal issues and systemic inflammation are addressed, no amount of chemical peels or surface treatments is going to make much of a difference. Corissa's had at least one chemical peel that I can recall, and her face still looks like a bad stucco job; Virgie's results would be no better.

For her, the solution would be to stop eating garbage, but she doesn't want to do that. And frankly, she'd still be a bog troll even if her bad skin miraculously cleared up.

True, true. But then again, anything would be an improvement-including a .05 paper bag

 

[Danger Hair Don't Care]

I was shocked to see that Virgie recently got married. At first I thought it was a trans guy, but it looks like an actual man who isn’t hideous like she is. How? I understand everyone has different tastes, but she’s objectively ugly, like holy shit ugly.

 

[Ballsack Pussylips]

I was shocked to see that Virgie recently got married. At first I thought it was a trans guy, but it looks like an actual man who isn’t hideous like she is. How? I understand everyone has different tastes, but she’s objectively ugly, like holy shit ugly.

https://www.instagram.com/p/DCmrFAzxCQS/

He looks....slow.

https://www.instagram.com/p/C9flEcQh350/

The dress is too small and the necklace looks like it chokes her.

Someone didn't fit into the seat:

https://www.instagram.com/p/C9fDM_rpsBP/

https://www.instagram.com/p/DDF16JMzdr4/

This year I turned 42, I got married, and I think back on how hard I fought to get to this moment. I think back 7 years ago to my 35th birthday. I had booked a room at a hotel as a treat to myself, but the day ended with me crying alone in the bathtub, praying to any celestial being or ancestor that would listen, begging that before I die I could truly love just one person. I had had my heart broken by my family, by fatphobia, by so many of the awful things so many of us experience. I couldn't let people in, no matter how much I wanted to. That wish I made on my 35th birthday started a journey I couldn't have imagined: I went no-contact with my family, and in their absence my nervous system changed. I went to therapy, faced some of my biggest fears, read self-help books, meditated, rested, journaled, did solo travel, grieved, raged, mourned. My hypervigilance began to abate just enough that I could let someone in. That someone is my husband now, and I couldn't be more grateful for the destination or the journey ♡

So, she had a break-down and instead of improving what she didn't like about herself she decided to brainwash herself into pretending that everything was fine and everyone else was wrong. Mid-life crisis at 35.

Anyway, I came across her thanksgiving-article and I just knew she must have a thread here.

How To Host A Size-Inclusive Thanksgiving​

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1. Check In With Your Guests About Their Seating Needs
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Size inclusivity isn’t just about avoiding offensive language, it’s about recognizing that people in different bodies have different needs, and that’s OK. Depending on the number of guests you plan on having, seating can admittedly be tight. Alternatively, maybe your vision includes a perfectly symmetrical table with identical seating.

However, put yourself in the shoes of a guest who might be looking forward to spending the day with you, but dreading the possibility that they will have to sit in a chair that is extremely uncomfortable for several hours. Thanksgiving guests are often aware of how much work goes into hosting, and don’t want to pile extra tasks onto their host’s to-do list.

Sending a quick text or email to check-in with all your guests can go a long way in preventing unnecessary anxiety. You might ask guests to let you know if they have specific seating needs or if anyone would like a chair without armrests. If you’re using digital invitations, you can just add a question about seating alongside requests for things like dietary restrictions and food allergies.​

If you are worried about fitting into a chair, you need to re-examine your life choices.

2. Share Your Vision For A Size-Inclusive Thanksgiving
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Your Thanksgiving guests are your closest family and friends. If size-inclusivity is one of your values, your guests will want to know that. You can start by offering what a size-inclusive Thanksgiving means to you and then share what that you’d like that to look like. This messaging can be shared over email or text, or in-person ahead of the meal.
If you’re not sure how on-board your guests will be, avoid sending out group texts or emails (opting instead for individual or BCC’d communication), as this might invite lengthy discussions that feel overwhelming. You’re allowed to request that people forego any questions they might have for now, and simply honor your request.​

What the fuck is size-inclusive thanksgiving meal? A whole turkey for each person?

3. Encourage Guests Not To Comment On Weight Or Food Choices Before, During Or After The Meal
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We’re still in the era where commenting on body size and food choices is considered normal. In our culture, weight loss is usually considered positive and weight gain is typically considered negative.

