Ah. But you're missing the full quote:
"Im tired of being misgendered no matter how i dress or act. I just wish i was born cis, either way in all honesty."
This is a
guilty confession, as given away by the fact she had to qualify it with "in all honesty".
Now, you might be thinking –
"surely every trans FTM wishes to have been born male ('born cis')
– isn't that the whole point of transitioning?" Not exactly. Individual trans people can and do think this, and occasionally say it out loud. But the Trans Community™ won't allow them to voice this sentiment too loudly. Why? Because this community makes a point of saying transgender masculinity is just as good as the real thing. This is a necessary pre-requisite to saying "trans men are men". After all, the claim falls apart if you admit that trans men are
almost as masculine as cis men but not quite.
Trans men may not have the height, deep voices, or penises of cis men. Nor do they have the masculine personalities, but most of them think that's toxic anyway. Masculinity, to them, is just a vague archetype. For some people, it means having a male body, but for others it does not. For those who do want to be a man physically, not just mentally, anything they don't have as trans men is seen to be the result of discrimination, not something inherent to being trans.
If only you'd been allowed to transition earlier, then you might have been as tall as your dad! Science may not yet be able to graft a fully functional penis onto a woman--sorry,
AFAB person––
but if the topic had been more thoroughly researched, who knows what might have been possible? This, again, is blamed on discrimination.
Yes, it is transphobes' fault that trans men can't have fully functional penises... if they want to, of course! People who don't transition are Valid™ too, y'know. But also, it is transphobes' fault that non-transitioning trans men aren't seen by society as the manly men that they see themselves to be.
I've met a lot of trans people. This is genuinely how they think.
In the mind of the fully indoctrinated trans man, there is nothing that cis men inherently have that trans men do not, except perhaps that they do not face transphobia. That is why, when wishing to be cis, the trans man must invoke the dreaded transphobia to be at least part of the reason for saying so.
It's like what would happen if a black person said they wish to be White.
If they wanted it for largely eugenic reasons, or out a personal preference for White people's facial features, that nigga would be cast out of da blak communitee for being a racist Uncle Tom. But if a black said they wanted to be White
because of racism nd sheeeit, his fells blax would be like,
'dayyyyyyyum... but I get it fam'.
The black and trans communities have both independently deluded their members into thinking they are just as good as the people in their respective out-groups, in every conceivable way, even if they have to make up weird excuses for it. Because individuals wanting what the out-group has is likely to weaken their ties to the community over time. So they express that desire in the only way that strengthens ties to the community - by affirming the narrative that they are Oppressed™ by the majority. What's most surprising of all is that it's not even that surprising. Every "oppressed" group that forms a cohesive identity eventually does this.
