Using the term Gray hat to reffer to himself is like trying to have his cake and eat it too. A nebulous term where you basically admit to breaking the law but you also report it sometimes, sometimes not, even though you had no business exploiting vulnerabilities in the first place. For example if you're working for a company you are a white hat as you detect a vulnerability then make a full report and fix it, black hats might not work for the company, or do, but maliciously use it. Grey hat is doing a little bit of both, which is a ying-yang type of deal where in some cases you might break the law and exploit vulnerabilities just a little bit for personal gain/pleasure, but other times might report it for a fee or as a sort of "yeah I hacked in here but I reported it and you can sue me but why not hire me instead?"
Grey/white/black hat is basically IT astrology and/or philosophy.

As you can see in the case of goatsee security, the security flaw was reported but the leader of the organization Weev was arrested due to affiliations with neo-nazi ideology and the daily stormer.

In this case the hacker violated FBs white hat policy by altering Mark Zuckerbergs account, but was not prosecuted due to reporting the problem, not compensated due to violated policy.
So
@spy.pet, by his own definition, is a grey hat. Because despite having so many archives for so long, it was not proven to be used maliciously and the court settled to shut down the site. No addition to the criminal record or financial penalties, since by now the feds would have put
@spy.pet in prison after looking into visitors and buyers. It was a wake up call that having public discords means you have no reasonable expectation of privacy.
Due to the discords being public, discord settled with spy.pet by agreeing to shut down the site in exchange to not sue spy.pet into oblivion. So the site would stay up legally, if spy.pet didn't charge you a trivial fee in bitcoin. Spy.pet would never reach this court settlement if he didn't share the website on KF with the intent of exposing predators, but broke discord TOS and by extent the law. On the clear web.
So, according to Thors narrative, spy.pet was a black hat hacker with billions trillions gazzilions of messages with the express purpose of DESTROYING and FRAMING the LQBTQ community and helping the chuds of KF. This is the narrative of the mainstream to this day. Despite spy.pet, likely, being a part of the LGBTQ community themselves. Which would imply that a neo-nazi who made the thread, me (in his eyes), knowingly interacted with a homosexual, and numerous other homosexuals on the site, even without being homosexual myself,
despite Nazis hating homosexuals and killing and imprisoning them in WW2. Which would mean, I am in fact, not a Nazi. And he, in fact, covered up the underbelly of his own community he fosters, and undercut a fellow grey hat hacker.
He is a fucking joke.