Denying that we gestate, expel, and nourish our young with our own bodies has left some women feeling somewhat lost as to what our purpose should be. It’s hard to know what you want when you’re told that the things you DO want like a provider, children, a home, and so on are embarrassing and regressive.
This culture has denied the basic nature of women for generations now, but can’t really outrun it: We are mothers. To be a mother is to deny your own needs and desires in service to the larger good, day after day. From intentionally inflicting harm on our own bodies during pregnancy and childbirth to, to breastfeeding our babies, to losing sleep night after night, we are made to override our own needs.
The kind of animal that does this cannot be driven by lofty principles or an unwillingness to yield or compromise. But divorced from the state of motherhood as so many women today are, they still embody the traits and behaviors of mothers. Which, to a man’s eye, might appear duplicitous rather than accommodating. Especially if you are trying to engage in behavior like:
I can still remember the feeling of being on the first date with a woman I almost married. I was making a point to be bluntly transparent about my beliefs, talking about stuff like how I don't date blacks because they have statistically higher rates of STDs, or the threat of armed revolution being necessary to keep a government from oppressing its people, shit that would normally make people uncomfortable to say the least but which I feel strongly about, trying to cut to the chase and figure out where we deviate and whether we were right for each other, and feeling so refreshed and hopeful because she was onboard with everything I said. I felt like I finally found one who gets it.
A “good woman” will still not socialize or communicate like a man. We are different creatures, not failed men.
For your purposes, I would recommend that you look for a woman who is already part of a group or community that is living out your ideals. If she has family ties and a connection to a shared culture that reflects your values, she will be more likely to behave in agreement with those values.
Effective and capable women care more about the day to day than whether it is necessary to arm oneself as an interplay between citizen and government. That’s your concern. Finding a woman willing to establish a division of labor and focus between home and outwardly facing is healthier than expecting to find a wife that will engage in the male behavior of protecting home and hearth.
I don't even know what lesson I'm supposed to take away from that. In my mind the entire point of a first date is to figure out if you share the same goals and desires in life, but if they're just going to blindly agree with you then what's even the point? Do you have to constantly remind them what you believe so they know what to believe, like they're a child with no inherent agency?
See above.
Additionally, we communicate differently than men communicate, be it from biology or socialization. We can be more circumspect, more focused on the shared feeling of an experience rather than whether we accomplish its stated purpose.
Watch any group of young children playing a “girls vs boys” sporting activity. The girls cheer each other on while the boys help each other win. Different priorities, different behaviors, different outcomes.
Look for a woman who already belongs to a group that reflects your beliefs, and hope she's sincere about it and not just conforming to the social pressures around her? It's just demoralizing.
Yes. Join a church. Find a woman with her whole family of origin in her immediate community. Look for one that is embedded in her family life and don’t take her away from that social support. We are communal and will generally defer to the will of the group more readily. A woman with her family nearby and her church and all that is going to be less likely to go off the reservation and troon out your kid.
The hottest women I’ve known seemed to specifically like ugly yet masculine men, because being pretty was their “thing” or something like that, and they figured they had it covered
Pretty fades. A beautiful woman dies twice, so they say. Ability and knowledge are forever. A man who might not be conventionally attractive but has a wide variety of useful skills is more appealing than a pretty boy who has to call roadside assistance for a dead car battery.
This isn’t a value shared by all women but it’s one you should look for in a woman. If she’s fixated on her appearance all the time, she probably isn’t suitable.
Chicks sleep with broke jobless losers all the fucking time. You can be living out of your car and still find someone to bone. If you're attractive and meaty enough, women fly continents to see you. If you're hot enough, they won't give a shit if you're a convicted murderer. If you don't believe me, find a local Hippie Fest. Those faggots live out of fucking tents and always have a harem of girls. Thug niggers are never short of bitches either.
You don’t want those women. Water finds its level. If you observe the men are low value, assume their women are as well.
Getting an education and a good job while seeking to be a fucking house wife being the worst and an all too common one.
This one is easy: we are told the deepest desires we had a little girls are embarrassing and stupid, so we go out and get the education and job that are held as loftier goals. They are unsatisfying and do not fulfill our purpose. A young woman who can honestly state that she wants to get married and raise a family is a good thing to find, because she’s probably not filled up with confusing and conflicting liberal fairytales. Especially if that’s what her mother did. Especially if her parents are still married.
This is all based on my own personal experience. I’m not saying it’s foolproof but it’s what I have learned.
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RE: women being inherently tribal. FUCK yes. I would GLADLY light 1000 Haitian children on fire if it meant my babies could live and be warm. Hell, I would light MYSELF on fire if it meant my babies could be warm and live. It is not for me to be principled and merciful to strangers, that is men’s job to work out. I’ll keep my man’s babies fed and alive and do it red of tooth and claw besides. He can breathe easy as he leaves to go slay the dragons that I won’t let any inside his house while he’s away.
