finding this subreddit really helped me bc initially i was only coming across super terfy ones that really didn’t align with my views or experience.. i am grateful for my transition these past few years. i do wish things had played out differently for me, but i think what i went through was necessary for me to get to this point where im truly embracing femininity; choosing femininity for myself rather than having it imposed upon me. i dont think transness is ugly, i dont believe i was brainwashed. i never felt pressured or swayed by other queer people. i did what
i thought was right at the time, based on
my feelings. my decisions were my own, and i own them. so many people have found real peace and liberation through their transition, people who found their true selves and will live out their lives that way. just because i had a difference experience doesn’t mean i get to stand in the way of those people’s rights. many of us experience a new wave of dysphoria and regret, and it can be devastating. but it’s not the fault of individual trans people who are pursuing their own path with their identities. it’s not fair to demonize and blame an entire community of people who are just trying to seek comfort the same as you are. all this to say, it hurts my heart to see pain causing more pain, when we all should be listening to and uplifting one another. idk. anyways, i don’t know what these next few months hold for me, and im hurting in a lot of ways. i’m scared to have to “come out” again and have to face ridicule from my family about “being wrong” this whole time. all i can say is that ive only ever been trying to make this body feel like mine, and unfortunately for me that has been a much more complex journey than most people have to go through. im trying to prioritize my own needs and take it a day at a time. i’m glad i have my friends to support me through all of this- including my trans friends who’ve always been there for me, and still are- and im glad to have found this space as well. i hope yall are doing alright



we’re all just trying to figure ourselves out at the end of the day