Watching that video I do feel for Aspies like Malcom his parents and the system that he went through failed and ruined him. Every adult in his life seemed to have only pushed him to do well in school and thats it. Where they should have been pushing him to have fun and socialize more through sports or hanging out with friends. Shit like that fucks up even "normal" kids letalone kids with autism and especially aspies.
Yeah for sure. Older generations overlook the fact that it takes a lot more effort to form connections with people in the age of social media. Back before the age of the internet/social media, the average person knew everybody on their entire block. Nowadays the most interaction people have with their neighbors is simple small talk, and it only got far worse after the pandemic.
Your social and romantic life will definitely take a backseat if you're programmed to only hyperfocus on work/school and nothing else. I know people like that and are lonely virgins well into their mid to late 20s sometimes even past 30 in really bad cases.
Gone are the days where you meet one girl in your 10th grade chemistry class and then you date and are together for 60 years until death. Nowadays, you have to play the numbers game by talking to as many women as possible, going to various events at bars or clubs or going to various social events if you want to get results when it comes to dating.
Overprotective parents hindering social experiences also happens to women too, although less common. I once dated a Jamaican chick who I met on hinge who was sheltered and has very strict parents. She said she never had dating experience because her mom was so strict and only wanted her to focus on school as her mom was very traditional and claimed that "boys were a distraction". That was a huge surprise to me because she was actually pretty. Because we didn't have much chemistry and her overprotective mom got in the way by talking her out of moving things forward with me, things didn't work out and we didn't move forward after the first date.
That's also why girls who were sheltered in high school often become rebellious and very slutty when they go off to college. I've seen it happen numerous times.
The guy in this video does a really good job explaining the incel mindset without too much bias towards either side of the retarded gender war. Childhood trauma changes you and even as an adult, it's really hard to shake the old mindset that you're an unlovable outcast. And that's why a lot of incels self sabatoge so much.
That can happen to anyone, it's not just guys. Incels seem to forget that unattractive women are treated horribly too, the only difference is that they can have any desperate loser hook up with them but people wanting to have sex with you out of desperation/lack of options as opposed to people who actually like you really isn't a flex. Unattractive women have it bad too, just in different ways.
If you're an ugly guy, if you have money, status, or if you're charismatic, people will often overlook your lack of looks. That doesn't usually happen to women....the sad reality is, society ties a woman's value to just her appearance. An ugly woman can have a lot of things going for herself but nobody will care if she's not pleasing to the eyes. That's also probably why there's more ugly guys who are outgoing as opposed to ugly women who are. Most really unattractive women I know are very very socially awkward and have a lot of mental issues.
The only guys that I know that are incels typically have some form of autism. I don't think I've met many neurotypical guys who were incels, even if they were very physically unattractive. But most autistic guys I know are incels. Neurotypical guys who are ugly are usually able to have traits to make up for their lack of looks, which is why they're still able to have an active dating/social life even without looks.
There's a coworker of mine who's an unattractive obese chick, and she's very socially awkward. She can't even carry a conversation without tons of awkward pauses, I can tell she has some form of arrested development likely due to trauma from being bullied as she has a childlike demenor. She even mentioned to me that she had a very horrible high school experience which doesn't surprise me. I also suspect that she's on the spectrum since her social cues seem kind of "off". feel bad for her though, as I can tell she endured a lot of bullying that molded her into the way she is as an adult.
That leads me to my next point, I notice the people who were popular in high school were able to embrace adulthood quickly, they move out, get married, and get their first real job by their mid 20s. While the nerdier kids that got picked on are still living with their parents well into their 30s, don't have a driver's license past a certain age, and lack a lot of other experiences that most people their age should've had. The whole shtick that people who peak in high school usually end up bums is pure cope. People who were popular in high school are more likely to end up successful as adults because their social skills are able to afford them more opportunities. Don't get me wrong, there were kids I know from high school who fell off (ended up having kids with the wrong person, or getting caught up in issues legally), but for the most part, from what I've seen on Instagram, the people who were popular in high school are currently doing a lot better than the outcasts are.
