I think I'm like most people in that, all you have to do is live your life away from me, and we're all good. I don't need to do anything to support your lifestyle if I don't want to, just like it is with literally everyone else on the planet.
Then, suddenly, my Unitarian and otherwise liberal associates started pushing this stuff on social media and I started questioning it, because from the outside, it made no sense.
It was the pronoun thing that really set me off. I was used to codependency, so that whole business absolutely reeked of self-centeredness and narcissism. It was all "pay attention to me. And don't you dare offend me. Because I will absolutely get everyone who's sympathetic to me (and you know how many of them there are) to gang up on you and make you into an outcast."
And then I started digging into the trans business and oh my ever-loving CHRIST did I prove that these people are exactly what I thought they were: power-tripping cry-bullies that found a loophole in society that was all too willing to play into their delusions for the sake of being "tolerant", despite how intolerant it made them towards anyone who thought differently.
It was "trans kids" and "trans athletes" that really put me on the hate train, because for the former, you don't fucking touch kids. You just fucking don't. Even criminals hate people who fuck with kids. And for the latter, it's now a case of, well, if there is a case where trans women should god damn well be excepted from being women, then, they categorically are not women.