As many have echoed, I'm sympathetic to a degree and a live and let live type.
There are a few issues that I'm unwilling to budge on, which put me, apparently, completely at odds with their movement.
a) Kids
I obviously think that kids (and the mentally ill) transitioning should not happen. I'm willing to concede on the mentally ill, unfortunately- but for kids, this is a big faux pas for me. Apparently kids being able to pump themselves with drugs is a requirement for not being a TERF, so that's strike 1 for me I guess.
b) Their lack of policing within their own movement or standards.
They dont seem to be able to agree on even what a trans-woman is, and have zero standards. If things were better and they required a medical diagnosis (and the medical system wasn't completely cucked), if trans-women were those who had lived for years as one, if you couldn't just declare yourself a woman before going to prison so you wound up in a woman's prison, if we didn't see men like Chris-chan as woman-
basically if they actually had standards for their own movement, Id be more willing to entertain their requests. Yet, every time you hear about a trans-pedo or trans sex pest, they instantly defend them as legitimate, regardless of the context. This damns their own movement in my eyes. You're only as strong as your weakest denominator, and they choose to legitimize sex pests, gooners, and predators as being deserving of legal protections and able to use 'Im trans' as a shield from criticism- which gets to
c) The legal rights they demand
As a few have echoed, they have more rights than anyone else, Ive seen them shut down female rape centers because they wont accept troons in there, etc. Recently in Portugal, women wanted to create a women only uber app, and troons freaked out because they wanted to exclude them. For obvious reasons, I can't accept this sort of thing
d) Mental issues
At a personal level, pretty much every troon Ive met has been manipulative, deceptive, and super cult like at best. For FtM its a bit different maybe, but not going to get into that. This is commonly stated on the farms though, so all I'd add is that its not just troonery thats the problem.
Its the fact that basically every troon out there almost always has diagnosed and undiagnosed mental illnesses. You give me a troon, and theres almost always BPD, or anti-social personality disorder, manchild syndrome (not real, but I think most know what I mean), etc. You have to even add in legit schizo people into the situation, then overlay that with a cult like social contaigen, entitlement, etc, and these people can't really be argued with. Arguing with a cult is bad enough, but a cult full of schizoid bpd anti-social entitled retards is too much. Maybe your cure for depression and sexual issues isn't hormonal castration, for example- maybe your deep underlying psychological issues should be addressed in another way?
e) Their othering of anyone who disagrees
This builds on my own personal experience, but the moment you bring up one of the above points, its over. Theyll cut you off, friends will come out of the woodworks to scream at you, youre a bad RW bigot no matter how you frame an argument, etc. Ive seen this so many times in so many communities over the years, and when troons are involved, I ignore them at best- and if they are in administrative roles (or TRAs for that matter) I just leave. For such an oppressed group, theyre super quick to take their power and completely other any sort of person who gives them the least bit of criticism
You get to these points, and this is basically why I just have no patience for troons. The same way the crack epidemic destroyed black communities in the 80s, troons did a number on hobby fandoms in the mid 2010s