The reality is, however, that we have no idea what’s going on in a person’s life that may be affecting their body size. Changes in a person’s body size is a deeply private matter that is not appropriate for dinner conversation. It’s best not to presume that talking about intentional weight-loss is a safe topic for the table either. Because our culture directly equates food choices with body size, part of creating a size-inclusive Thanksgiving means being more mindful about how we discuss food as well. Encourage guests to think of Thanksgiving Day as an opportunity to practice not commenting on people’s weight or food choices, including their own.​

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4. Expect Some Discomfort, But Don’t Let It Discourage You​

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Change is, well, hard. If this is the first time you’re attempting to create a size-inclusive environment, it’s normal to feel a little unsure or even guilty. This is a normal part of trying something new, and it shouldn’t deter you from doing something that matters to you.

If you’re nervous about body or food commentary on Thanksgiving Day, remember you’re allowed to have a plan that serves your needs, desires and boundaries. Hopefully, this guide will empower you to have a more size-inclusive Thanksgiving.​

https://www.forbes.com/sites/virgietovar/2024/11/23/how-to-host-a-size-inclusive-thanksgiving/

https://archive.ph/QF7ko

 

[thejackal2]

That manlet type has been on her social media for as long as this thread has existed, or at least most of it. Guess he finally figured a narc 0/10 was the best he was going to do and decided to put a ring on it. I give them two years before he troons out and/or she asks for a divorce.

 

[HamFan]

Ha, she got married at Madonna Inn, Tess's favorite. I know that place is popular on its own, but I'll only associate it with basic deathfat bitches now.

She has all those "fat bride" hashtags, but she's not half as fat as she is UGLY. She needs #bustedbride, #goblingetsmarried, etc. Do you think she purposely picked the most hideous pictures to share because she's edgy like that, or is that really the best of the lot?

Those "don't remind me how fat I am while I'm stuffing my face at holiday meals" articles are boilerplate now; I'm still disgusted to see it in a publication like Forbes. Anyway, I can't imagine her family is too sad that she cut them off. Probably enjoyed the best Thanksgiving they've had in years.

 

[VinegarPussy]

I find it bizarre that she didn’t seem to wear even light makeup for her wedding…it’s almost like she attempts to be aggressively unattractive.

 

[howdee]

spotted in the wild on nuuly:

 

[FuckDuckSeagull]

I find it bizarre that she didn’t seem to wear even light makeup for her wedding…it’s almost like she attempts to be aggressively unattractive.

I think by now she has realized no amount of make up will help.

 

[The Queen of Autists]

I’m happy for her getting married I’m sure nobody thought that was possible. If her husband shaves that beard down a bit in the near future we will all know why! Re: makeup, she’s probably somebody that likes to promote it’s ok to go without it, I’m guessing that based on her other politics or whatever you would call her fat thing she does lol.

 

[Assassin’s Sneed]

i know what Virgie looks like, and yet every time i’m jumpscared by her photo, it astounds me how much she looks like a bulldog chewing on a wasp.

no offence to bulldogs.

 

[Plus Size Polka]

That manlet type has been on her social media for as long as this thread has existed, or at least most of it. Guess he finally figured a narc 0/10 was the best he was going to do and decided to put a ring on it. I give them two years before he troons out and/or she asks for a divorce.

I know nothing about him. I was going to guess homeless, feeder, or homeless feeder.

 

[The Hardest R]

I was shocked to see that Virgie recently got married. At first I thought it was a trans guy, but it looks like an actual man who isn’t hideous like she is. How? I understand everyone has different tastes, but she’s objectively ugly, like holy shit ugly.

Yeah he’s been with her for a long time now. We know next to nothing about him. He does look very feminine, though. Good for them. Virgie is aggressively ugly but it does seem like she’s toned down acting aggressively ugly these last few years.

 

[Constellationzero]

i know what Virgie looks like, and yet every time i’m jumpscared by her photo, it astounds me how much she looks like a bulldog chewing on a wasp.

no offence to bulldogs.

She looks like a Team America: World Police puppet.

 

[Miltank]

He kinda looks like he has some sort of brain damage, like he’s not all there. Which would explain why he’s with her

 

[Hey Johnny Bravo]

This new information came from the US Politics General thread. Apparently, this individual now has a government-level position with the City of San Francisco.