Hi guys! I'm Raph (23 FTM) going to Japan in September, but really worrying about it! I went to Japan in 2015 (pre transition) with my family, I was just a GNC child and surprisingly tended to pass more then we did at home, but still had to use female restroom. Now I pass most of the time, have facial and body hair, already had top surgery and I'm a couple years into T, but haven't gotten bottom surgery yet (not planning on doing it anytime soon either). I have already talked to my doctor and we've already decided I'm going to take gel T while I'm there, that I'm taking with me, not worried about that.
I'm posting here because I don't want to deal with any transphobia that might come from posting in a japan specific reddit.
I do wear a skirt from time to time. Should I avoid doing that there? I'm not worried about weird looks, I'm a foreigner and I have neon orange hair, I'm already expecting that. I'm worried about having people confronting me for being a man in a skirt in the male bathroom (I do not think going to the female bathroom is an option either) and physical violence (not only when wearing skirts, but in general since I pass most kf the time, but not always). Anyone had any bad experiences with that there?
My documents say I'm male, anyone had any troubles with that being contested?
Should I tell the people I meet? Or is it safer to keep it a secret? I don't talk about it all the time with people I just met, but I don't mind talking about it if it comes in conversation.
I'm planning on staying at a mixed dormitory, but might end up in a male only dorm, could that be a problem?
I've pretty much lost hope to go to a public onsen, tho I would really like to. (I guess my t dick could pass as a really small penis if I have enough bush)
Any suggestions of places to hang out and meet other trans folk? Mtf, ftm or nonbinary is fine, I would just like to meet some similar people while there.
Do people there recognize the trans flag? Would it be dangerous to walk around with pins of it? Or do people just not know what it means?
Any recommendations in general or stories? Any tips?
Thank you for reading and answering
